When people put others down
12 Feb 07
the very reason why some people say 'mean' things to other people is that these people have low self-esteem. when a person has low self-esteem three things usually happens - he/she becomes (1) jealous, (2) envious, and (3) bitter -. When all these three are present i am pretty sure one who has them cannot afford to be positive. So, to the person who is subjected with a jealous behaviour, envy and bitterness, it is better not to 'take it personally'. sometimes its not about you, its just that the other person is dealing something bigger than what you are being subjected to.
11 Feb 07
I think that all depends on how close we are to the person. I too can say things to my husband, child, best friend, or anybody close to me that they would accept by themselves as constructive criticisms, while some people may find iot mean or rude when directed to them. But generally, when the intention of the person being rude is to really make the other person feel bad, then I think that is a form of either envy, inferiority, defense mechanism, or simply because that person's upbringing is that he was made to believe himself to be perfect.
11 Feb 07
Well today in this fast moving world, everyone means profit. People have become more materialistic than ever before. They all are losing their natural behaviour. Its a mask they wear for the society. But then also maybe someday everything may come back to normal. Fellings is what is more important than anything else. Atleast this is what that makes humans on top of the life cycle.