When you feel depressed, would you call someone to talk about it?

@hopeful28 (1439)
Singapore
February 10, 2007 8:26am CST
For me, it depends on the level of depression or what triggered it. Sometimes I feel that no one can understand my problem or may misunderstand then I don't. But if it is something which I need advice on, I probably would - a close friend only. What would you do?
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@lauriefnp (5112)
• United States
10 Feb 07
It depends on the situation. sometimes you feel down and depressed for no particular reason and you just feel better spending time alone and know that you'll get over it soon. If I had a problem or a situation that I needed to talk over with someone or needed advice about, I would call one of my close friends or even a family member, depending on the situation. I generally try to just work through my problems and my moods myself, but I would definitely reach out for help if I needed it. That's what friends are for.
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@hopeful28 (1439)
• Singapore
10 Feb 07
I am glad you have friends and family to rally around you when you need help. Good for you. I wish everyone else who is depressed can say that. It's such a blessing.
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@ronita34 (3923)
• Canada
15 Feb 07
I am also alot like lauriefnp as well i tend to do my best to first try to work through my problems myself. If i can not succeed this way i usually reach out for my moms help first. There is just something about my Mother that is always that much more reassuring as i am sure most feel about their mothers also!
@Jshean20 (14367)
• Canada
15 Feb 07
Well I'm a person who has suffered from depression on and off for 6 years, in the beginning I would reach out to other people for help but realized in the end that it wasn't working for me because no one really understood. I've found that it's best to talk to other people who are feeling depressed or who suffer from the illness, as it's always more therapeutic to talk with someone who can relate. It might sound strange but there are actually discussion forums and chatrooms online specified for people going through depression, at times I've found it to be benefitial to visit there.
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@hopeful28 (1439)
• Singapore
15 Feb 07
I'm glad you found those discussion forums and online chatrooms beneficial - it is always comforting when someone can relate to what we are going through. All the best to you.
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@stateroad (730)
• United States
10 Feb 07
When I am depressed I keep to myself. I feel others would not understand and simply just think I am complaining. Depression is hard because unless someone is going through it I do not think they can understand. If I get real depressed where I want to harm myself then I will call someone and ask for help.
@hopeful28 (1439)
• Singapore
11 Feb 07
When I am depressed, I do feel at times that no one can understand because a lot of factors may be involved, and sometimes to share would mean revealing things about people which I feel may hurt that person. So, it makes things difficult.
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
10 Feb 07
For me I tend to keep it to myself alot and sometimes I get to a point and I just cry and then I feel alot better things. So letting things out is always good.
@hopeful28 (1439)
• Singapore
10 Feb 07
I don't know whether there's something wrong but I feel like I can't cry any more. My counsellor told me recently to face whatever is bothering me alot and just have a good cry. I tried it, but my heart feels like stone.
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@crickethear (1420)
• United States
15 Feb 07
Unfortunately not. When I get depressed, I want to isolate myself. It is like I become imbolized by it. It is terrible to have that kind of depression, because it literally is such unbelievable physical and emotional pain.
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13 Feb 07
Yes i do that all the time but some times is what i do i go to my thypist too and i tell her everything too, or my doc who prescibes my meds too about what happens and all.But yeah they say when depression hurts you and it does hurt everyone too.
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• United States
12 Feb 07
I'm the same way, it really depends on the situation. Soemtimes I bottle things up. Other times I'll call my mom or a close friend-- especially if I need advice.
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@dan20071 (724)
• Romania
10 Feb 07
When I feel depressed I try to go someplace where I feel comfortable and in witch I know I won't be interrupted. There I would just stay put and get my thoughts right, and think about what made me depressed. That would make me feel better in a short time, especially if that special place is somewhere out in the nature
• United States
20 Feb 07
I don't have anyone to call about anything. My ex said we could be best friends but most of the time he's not available or he doesn't say much when I open up so I just prefer to deal with it myself.
@hopeful28 (1439)
• Singapore
20 Feb 07
I'm sorry that you feel you don't have anyone you can talk to when you are down. It's very disappointing isn't it when you call someone and they don't show much interest or concern for you.
@happymommy3 (2013)
• United States
19 Feb 07
For me it really depends on how serious my depression is or what I'm depressed about. I don't really like alot of people to know about the bad things, especially family, since alot of them gossip and blow everything out of proportion. I rarely get depressed but if I am really sad I will talk to my husband and he's usually the one that makes me feel so much better. There have been times when I've called one of my best friends out of the state and talked to her. It does help just to vent to someone once in a while. Even if they don't say anything back, just for someone to listen even helps.
