wats the secret of succesful relationship

@schummi (925)
India
February 10, 2007 9:26am CST
what is it that makes a relationship succesful.i donno why but i strongly feel that it has nothing to do with how many years you have been together but by the thing how much youmiss the person when you are away from him/her for just some mins.no matter how far you have been you will feel that adrenaline and electricity run through you when you just see them or just hear their voice. the other person may or may not feel about you this way but its your relationship and when its love then you will be able to make them as crazy as you are .and i/f you are succesful in doing so then i think you are almost done
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60 responses
• United States
10 Feb 07
Talking. Relationships where you don't talk are usually not as strong as ones where you do talk. I don't just mean talk about your day or talk about the weather, I mean talk about important things. Talk about all the "what if" situations that could come. Tell stories and jokes to eachother. When you first start dating someone you can talk to them for hours...that shouldn't stop! My husband and I make it a point to talk to eachother about our days, our dreams (literally and figuratively), news issues, problems we or our friends are having...just whatever comes up, we talk and we talk a lot.
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@resasour (378)
• United States
11 Feb 07
I completely agree with you. But you also have to have respect for each other too. You have to really be able to accept each other for who you are and not try to change each other. But open and honest and regular communication is the key that is true.
• United States
11 Feb 07
I'm not sure there's an actual secret to keeping a successful relationship. But this is what works for my fiance and I. We feel that a successful relationship is like a recipe. But it's different for everyone. Here is our recipe: A Successful Relationship: 1 pt Trust 1 pt Communication 1 pt Hope 1 pt Passion 1 pt Compassion 1 pt Understanding 1/2 pt Fighting We think that fighting is normal in a relationship. Just as long as it's not a lot. A couple that doesn't have any arguements.. that's just weird. Anyway. That's our recipe for success. We live life with trust and honesty and hope and even a few fights. And it seems to work for us!
• Philippines
11 Feb 07
yes i agree that but not all the time. if sometimes fighting we express our true feeling and can accept each weaknesses.Both pary can adjust the traits of each other. Meantime they can talk what is right and what is wrong..
@Celanith (2334)
• United States
11 Feb 07
Speaking from 37 years of married experince. It is staying friends, being one another's best friend, communication is very key to keeping a strong successful relationship, Compromise is another and great Compassion and forgiveness. Trust and honesty are others. Sharing things you both enjoy but allowing one another the freedom to have interests outside your own as well. Do not try and change one another but accept them for who and what they are. Allow however for growth and change as they choose and learn. Do not keep secrets NOT any secrets not even ones other friends tell you. Your spouse should share in all things but you should be able to trust them whatever secret your keeping for someone else will not go past that person and you and your spouse. Go to church or share the same faith if at all possible, if not be tolerant and giving, not condemning and grudging. If you have children support and back one another up in discipline, be consistant and never let the child try and pit you against one another. Never allow outsiders to come between you and especially not relatives or well meaning friends who think they know what is best for you. Discuss and agree on spending and do not overspend beyond what you really need and can afford. Is it a want or a need. Make do or do with out. Keep Jesus in your marriage and life, pray togather daily.
@Celanith (2334)
• United States
11 Feb 07
I forgot to add, make time to have fun, relax, play and laugh, to watch a sunset, enjoy a waterfall, gather wildflowers, feed the ducks. Give a back rub or foot massage. Say I love you daily, 3-4-8 times a day and mean it. Send little notes, call one another, bring home small gifts, a rose or other flower, card, it need not be expensive just thoughtful.
• Singapore
9 Mar 07
A Successful relationship not only means that of between a boyfriend and girlfriend, but i guess it encompasses even more, like husband and wife, children and parents, etc... I always and strongly believes that it requires both parties to make this work. A clap needs both hands, hence no man is an island himself. Its two way communications, both parties needs to sit down and talk and let that communication flow and not just a one party effort thing. Next, don't bury those issues under the blanket. Bring out those issues and lets settle that once and for all. Don't procrastinate it, resolve those issues between one another and this paves the way to better communication in settling those disputes or problems. All said, its not easy, but one has to take some effort to want to make things right, and its the only solution.
