Soulmates .do you have one?
By saralee1
@saralee1 (1983)
United States
February 12, 2007 1:59am CST
A soul mate is a rare find, a jewel in the dust, a thing not everyone has. I didn't even realize I had mine, until a year after we were married. How could I not see it? strangely, I denied the existence of a soul mate as a myth. Bah Humbug! just one of those new age things! but indeed, they do exist!
I can't even explain it, but I will try. It is so near valentines, that I can't help but think of it! anyways, it is kinda like being in love, with love, but the difference is that you actually have a human being who loves you as much, or more than they love themselves. You are indeed the most important person to them! and in turn this reflects on how you treat this person, forever regenerating each others strengths. I am not saying that their are not ups and downs, because there certainly are! but the love concept is very real, and very rewarding. that's it in a nutshell! now, how do you feel about it?
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24 responses
@shoelover (896)
• Australia
12 Feb 07
Now that sounds like the best explanation I have ever heard for a soulmate. May I also add that you don't ever make a final decision on something without seeing if your mate likes the idea too. Thankyou for a great thought for the day. It certainly has put a smile on my face.
@cliffcliff (1350)
• United States
13 Feb 07
Saralee, all your comments are so beautiful...!
I have to say i do not have a soulmate yet :( its hard for us that dont have love, to keep believing.
But i can sincerely say I am happy for you !!!!!!
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@saralee1 (1983)
• United States
13 Feb 07
If you "feel" your soulmate is out there, than indeed s/he is! And, sometimes you will do the craziest thing, that eventually leads to finding your soulmate. I'd swear by coffehouses! I am not a person who drinks a lot of coffee,but when I do, I goto a good coffee shop and find some intelligent conversation to strike up.Everyone has their own way though. I do hope you find your soulmate, or they find you! :)
@saralee1 (1983)
• United States
12 Feb 07
Now I am embarrassed, because it is true! If we do not agree 100%, it doesn't happen! but the person saying "No" gives their reasons in a perfectly logical way, of course! after awhile, you just kinda know what your spouse would agree to, or not. we have lived happily like this!
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@saralee1 (1983)
• United States
12 Feb 07
I am going on my sixth year with my Husband, it is truly amazing! Now, I think I'd die without him, is that bad? I have never been that way about anyone!
you see, I have always been the fighting Irish type of girl, a tomboy, if you will!
but I am telling you, I certainly am not like I once was! It is as if I have that constant Love bug in me or something!
what a strange spell indeed he weaved on me!
I totally believe in the soul mate thing. It is rare indeed!
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@cicci8331 (178)
• Pakistan
12 Feb 07
well when i found the man of my dreams i never had to ask that question,i just knew and i think thats how it is most people they just now,i am with my best friend in the whole wide world who loves me,adores me,and makes me laugh,so i think i found the perfect man for me,and by the way i dont belive in soulmate there is no such thing every relationship takes work and doest come easy by saying soulmate means that the relationship will just magically workout and thats not it really works.
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@LindaLou (483)
• Canada
12 Feb 07
I believe in love and in being in love and sharing a wonderful perfect love with another person, but I do not believe that there is only one perfect romantic "soulmate" for each person. I think that this is a very limiting notion and that we can use this as an excuse to reject "true love" in the thinking that we have to keep searching for this one and only "soulmate". I believe in soulmates, but that we have many of them in terms of people we keep sharing lives with. I think soulmates can be parents, siblings, children, friends, coworkers as well as lovers.
@SxyFlGrl315 (306)
• United States
12 Feb 07
I believe in differnt types of soulmates. My best friend is one of mine. I'd be lost without her. :)
@malouasuncion (555)
• Malaysia
13 Feb 07
i don't know if soulmate still exists =) but im glad you find your right soulmate =) im happy for you.. i hope i might have =)
@freded124 (87)
• United States
13 Feb 07
I believe in soulmates. Have you ever seen two people who have been married for like 60 years and act like they are still on their honeymoon I think couples such as those are truly soulmates. I also believe many people are too impatient these days with waiting for their soulmate and thats why the divorce rates around the world are going up.IF you wait I think your soulmate will be found and I'm waiting for mine!
@saralee1 (1983)
• United States
14 Feb 07
Yeah, I think so. One of the most important things I have noticed in my current relationship, is he has to treat you as an equal, if you are going to be happy. There are a lot of disrespectful people out there, so sometimes it is better to just be alone, rather than pick anyone out in the crowd!
It is very good to be on the same wavelengths as well. And, contrary to popular belief, you don't have to be of the same faith. (LOL!)As for divorce, If I married the very first sweetheart I had, I'd definately be divorced. fortunately for me, he didn't believe in Marriage!
@hariharbhat (1312)
• India
12 Feb 07
We meet number of people in our daily life.We conclude instantly something good or bad about that person immediately with a single eyecontact.But we do not know the reasoning or logic for that reason drawn immediately.
Later it may turn out tobe a wrong decision.But knowingly or unknowingly everyone does this response of drawing an immediate decisions and all such decisions may not be expressed at any time !.
