"Family" prisons

@Kaldonya (278)
United States
February 10, 2007 3:05pm CST
I just read in my town's newspaper today under world news about this: In a town 25 miles south of Madrid, there is what is known as a family prison. If parents have a child under 3yrs of age, they can go to this prison and live in dorm like rooms (150sq ft) with beds and cribs and toys for the child. Children would attend a nursery all day while the parents learn new skills to help them function better after being released. Once a child turns 3, the child must leave the parents and be then raised by either relatives, if there are any. I understand about building a bond between a child and parent, but *in my opinion* I think this is worse for the child - at age 3 to be separated from his/her parents to all of a sudden live with strangers. How traumatic for that child! How do you feel about family prisons?
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@Willowlady (10666)
• United States
10 Feb 07
This actually a very good program. It develops that bond when it can be made the stongest. Children are given the best and often better than in regular society at that time by the parent. Also the parent becomes attached and finds that it behooves them to straighten up and do what is right in society. Kids are pretty resilient especially when a known parent is involved so this again I feel is a very good program.
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@taramoon (742)
• Spain
10 Feb 07
I live in spain not in Madrid but i have heard of these family prison, the children and parents are very well looked after, however i personally can not see how benificial this can be for the child being bought up in such a situation. The spanish do have big families therfore when the child is passed over it is more likely to be to a close family member than a total stranger and therefore does not lose contact with either his or her family and i think that the court do insist that the child in question once living on the outside world so to say does visit the parent in prision, i also know that there are special rooms (very nice rooms made out like a family living quater) where both parents and child/children can spent some quality time together. Be intersting to hear other peoples views on this subject. A good but hard subject to pick
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@Kaldonya (278)
• United States
10 Feb 07
I'm sorry. I did not mean total stranger as in not a family member. Rather what I meant was a stranger to that child. Suddenly not being with his/her parents anymore and having to go live with people that he/she doesn't know (or barely knows if they came to visit).
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@taramoon (742)
• Spain
10 Feb 07
Very true like i said i really do not support this situation, and if the parent or parents are in prision, maybe it would be better for a decent family to adopt these children and bring them into a good life and maybe they will not turn out like their parents in prision
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@Sawsen (795)
• United States
11 Feb 07
Is this a true story? I mean if it is, it's just sad. What's the point of bonding if they're going to abandon them anyway? It's just going to make them more confused as they grow older. And I'm sure by the age of three, they're going to be more aware of their surroundings. Especially if they know their parents have left them. I think this should be made illegal. It's only going to cause mental anguish for the children as they get older.
@Kaldonya (278)
• United States
12 Feb 07
This is a true story. They even profiled one particular family. Yes, I agree. I think in both the short and long run, it will cause tremendous mental anguish for the child.
@brokentia (10396)
• United States
11 Feb 07
I really don't get it. Why do they live in this prison? What is the point? And then to be ripped away from the parents at the age of 3 years old? That is insane!!! Why? Why take them away from the parents? Why can't the parents raise the child? I don't understand. I would die if all my children were taken away from me at 3 years old! And I have seven children...at one point, I had three in diapers...ok, one starting to potty train and two in diapers with no hopes of potty training soon. I could not imagine me spending my life and that many years in a little 150 sq ft place and then have my children taken from me. How horrible! Why???
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• United States
11 Feb 07
That is just a waste of tax payers money. So what the parents are thinking is that they can go to jail, get free daycare, and learn a trade. That is just wrong. I feel sorrry for the kids in the situation having to grow up in prison along with their parents. What will the kid grow up to be?
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@Karinne (1224)
• Australia
11 Feb 07
Hi there Kaldonya! Yes I think this is totally cruel for the child. The child would be better of in foster care or with relatives until the parent is released from prison if he/she is then able to care for the child. I don't think that the governement has thought out the emotional needs of the children involved.
