I always buy something for my toddler everytime we are at the store

United States
February 9, 2007 10:01pm CST
I know this is not a good habit but it seems am always buying stuff for my toddler whenever we are at the store. A coloring book, crayons, stickers, etc...big or small stuff, she will always have something. My husband told me that am spoiling her and she will always expect that we will be buying something for her everytime we go to the store. Do you do the same way with your children? I always think...a little amount doesn't matter as long as it brought happiness to her or she will be entertained with it and gives me peace for a little while.
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@cherhost (1073)
• United States
12 Feb 07
Yes I do it all the time. I am the worst at it. I try not to do it but it is pretty hard. when she grabs something and the looks at me with her big blues eyes and say please...
• United States
12 Feb 07
The "please Mommy" also gets me all the time..lol. Thanks for the response.
@SageMother (2277)
• United States
10 Feb 07
If buying her something at the store keeps her behavior in check, you need to stop taking her to the store. YOur husband is right about her getting spoiled. It will make your life a living hell in a few years as she developes expectations about getting what she wants.
• United States
10 Feb 07
Thanks for the response. She is not that bad at the store and will understand if I tell her we don't have money for it. But reading all the responses now, I just realized that I should double check what am doing. Yes, she will get spoiled by me (not by my husband) but I think it is because when I was growing up, I longingly look at this things at the store, never told my mother because am afraid she will tell me no. Anyways, that is another issue on me...lol. I appreciate your response. Thanks again.
• Canada
10 Feb 07
you might have some problems later on. your toddler might start expecting stuff and won't appreciate anything anymore and could start taking fits in the store. i don't think it's a good habbit to get into personally but it's your life and your choice. if you want to keep doing it then you'll have to just teach your child how to appreciate everything they have.
• United States
10 Feb 07
Thanks for the response. Am gonna do the hard work and reward early as suggested by one of the responses. Plus, I think I need to stop the buying because my husband buys her stuff if she deserves it, but this is our first child that I always think we can afford this little things I do. I need my head re examined..lol.
@ssh123 (31103)
• India
10 Feb 07
It is a good thing to do, because child likes different things to play and learn new things from it. We did the same thing for our 1st child. But then the habit developed into such a complication, when the child started talking, use to ask for new things each time we go to a store. Or would ask us to buy a new thing when my wife goes for shopping. If the habit is allowed to continue, more complications come in future. My son today practically inserts one item of his choice in the shopping list. Later on we converted this on hardwork and reward. He completes the hard work and waits for the reward. That is also expensive activity. Secondly the number of items purchased for the child becomes so much, it is seen thrown everywhere in the house.
• United States
10 Feb 07
You are right on that. My toddler got so many coloring books that it is all over the house and she is not even using them. I will do your suggestion though, am gonna let her work for it. Better start early. Thanks for your response.
@itsjustmeb (1213)
• Canada
10 Feb 07
Yup I do this too, for all of my kids..usually like a small toy or a candy...this way they don;t fight when we are out...
• United States
10 Feb 07
I know...candy always works for me too especially getting her out of the store and into her car seat. If I don't have anything, there will be a little bit of struggle...lol. Thanks for the response.
@filchi (291)
• Netherlands
12 Feb 07
I do, but i also try not to. Because i know that she has to work something good first before she can get what she wants to have or wish. When she return her toys or share with her sister, i gave her a marble, then this marbles represents some wishes she can have.Like you can set like 5 or 10 marbles and put it in a jar.Same with her sister. Its not the money that matters here, but she has to learn to gain something and work for it. Although as a mother i understand you :-)