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@hopeful28 (1439)
• Singapore
19 Feb 07
I am glad that you have a husband who is such a good friend as well. If I ever get married, I hope I will get one who will be my best friend whom I can tell everything under the sun to without being condemned or criticised.
@rainbow (6763)
11 Feb 07
I usually just have a whinge on mylot, that way people who care can talk to me and choose whether to avoid the subject or not. I find people here are honest and supportive.
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@hopeful28 (1439)
• Singapore
12 Feb 07
You are right about this. At times, I do feel better after reading all the responses to my discussions on things that trouble me. Good point.
@cassidy22 (2975)
• United States
11 Feb 07
Yes, of course, I am lucky to have wonderful friends and a husband who are willing to listen. I have also gone to see a therapist on a few occasions just to make sure I am not clinically depressed or suffering from some other mental illness that causes me to feel down. Depression is something NO ONE has to live with. Of course we all have our ups and downs, but if it lasts for more than a week, it's something consider getting checked out.
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@hopeful28 (1439)
• Singapore
12 Feb 07
Thank you, I believe this is good advice. If anybody is feeling depressed and it doesn't seem to go away after a week or two should seek professional help. Or, at least a GP to ask advice first and discuss your symptoms with him/her.
• India
11 Feb 07
I have been undergoing depression myself for many years now and it still continues.I try to keep it in control but sometimes little things(which may seem small to others) trigger it. Sometimes there are bigger issues. As much as possible I try to handle it on my own but when it gets out of hand and i find myself miserable then i definately seek someone i could talk to. It could be my sister who stays in another town or a close friend .Sometimes even pouring your heart out to a stranger ,a sympathetic listener on the net can help to some extent.
@hopeful28 (1439)
• Singapore
11 Feb 07
I hope this site will be a help to you when you need to share. I am sure there are alot of people here who will be willing to listen and share with you as well. Hang in there and get comfortable here ok - I see that you are new. Hope you settle in soon.
@kathy77 (7488)
• Australia
10 Feb 07
When I am feeling depressed I do call my best friend and she also calls me when she is feeling like this as well. We do understand each other very well as we have been friends for the last 30 years. This is how our friendship has lasted so long and in good times and bad we are there for each other.
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@hopeful28 (1439)
• Singapore
11 Feb 07
It is so good to have such a friend, especially one that has been with you for so long. You are blessed.
• United States
10 Feb 07
like you and the others said, it depends on the circumstances. sometimes you just need to be alone and do for yourself to come out of it, and other times it helps to talk to a close friend, family member, or counselor. a lot of times, friends get tired of hearing about it, cuz they don't understand it isn't that easily taken care of. just don't isolate yourself too much and try to remember your not alone, lots of us out here dealing with the same stuff or very similar as you. hugs....
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@hopeful28 (1439)
• Singapore
11 Feb 07
Thanks for the hug and your input - it's been a long time since I've felt any loving arms around me.
@Supraja (24)
• India
20 Feb 07
I would never tell anyone but simply pray and fight with cruel god for putting me in that situation.I wont wallow in it,however.It's a waste of time.Maybe I will call up my parents and speak to them.
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@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
19 Feb 07
No when I am depressed I draw into myself and I don't want to talk to anyone about it. I don't want to talk full stop and that is even here on the Internet. My Friends on here always know when something is up and they wait till I am ready to talk. But it doesn't matter what it is I just need to be left alone and I will snap out of it.
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@ronita34 (3923)
• Canada
15 Feb 07
Well, I am the type of person that has worked hard on trying not to let things bug me as i always used to. I do this quite well now when i have a problem depending on just how extreme i usually talk to my mom or one of my few very close friends. I have alot of friends but only soo many that i know that i can trust! I usually just sleep on it though and by the next day i usually put it in the past and move on!! God Bless!
@ninetails (154)
• Philippines
12 Feb 07
Definitely!! If I do have a problem that is bothering me a lot I talk to my wife about it or to my buddies. Well back in the days when I was a teen I would get to some troubles and my friends would always lend me their support and listen to my problems. It helps a lot when you tell someone things that have been bothering you it eases up things. Also why don't tell them to your parents like me I tell most of my problems to my mom and since she has many experiences in life and old people are much wiser it helps a lot that they give you some helpful advice.
@smille (831)
• India
12 Feb 07
yea i too most of the times would not talk with any body about my problems, cos i fear it might damage ur loved persons' image, so i just let the time pass....for other conditions too, time is the best solution,
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