Do you and your significant other have similar personalities?

United States
February 10, 2007 10:51am CST
My wife and I are opposites, just like the old saying "Opposites attract!" How about you and your spouse? I am laid back and carefree, while my wife is higher sprung and loud :D She loves crazy roller coasters, and I can barely get on an old wooden one! I love football, she hates it! I love to read, she likes reality TV instead. These could go on and on, but we love each other so much for some reason, despite all these differences. What about your relationships?
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• United States
11 Feb 07
My husband and I seem to be opposite in everything. But, there are times when we agree completely. When choosing an item for the house he will choose something and bring it to me for my opinion. When I tell him no way he returns a few minutes later with the exact same item that I had been looking at.
• United States
11 Feb 07
That is a good one. Sounds like something we would do to each other, as we love to pick on each other.
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• United States
11 Feb 07
That is funny...because that sometimes happens with me and my hubby (sort of)...he will pick out something that I absolutely abhor, and then, in the end we end up getting what I prefer, and then later on, it was "really" what he wanted all along. ;)
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• Philippines
11 Feb 07
Hi!!my boyfriend and I have been together now for 2 years and we just celebrated our 2nd year aniversary last february 5. YES! my boyfriend and i have similar personalities although i believe that no two people are the same. I like watching medical series like "Grey's Anatomy" and "Dr. House" while he likes to watch football/soccer. But when he began to watch those series with me, he began to like it too!And when I began to watch soccer during the 2006 World Cup in Germany, I began to like it too!We love reading books and watching animal planet too But there also things that we dont get along such as food becuase i like fast food while my hubby likes chinese food. I believe that even though we have things that we dont get along, those are the things that make our relationship unique in every way.
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• United States
11 Feb 07
That is good that you watch what each other likes. I will say my wife started to turn around at the end of NFL football season this year and I got to watch a little more. I watch her girlie movies with her all the time, like on the lovely lifetime channel :D So I feel she can watch football every now and then.
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• United States
11 Feb 07
My husband is calm and likes to spend money. I'm tight with money, a complete control freak, and I worry about anything and everything. Luckily we understand there are times to agree to disagree.
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• United States
11 Feb 07
Sometimes agreeing to disagree is the best way to go...
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@venshida (4836)
• United States
11 Feb 07
Opposites do attact, my last relationship my sweetie did not enjoy going to the movies I like going to the movies. He prefers to stay home with a video all the time. I love football also, and he no longer likes the game so I watch it and he does not. I could go on and on about our differences, but I won't bore you guys on Mylot.
• United States
11 Feb 07
In general, my husband and I are very similar, but there are things that we differ totally on. I think that it balances out our relationship, well at least, I hope so. I believe that friendship, trust, faith, and love, will really make a relationship last. As long as we are committed to each other, and not let trivial things get in the way, or our differences, then we should do OK.
• United States
11 Feb 07
That is right! As long as you have a strong relationship, differences don't matter. I think it is good to have some difference, as variety is the spice of life :D
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@mishang (498)
• Philippines
11 Feb 07
my partner and i have more opposte personalities as compared with similar ones. at first i thought that we we're very similar that's why we had the relationship but knowing my guy deeper, i get to discover that we are very different but still are compatible wioth one another. he's a very sociable guy while i'm a very private lass. he's approachable i'm not. i'm strong willed, and he's emotionally affected with decisions. at some point, i'm very amazed that how different i've discovered i am from him, we still are so in love with each other and i think that that's what's important in the relationship.
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• United States
12 Feb 07
Being in love is the greatest thing you can ask for, different or not!
• Canada
11 Feb 07
My husband and i are the male and female versions of each other. we are alot alike in so many ways it would take me an hour to list them all.lol Our relationship is wonderful though.
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• United States
11 Feb 07
Congrats on a great relationship!
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
11 Feb 07
well we are really opposite but have similarities too like we are funloving and wants to spend time just watching TV, or walking around...
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@limosonia1 (1559)
• United States
11 Feb 07
I husband and I are very opposite. Like he is a morning person and I love to sleep in. He's the more fexible parent and I am the worrier about everything. But we love each other and I think it balances us out for the most part.
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@sweetlady10 (3611)
• United States
11 Feb 07
Me and my husband we both have some difference in our views and in our likes and dislikes, but it's not like "Opposite attracts". Actually we have lots of similarities between us. But we always have a disagreement in ppicking up a movie to watch. My husband like to watch action and horror movies and I like to watch drama and romantic movies.
