Married man at 46, decides hes Gay??

United States
February 9, 2007 2:21pm CST
I know a couple that has been together, raised their children and went through quite a few anniversaries. Once all of their children went off to college he decides to admit to his wife that he is really gay and that he needs a divorce. Gay pride is alot more popular and acceptable than it was when our parents, 'the baby boomers' were getting married. Now that all the kids have grown up are more married men going to 'out themselves' to their wives & family??
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@misskatonic (3727)
• United States
9 Feb 07
I think we will see more people able to admit to their families the truth. It's damn hard to live a closeted life, but so many men and women do it. They're pushed to by the prejudices of society. And while prejudice still exists, it is on the downswing. I know there are people who will disagree with me, but it's true. The newer generations are less concerned about what's going on in people's bedrooms. I hope that more of these people who have been leading closeted lives are able to come out, and that less and less people will seek closeted lives as an alternative to being who they are.
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• United States
9 Feb 07
I just feel bad for the wives! Could you imagine being married with a man, growing 20 years older with him and basing your life around eachothers happiness... and then "BOOM"... vice versa with the genders... it would definatley be a blow to the husband if it happend to him as well and his wife was gay.
@karsted (240)
• Canada
9 Feb 07
Wow. I really don't know what to say about this one, except that I would be pretty darm upset if my man said he way gay AFTER all those years, and having children and everything. I would feel so betrayed. That would be so painful, not just for me, but the kids as well. I think it is extremely unfair to do something like that to someone else. It turns the whole relationship into one big fat lie. As the wife, I would wonder...was this guy having gay affairs during the marriage? If so, am I in any danger, because of his recklessness? I dont have any problems with someone being gay, but I have problems with people who can lie like that. That guy is lucky I am not his wife. I think it is terrible, what he has done to her. And his kids. Is he really gay, or is he just immature and a little kinky. I just dont know. I hope my post doesn't offend you, you said this person was a friend of yours. But if something like that happened to me, I think I would react kinda badly.
• United States
9 Feb 07
I think it was a big blow to everyone. It was my friends parents. I don't really have respect for people that come from broken marriages, I think people need to take more responsibility in their lives.
• United States
10 Feb 07
I've heard of this too. I think its quite discusting. How selfish of that man. I think its just a stupid excuse to get out of the mairage or he's having a midlife crisis. You don't all of a sudden wake up one morning after 40 some years and decide you are gay. It just shows you that gay is a choice and not necessarily mean some one is born that way.
@whitefox (1347)
• Italy
9 Feb 07
I think that this person had to find before the courage to admit to his family which was gay because doing so has deceived his wife and has deceived even himself