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@AskAlly (3627)
• Canada
11 Feb 07
Not a bad idea up untill having to separate mother and child. That's when the entire idea falls apart for me. First they teach the parents new skills to take care of their families and then they tear them apart. Where is the sense in that?
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@jhoanee (598)
• Philippines
11 Feb 07
also the parents will suffer when they are separated. their bond was there and yet after 3 years they have to separate. for sure both will gonna hurt. cant imagine with that situation.
• Australia
11 Feb 07
I agree, children need to be with their parents the whole time not pushed from pillar to post like objects cast out to sea.
@stateroad (731)
• United States
10 Feb 07
I think this would be way too traumatic for the child. To grow up in a prison until you are 3 and then to be seperated from your relative like this. The poor child living like this I think would grow up with way too much emotional problems. That is not a good environment for a child to start life in a prison setting and then not be able to see your Dad or Mom for who knows how long.
• Canada
10 Feb 07
I have to agree that I feel this would be hard for a child to try to deal with . They would be too young to understand why they are being seperated from their parent and the only home they ever knew to be raised by someone else in their home .
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• Malta
11 Feb 07
i never thought of something like this. I wonder will the kid be allowed out during the first 3 years or will the be imprisioned too. I am not too sure about the implications such an idea would have on both the mother and the child. Another thing I would worry about the quality of companionship the child would be getting. I mean you cant have your kid learning how to swear just cause you are in prision.
@Kaldonya (278)
• United States
12 Feb 07
No, according to the article, they said that the downside to this program is that the child is completely imprisoned as well for those 3 years.
@ESKARENA1 (18299)
11 Feb 07
In female prisons in the UK there are nurseries for mothers with children under six months old and for those who are about to give birth. Once the child turns six months they also have to stay with relatives or go into care until the mother is released. It is true, this enforced seperation must be stressful for the child, but unless the child serves the sentence too, what alternative is there?
@Kaldonya (278)
• United States
12 Feb 07
I think six months is better than 3 years old. At least a six month old is not aware of his/her surroundings as much and the transition would be way less traumatic. A 3 year old has such separation anxieties anyway, this is sure to make it worse. Imagine the nightmares....
@SAHMom (40)
• United States
12 Feb 07
I think that is absolutely ridiculous! First off... if a parent does something bad enough to be in prison they of course should not have their child. But to have a child live with their parent/parents in PRISON until they are 3 then take them away... that is just plain cruel in my opinion.
@XxAngelxX (2833)
• Canada
12 Feb 07
I think that would be awful for the child! I don't think prison is anything children should be subjected to, irregardless of their age. And if the parent has done something bad enough to be placed in prison, I think the children need to be placed with someone who is more mature and more responsible. I don't agree with this at all.
@mikncas (73)
• United States
12 Feb 07
Depending on what the mother is in prison for and for how long if the inmate is to be released prior to the child turning 3yrs. old then yes I think it gives them a reason to work hard to get out and to better themselves also only if it is the mothers first time in prison. if they have been to prison before or will not be getting out at anytime soon after the child is 3yrs. old then NO the child should not be aloud there at all...
• India
11 Feb 07
parents like this should be hanged - parents should be dedicated towards their child.
its simply shameless to know that there are people who believes in this kind of practices..! i am simply against this kind of practices..! this should be brought in front of un if there is any truth like this or not..! parents who goes there should be hanged..
• Belgium
11 Feb 07
That's a pretty stupid concept. I'm surprised the children haven't been taken away anyway.
@limosonia1 (1560)
• United States
11 Feb 07
That seems very harsh for a child. I couldn't imagine being without my children by my side. Watching them grow is incredible and I wouldn't want to miss it. What makes them think that it would be good for anybody and what purpose does it serve.
@faraz007 (182)
• India
11 Feb 07
I just get astonish that such thing exists. Yes this worst case scenario for a child as he loose bond with his/her parents at thee age of 3. This is really traumatic for a child.