Ability to solve differences without anger and resentment is display of maturity
February 10, 2007 11:54am CST
I have been involved in mediation work where aggreived parties keep shouting on the top of the world and the moment I apply the above principle and explain them that it is important not to lose the temper, they cool down. Then the matter is explained and I make both parties agree to certain terms to continue in the business or a deal. What is your opinion?
• United States
28 Feb 07
Anger and showing anger is anyway no good. But we are all humans and we tend to lose self if some one really push us. On the other hand, you mustnt suppress your anger also because then it will lead to other sicknesses. I'll tell you about myself. I never show or get angry in office. I always pass everything with a smile and you know at the end of the day (somedays people push me really hard) I get a thundering headache! But at home, I release my anger as and when necessary and I am a relaxed person. I never keep anything in my mind. I never have hateful thoughts of anybody. If I am angry, i might shout and next moment, I am back to normal. May be this is a bad way. But it keeps me relaxed at least at home. At office, i keep on telling myself, "i mustnt be angry, i mustnt be angry, this is only an outside place, these people do not belong to me and they are not supposed to do the way i want all the time" It is my meditating technique at office (I can feel you laughing at me just about now)
2 Mar 07
No. I do not laugh in these matters even if the answers are silly. Nothing is silly in what you said. Different people adopt different techniques to control their anger and there is no hard and fast rule, but ultimately achievement of control alone is the criteria. Thanks for your interesting response.