Likewise , in general we do not know about the soulmate in the begining of that newlife.But later as the days pass on we experience the results of that relationship with the soulmate and that may or may not be cherishable one.
@coolsatire05 (98)
• Philippines
14 Feb 07
I think I found him in his favorites and we have same interests.We have an open communication everynow and then.I feel a love for him even we are in a long distance relationship.
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@jeraldanmarie (472)
• Philippines
13 Feb 07
soulmates does not mean he or she your legal partner or oyur boyfriend. I belived that csoulmate is a person who understand you the most, you care for each other and can get along and can discuss anything under the sun, you feel happy with him or her but not to the extent of going beyond that relationship.
I think one of my friend is my soulmate, we are already married and we support each other, one time his wife told me, you know you're the only person whom my husband can pour out his pain and happiness, I can see it and you both are soulmates, I am happy that you're his soulmate am confident. see.... it is a unique relationship wherein you can feel what the other on feels.
actually in the past months I have some problems and hwe kept on uplifting me am not telling to him whats the problem was but still he is there.
@sizzle3000 (3036)
• United States
14 Feb 07
I married my soul mate twenty years ago. We are so comfortable around each other that we don't have to speak. My husband has seen me on the worst day of my life and I have seen him on his. I can talk to him about anything. He cooks and I love to cook. Neither of us like to clean so we do it as a team. We raise our daughter the same way and we always have a united front. There are very few things we disagree on but when we do we are not affraid to speak our minds. Neither of us are jelouse, and we are both secure in our own appearance as well as relationship. A good marriage takes hard work and we work at it every day. I can not see me without him and he feels the same way.
I do believe there is someone for every one. I think it takes time and looking deep before you take that leap.
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@hartnsoul (558)
• Philippines
13 Feb 07
I feel that my husband is my soul mate. We started as strangers because I found him irritating way back in highschool and now I am so inlove with him. :)
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@saralee1 (1983)
• United States
14 Feb 07
This is not uncommon, believe it or not! I have talked to so many women who were irritated by their spouses right before they met them.(I was irritated too at one time!) but then it just snaps that the person who irritated you, has already made up their mind, you are theirs!
@bewitchlook (50)
• Pakistan
13 Feb 07
really u r right...soul mate is a frnd...and may be ur life partner 2....but i think mostly soul mate r in the catagory of frnds.....frnds r the precious treasure of ur life.....every one can leave u but a true frnd couldnot.....
@ibusann (36)
•
18 Feb 07
I was married for thirty years to the wrong man. I split with him and within months my soulmate and I met each other, entirely by accident. He had lost his wife a year before and neither of us were looking for love.
We've been together now for five years and are blissfully happy. We are as much in love as we were when we met and compliment each other perfectly. I truly cannot imagine living without him.
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@samimkardar (828)
• United States
12 Jun 07
I found her but unfortunately I was unsuccessful to bring her in my life, I made her angry, she was hurt by me.I am so sorry to her.I am still alone and waiting for her. Pray for me.
@samimkardar (828)
• United States
19 Jun 07
I did'nt want to hurt her. But I did it unwillingly.After realizing my mistake I said her sorry and admit my mistake.She said ok but I don't have any chance to bring her in my life.I am still guilty.I feel a burdon on my heart.A painful feeling always hit in me that "She is hurt by me........She is hurt by me...........She is hurt by me..... :(:(:(
@saralee1 (1983)
• United States
19 Jun 07
Hey,I am really sorry about all of that. In those situations, I always like to believe that in another life, in another place, I will make it up to the one I cherish most. Why are you waiting for her in this lifetime, if it can never be?
or, can it? ;)
@saralee1 (1983)
• United States
19 Jun 07
That sounds like a few relationships I have had in the past, where I thought I was really connected to a person, until I truly got hurt by them, and that is how I know they weren't the right person. One thing I am sure of, is that your soulmate wouldn't bring pain, and anguish and vice versa.
@geejoy (344)
• Philippines
13 Feb 07
well, partners in life, your soulmates, well all boil down in one concept, your present partner whom you think you are deeply in love with...well, yes, i found my soulmate....my boyfriend is the best since he is the kindest and loving bf of all...there are times when we are arguing but then, the fact that we survived it all for almost 3 years now is all that matters...
@sakura_ryuzaki (348)
• Philippines
13 Feb 07
really... how nice... i wish i could meet my soulmate like you. good luck and happy life to the both of you. liek you i also beleive in soulmate.
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@Petrakkos (310)
• Cyprus
20 Feb 07
the ancient greeks believed than men and women were sticked together to one body-then after something happened they were separeted and became man amd women-and they beleived that since then every man has its own soulmate the part which was at the common body
@tojo_friend (143)
• India
13 Feb 07
Finding soulmate is a very difficult thing...
for one it could have taken 50-60 years to find a soulmate...
and some of us might not be able to find a soulmate either...
and very few of us find that precious thing at their youth...
I haven't found one yet...
but I hope I will be able to find one cause its certainly important to live ur life...
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