"Can't you just get it fixed?"

By Leca
@lecanis (16739)
Murfreesboro, Tennessee
February 9, 2007 6:58pm CST
Today this phrase went into my list of all-time stupidest things someone has said to me. It came out of the mouth of a coworker that I'm actually very fond of, which almost made it annoy me more. The situation was this: I almost fell down at work. I caught myself on a chair with wheels on it, which is never all that intelligent. I did manage not to hit the floor, but it was a close thing. Afterwards, my coworkers were all asking me questions about my health. I realize they were doing so out of concern, but the "Can't you just get it fixed" thing really got me. No, I can't just get it fixed. I have a condition that is not curable. I will always be this way, to some extent or other. I can't just not work, and I shouldn't have to explain the whole situation to the same people every single day. Okay, so I'm ranting a little here. But I'm sure I'm not the only person who gets tired of constantly explaining themselves because of illness or disability.
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• United States
11 Feb 07
I have a learning disability, dyslexia, that wasn't diagnosed until I entered college so I can totally relate. I struggle daily just to be able to communicate in a written form or reading and even math. I get so tired of people saying to me can't you just memorize how to spell that word or can't they just teach you how to read better or do math better. No and No and NO! It's not that simple and it can't be fixed. But I try to make the best of it and I do okay. :) Thanks for letting me vent a bit...lol
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@lecanis (16739)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
11 Feb 07
That must be so annoying for you! I think a lot of people don't understand dyslexia as a whole. I've known several people who were dyslexic, and overall people just tend to treat them either like they're stupid or like they're just making it up. *shakes her head* Sounds like you have a pretty good attitude about it overall. No problem about the venting! =)
• United States
27 Feb 07
I read that some very famous creative and talented people have that problem and have done very well. Can't think of that one man's name--he wrote so many TV programs, including "Murder, she wrote" and many others. And I met a man online who writes beautiful poetry who has dyslexia. Sometimes he will not understand something written and will either ask or have a friend read it to him but overall he does a terrific job. My grandson has a problem with reading too; the school first thought it was dyslexia but after testing him, they said that there was clearly a problem but they couldn't really define it. They think it's hereditary because his father and grandfather both have the same thing. My grandson was lucky to have teachers and parents who really cared and worked with him so now he reads pretty well. He has to really concentrate and can never just glance at something to read it, but he does ok. It's still frustrating though, he is almost a genius in other things. He can diagnose and repair any kind of engine--whether it's a gasoline one like cars and lawn mowers or electrical like a fan or some kind of commercial engine used by factories or even farmers. That's the kind of work he's doing right now and he has to be able to write down what's wrong with the engine and order parts, in some cases and sometimes read schematics and blueprints and then fix whatever is wrong. He is doing great but we know how he struggled. So congratulations to you for not giving up!
@judyt00 (3504)
• Canada
10 Feb 07
yes, I can no longer do the job I love because I get dizzy spells and now must work retail where noone but me will get hurt if I do take a dizzy spell and fall. Yet people constantly ask Why don't I get some kind of meds. How stupid, if there were meds, I'd be taking them. I know how you feel!
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@lecanis (16739)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
10 Feb 07
Sorry to hear that you can no longer do the job you love! Eh, that question drives me crazy as well. I realize that modern medicine has been able to cure at least treat a lot illnesses, and that's wonderful. But not everything is known about the human body yet, and there are some things we just have to learn still. There are tons of conditions out there that doctors are still just learning about, and doing whatever they can for their patients in the meantime. You can't just pop a pill and make everything go away!
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@emeraldisle (13158)
• United States
10 Feb 07
Don't you with there was an easy button for our health? Wouldn't that make things so much easier. It would be nice but until then we will have to deal with the insensitive people who come into our lives and don't realize that not everything can be fixed with a magick pill. Some things are just a part of our lives whether we like it or not and there is no easy fix. If there was we'd have used it already. No these people will never understand, not until they have to deal with something that is permenant. Until they can experience something similar they cannot comprehend. To them illnesses, injuries and similar are minor inconvienences; they are not life altering or something that could interfer with their lives.
@lecanis (16739)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
10 Feb 07
Thanks for replying! Yeah, I suppose it must be hard for people who aren't in the situation of having an ongoing health problem to understand. I'm probably being too hard on them. It's just strange to me because I've always had health problems, so I guess I don't really understand what it's like to be healthy.