• Nigeria
11 Feb 07
well i think it boils down to trust and integrity in a relationship. I have also found out that the best person you should go out with is a friend that you have known over the years.
@erique (466)
• Indonesia
11 Feb 07
i think the most important part of a relationship is the two side must been open minded and open heart each others, being honest is wise. Because no one wanna make relation with a lyar, so just be honest to your self, her/him.
• Singapore
11 Feb 07
I believe it all depend on trust in each other that can keep the relationship going on. If there is no trust the relationship will be like glass which is so fragile and cannot withstand a blow.
• India
11 Feb 07
mutual understanding is the highest secret to achieve , among relationships.. you should cooperate to your partner on the relationship..
• India
11 Feb 07
ya u r correct my frnd..... coz i am also in love...... i miss my lover each and every seconds........... but when i see him again after that..... i feel somthin like an electric shock myself..... when i hear his voice......i feel really happy..........
• France
11 Feb 07
well relationship needs understanding, it depends how much u understand ur partner, or each other. if u trust n believe ur partner or each other, its going to be rocking relationship. u can never have successful relationship on the base of lie,n with out clear understanding. if u r feel ur partners feeling inside u then it means u have a rocking life with ur partner else u need to improve your relationship.
@mizmar (21)
• Pakistan
11 Feb 07
just b sincere wth ur partner
@dhigambaram (1133)
• India
11 Feb 07
Well i believe that all relation is waste if thr is no trust/belive then thr is relationship ....that dent means how many years u nd ur partner stay with u ... when trust breaks every relationship break so be carefull ....
• Philippines
11 Feb 07
a successful relationship requires love, trust, patience and understanding and devotion..
• Philippines
11 Feb 07
Trust is the main factor that relationship will be successful, then followed by honest and love. if the both party trust one another the foundation of their relationship will be strong...
@haze06 (241)
• Philippines
11 Feb 07
1) Love yourself. Unless you love yourself, it's hard for you to believe that anyone else will. 2) Like your partner. Healthy relationships happen between two people who really like each other It may be more romantic to talk about love, but it's important to remember that love is an emotion that comes and goes. 3) Make quality time. The importance of things can be measured by the amount of time we're willing to give them. When a couple first gets together, they instinctively prioritize their relationship. But as time goes by and life gets busier with work and children, time together often slips down the rest of priorities. 4) COMMUNICATE. Good communication is essential for a healthy relationship. It's the only way you can tell your partner who you are, what you want and why you behave the way you do. Talking is the way we let each other into our private worlds.
• India
11 Feb 07
Treat him or her as a partner or mate, and Change yourself for your partner, do something with your hands for parner then automatically love,trust will follw and will make relations successful.
@babyjane (1395)
• Philippines
11 Feb 07
Trust, love, and respect is enough to make once relationship successful. Just be at yourself guys and don't pretend. Say what you feel.
@nat_zero (17)
• Malaysia
11 Feb 07
successful relationship could be that both party don't mind to sacrifice to keep the relationship strong and going on. it could be that the guy doesn't mind to keep waiting for the girl eventhough the girl might have done something bad behind him. yet, everytime when she comes back to him, he would forgive her. his love for him could not be measured and he doesn't care if the girl would love him back or the same way he loves her. if u also don't mind to love a person till this extreme, i believe somedays, u would get another person who love u the same way too.
• India
11 Feb 07
just some mins.no matter how far you have been you will feel that adrenaline and electricity run through you when you just see them or just hear their voice. the other person may or may not feel about you this way but its your relationship and when its love then you will be able to make them as
• India
11 Feb 07
in my view love is the only secret of any sucess of any relationship.