Do you live with your partner?

Singapore
February 10, 2007 1:07am CST
Staying together alone or with parents? How do you handle building a new home together and paying the bills? The DOs and DONTs. Please feel free to share!
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@lauriefnp (5112)
• United States
10 Feb 07
I have never lived with a boyfriend, believe it or not! I have had serious relationships, but I have personal issues for not doing so. He stays several nights/week, but he has his own place also. I just have never been to the point where I could trust anyone enough for that; I've come a long way, but I'm not there yet. I've worked too hard to buy my house and everything in it, and I am just afraid of losing it because of poor judgement. How long have you and your partner been together? It's a shame if the laws there prevent you from living together and making a home together- a place of your own! It would be a lot of adjustment, I'm sure. Just having someone here several days/week is an adjustment. You have to learn to "pick your battles" and let the small things go. Bills are always an issue with any couple, and I would say that these are things that you should discuss at length before you make any decisions. Like any couple, one of the major causes for arguments and breakups is over financial issues. I would want to be sure that we agreed on financial matters before the mortgage papers were signed! Good luck!
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• Singapore
10 Feb 07
Well he is staying with me.. at my parent's place. the way things work in asia is a little different from you guys in terms of culture. The only thing I can do now is to rent a place somewhere..
@olaff123 (434)
• Namibia
10 Feb 07
A joint account will only work when the two partners share the same financial values and work towards the same goal financially. It is quite a shock when you realize that your partner lacks financial responsibility. Household chores can also become a minefield. If one partner is neat and the other one is not, there will be resentment. Living together is difficult and you will have to negotiate on many terms. My partner is a smoker, and I refused to have him smoking inside of the house. So, to compensate, I don't complain too much about about the fact that he doesn't clean up after himself.
• Singapore
10 Feb 07
well im glad to say that we dont have the issues listed here. i can get quite picky but my bf knows what im picky over. my dream of our own place. a place we can call our own.. gawd i REALLY hate the bloody laws we have here...
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@lauriefnp (5112)
• United States
10 Feb 07
When you mention the laws, what are you referring to? Are you and your partner unable to purchase a home together? Is it that they won't give a mortgage in both names? Here that is not problem.
• Singapore
10 Feb 07
hey, good morning to you! nearly midnight here now.. :P In Singapore if you are single, ie not married, you must be at least 35 years old before you can purchase an apartment. Unless you go for landed property.. which I can tell u.. costs a hell lot..