Please, God let me be ok.

United States
February 11, 2007 8:34pm CST
I just broke up with my boyfriend. And it hasn't been much more than a month or so that my other boyfriend and I broke up. I don't think I ever got over the first one before I got involved with the second one. But I got REALLY attached to the second one. And I'm one of those people who gets attached very quickly. I can't stop crying now that we've broken up...and I feel like a part of me is missing. I feel like a different person; walking around....being there physically but not mentally. Just there, with no attachment to anything. I feel empty and alone. I have great parents and tons of friends and tons of little kids I love...so why do I feel so empty and alone?
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9 responses
@micheller (1366)
• United States
12 Feb 07
Your just use to being with him and have to get use to the fact that he isn't there anymore. After a few weeks if not sooner your mind will realize that he isn't going to be around anymore and you will start to feel a little better. It may take a while for you to put your feelings that you have for him away but, getting use to the fact that he isn't around will take a few weeks and then you will start wanting to go out and do things and get it off your mind. The best thing to do is go out with your friends and have fun and just realize that he let something good go and he's the only one that it will hurt in the long run.
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@tigerdragon (4297)
• Philippines
12 Feb 07
next time you fall in love just be sure to prepare yourself to love yourself more than the other person so that when the time comes you have to part it would not be that painful.60% for yourself and 40% for the other person.remember you are the one who will get hurt so you got to have some insurance.my friend, just remember this when you feel like you do not want to love again "LOVE AS IF YOU HAVE NEVER BEEN HURT BEFORE".i know you are a strong person and you can do it!
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@maddysmommy (16243)
• United States
12 Feb 07
In time you will heal and it will get better. Don't rush into another relationship so soon, give yourself time to heal from this one. Spend time with family and friends to help you get over it.
@Anakata2007 (1789)
• Canada
12 Feb 07
no one ever said breaking up was easy. It can hurt so much and rip your heart out. You'll feel this way for a few days and then it will get easier.
• United States
12 Feb 07
Thankyou. I can't wait to start feeling better...cuz this really sucks.
• United States
16 Feb 07
I know exactly what you're talking about. I've done the same thing. I'd avise to be single for a bit and let yourself heal over both of them. Perhaps you weren't ready for a break up so soon after your previous boyfriend. Just be with yourself for a bit and let yourself heal... once you feel better entirely (and I'm not going to lie it could take quite a bit of time). I don't know why you two borke up but I am sorry that you're feeling so down about it. If you don't give yourself time to heal fully break-ups could this bad for awhile even if you're not really with the person for that long.
@chaptermm (734)
• Malta
15 Feb 07
God loves you !
@nana1944 (1367)
• United States
14 Feb 07
I too know how quickly a person can become attached to someone else. I will give you the same advice I would give to my grandchildren. Do not just jump from this one to the next. Take your time to put this behind you. And you will, I know. Gosh, you sound so much like me when I was young. I am almost sixty-three now. But the good thing is that I can still remember my younger days very well. This is not the relationship you will have. I, myself, have not had a relationship, not even to go out on a date, for over twelve years. I don't hate men. I have learned to live without the hurt. But you are so young. Take time for yourself and then find someone. Get to know them as a person and not as a love object if you can. Lots of luck and I will be thinking of you.
@SimplyJo (1694)
• India
14 Feb 07
Dear - You are just like me (or rather my 'younger version' :)). I used to be like you when i was in college. moving from one guy to other - getting attached quickly- and feeling the pain of every break up ! It's very tough - the only sure way to get out of the suffering is to find someone else. Trust me, this is the only sureshot way out of the hell you feel yourself in. Once you find someone new, you will forget your ex bf easily and not feel the emptiness you are feeling right now. You might get hurt again - but so what ? Never be scared to take a risk - just think about it - do you want to ever think back and ask yourself - what if you'd gone out with that cute guy you had a crush on but didn't coz you never got over you ex ? You don't get anything unless you take a risk ! love's a risk - take it !
@rohan_001 (181)
• India
12 Feb 07
be careful when u r choosing one, if u do the mistake u have to pay