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@ginny36 (266)
• United States
10 Feb 07
My boyfriend and I have a mix of similarities and differences that work for us. He's a morning person and I'm more of a night owl. He's learned not to expect me to be too chatty before two cups of coffee and I've learned not to be offended if he dozes off while we're watching a movie together at night. He loves to work with his hands and I'm more of an idea and word person. That means he can fix what gets broken around the house and I can deal with the finances and any correspondence we need written. We both love football, and comedies and scary movies, and a laughter filled evening at the pub. We like working in the yard and decorating the house, and our tastes are pretty similar. We both like playing online, me on writing sites and him on online games. We're both emotional people who are very affectionate and need reassurance and "I love yous." We're both the types who love to touch and hug. I like to read and he doesn't. He likes to cook and I don't. All in all, we've got a good combination of similarities and differences.
• United States
10 Feb 07
Sounds good. I know my wife and I have many things we share as well, but we do have plenty that are opposite. It is just fun to see how some couples are really different while others aren't :D
@nicolec (2671)
• United States
10 Feb 07
My boyfriend and I are so much a like sometimes it's a problem. We are both loud, opinionated, strong willed and some times could be classified as abnoxious. We are both feel very strongly about things in our lives. He is a republican and I am a democrat. We are different religions too and often have heated debates about those things. But we also enjoy the same things in life. Some how we make it work. Don't ask me how.
• United States
10 Feb 07
It is funny how people can argue and have different views, but somehow they love each other so much and make it work. Sounds like that is how it is for you. I am glad you make it work!
@Starline (681)
• United States
10 Feb 07
I have to say that me and my husband truly are kindred spirits, and with that I mean that we are alike. We have tons of hobbies in common, such as literature, pop-culture, movies, art, but most importantly we share a view on politics, have the same sense of humor. To be honest I think that the greatest risk for us in the future could be that we become more like siblings than lovers, of course it doesn't feel like that now but rationally I can see this becoming a problem for couples that are too alike. Still we complement eachother on other things - he is stable and calm, organised where I am more of a shatterbrain. This is nice for me, it's like he takes care of me, love being his baby. I wouldn't want our relationship to be any different, we are so alike that we really have that mirroring some scientists talk about, that we love each other because we love ourselves and se ourselves in eachother. For us it makes it more special that he is american and I am swedish and that we found our soulmate in another country.
• United States
10 Feb 07
It sounds like you have a really strong relationship. I wouldn't worry about becoming a sibling, as it just means that you are each others best friends, and there is nothing wrong there. My wife is my best friend, and I love hanging out with her and just talking about anything that comes to mind :D
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• Philippines
11 Feb 07
I am single and unattached but I have my significant others like crushes ;) We do have similarities in terms of hobbies and interests but we also differ in terms of attitudes. I think, in a relationship, differences are more challenging because there are a lot to talk about and explore. It would also measure your patience and understanding for each other.
@slickcut (8141)
• United States
10 Feb 07
I think my husband and I are opposites,in a lot of ways..My husband is more laid back,i have lots of entergy and on the go more..I hate sports,he likes them but only certain ones.He's a veteran and loves war movies,i hate them I like comedy and romance movies..I like reading ,my husband don,t....about the things we agree on is watching TV we both like that but of course not the same shows ..So i watch some of my favorite shows in our bedroom...Anyway like you and your wife,we love each other and we get along well,don't fight and argue,we are mostly always happy.My husband is sick a lot so I try to take very good care of him...
@rainsong7 (124)
• Canada
8 Mar 07
my significant other and i are complete and total opposites...he is spontaneous and hyper...i am more laid back...i am more intellectual and he tolerates my desire for deeper understanding of issues...i tolerate his lack of interest in learning about anything other than what might pertain to his work...i am a thinker...he is a doer...
• Nigeria
10 Feb 07
my so and i are almost completely alike.
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• United States
10 Mar 07
My husband and I are incredibly different people. He is an engineer - I am a social work professor. He is a Muslim and I am a Catholic. He is from the Indian Sub-continent and I am a third generation Polish American. He speaks multiple languages and I can barely master English. He likes camping, fishing, and canoeing. I think roughing it is staying at the Holiday Inn. Got to love it!
@Giggles88 (542)
• United States
9 Mar 07
Me and my boyfriend have very similar personalities. He's a little more responsible than me but we complete each other. Of course we have a few differences but that's what makes us love each other even more. It's great how you and your S/O just seem to fit together like a puzzle.
@meleshia (624)
• Philippines
9 Mar 07
I would say that my boyfriend and I are alike in so many ways like, we both are not a fan of going out and partying, we'd much rather stay at home, watch TV, play games on our laptops or psp, surf the net, things like that. We both love to read, and listen to music. Even the music genre that we listen are the same. We're more into alternative music than R&B. I know that "opposites attract" but in our case, the being alike works for our six year relationship ^___^