How Is Your Relationship With Your Mother????

@cabergren (1182)
United States
February 12, 2007 8:12am CST
My mother is in her 60s and his pretty hard to get along with. She is one of those who likes to give advice all the time and expects you to follow it. She means well but can drive you crazy with all the advice. No matter what you say she knows better. I always just agree with her and do what I think is best. At her age I know she isn't gonna change so I just accept this. How is your relationship with your mother??????
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56 responses
• India
13 Feb 07
i love my mother very much is the thing everyone says but i thing just loving or respecting is not enough from any child to a person although a mother does not expect anything more but it is our duty to give her back reward for what she made us big so it is our duty to give our mother all the happiness in the world
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• United States
13 Feb 07
I know how awful this is for you. My mother has been extremely controlling. I am 50ish well, my mother is in her 70s-HOW'S THAT?. After many years of listening trying to 'do' what she wanted I said, NO MORE MOTHER. I tried to say it gently with respect, but she continued to show no respect to me. I had to let her have it in order to preserve me, my feelings and my wants. She was furious. Her opinion was the only valid opinion. Now when she starts to get on me I say, GOTTA GO MOM. I don't have to yell or anything because I am in control of me. I certainly cannot control her nor she me. So instead of forcing issues, I just go. I don't have to stay and listen to diatribes and vents because my life is NOT what she would want for me. It's what I want for me that counts. FREEDOM never tasted so good. Just say NO TO DOMINEERING mothers!
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@karthima (112)
• India
13 Feb 07
my mother is very strict to me. She loves my sister more. My mom had no acre when i was with her. But now when i got married , she is madly missing me. daily i get a call asking what i ate, how i am doing, etc,. Mother is the gift of god. No one can loves us like our mother. She is an angel in earth. I love my mom and she is invaluable to me.She knows me better than all. Always she is right, but i never accepted to it. i learn t it now.
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@nuel_h (1594)
• Indonesia
13 Feb 07
first of all, very good post, hmmm... fortunately my mom is not so wise with life, she just not this logical-systematical person, and i think if i should follow her advice all the time, i would be crazy. no offense but it just me.
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• Hong Kong
13 Feb 07
I felt my mother was very strict to me in the past, she always hit me when i doing something wrong, like stealing money to play games, or lie. But for now, i treat her as my friend, and always talk to her about my daily event.That's just different realtionship between us for the past and now.At present, i love her very much.
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@XRiders (18)
• Romania
13 Feb 07
The relationship between me and my mother is pretty tense. She drives me crazy when she begins to argue me because I stay all day on my computer without doing anything else. She wants me to go to work and help her in the house. I agree she is right most of the times but it's hard for me now to start doing something.
• India
13 Feb 07
I had a strong relationship with my mother. i can told things to my mother as my friend.
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@KrisNY (7609)
• United States
12 Feb 07
My mom is my best friend. She is great- Sure she hands out advice but not like "in your face" kind of advice. She has helped me through different parts of my life. My mom is the one I call first with news of anything. I am very close with my mom. We do alot together. My mom is in her 50's. I am raising my daughter to be close to her grandma also- I have a Great mom!
• United States
12 Feb 07
My relationship with my mother is like a roller coaster, she is very mean and just does'nr seem like she cares much, she seems bitter over something. So most of time i just stay away from her , that is until i move out , which i hope is soon!!!!
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• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
12 Feb 07
My mother and i get along pretty well....hse's 53 and she's pretty liberal both politically and socially wise. We have similar views of life and the world, and that helps. The only bad thing is we both have a similar and strong character, which makes us collide sometimes....but that happens everywhere i guess....i think my mom is the best.
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@miryam (6510)
• Italy
12 Feb 07
You are sure of talking about your mother and not about mine. All days Io only aabito, but she comes my home and always finds qulache thing to be objected ... a disaster, and do not know that di Me lets pleasure know not to be the alone one.
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• Canada
12 Feb 07
My mom and I tend to fight a lot also . I love my mom very much but she feels that she still knows what is best for me even if I don't agree . It bothered her everytime I got pregnanat because she didn't feel I needed to have all the children I did . She doesn't understand that I am now an adult and am old enough to make my own decisions weahter they agree with hers or not . I know she loves me but sometimes it feels that we can't agree on anything at all .
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• United States
12 Feb 07
Sheesh!! I understand COMPLETELY!!!! My mom is a recovering addict who is doing really well. She does however tries to dictate my life as well as my husbands with her advise. Now I just have to agree with her just to shut her up, now my grandma....thats a whole-nother subject. What a life!!! lol
• United States
12 Feb 07
my realtionship with my mother is not the best. we drifted apart once she got remarried to someone who didnt want anything to do with her children. ever since then we drifted apart from each other. we are trying to patch things up but its hard to do when she really doesnt know what to say to each other.
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• United States
12 Feb 07
My mom and I have become best friends now that I'm out of the house and married. We hang out and shop together like friends woould. I lobe my relationship with my mom. Some times she'll get back into that motherly role and start telling me things and how to do them and I just let her know that I have it all under control. So its all good
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• Canada
12 Feb 07
My mom passed away a little over two years ago but, when she was alive (and most especially back when she was still healthy) we had a very good relationship. She could test my patience sometimes in similar ways to what you describe... she was always telling me how she "never interferes in her children's lives" or "never gives opinions on what her children do" -- right before she would tell me exactly what she thought about a given situation LOL I think she had convinced herself that, if she gave a disclaimer first, then she wasn't being overbearing. Like you, I listened, smiled and accepted what she said ... and then I made my own decisions as to what I felt was best for myself.
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@anjoks (2084)
• Philippines
12 Feb 07
Whew, that's a tough one! .. Me and my mom's not in speaking term right now, got a silent war going on in our house. A mis-understanding over some problems at home. My mom's so sensitive. Well, she's old i understand why she's acting like that. But we're on the cooling process now. It's just normal for mom-daughter misunderstandings. With regards to my mom? We'll be better soon, don't worry at all. (",)
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@mr_ular (842)
• Malaysia
12 Feb 07
I am pretty close to my mother. I am the eldest son. We talked a lot to each other. Though my mother too likes to advice me, i always take it the positive way (hahaha..i tried to..most of the times). Anyway, i found that all of my siblings respect her and love her so much. We are very close to her. Even my wife is closed to her. She's very special to us. We hope to make her happy for the rest of her life.
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@nmw2005 (1198)
• United States
13 Feb 07
My mom and I get along very well. She still gives me advice, I listen, but may not always take it. Now that I live 12 hours away we don't see each other very often and I didn't realize how much I missed it.
@maryannemax (12174)
• Sweden
13 Feb 07
wow. i will soon leave my mom, too since i will be going to sweden (by the way, i am from the philippines)and start a life with my boyfriend there whom i love so much. my mom approves of my decision since he met my boyfriend already and finds him nice and respectful. and i know i will miss her so much, too.
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@Grandmaof2 (7604)
• Canada
23 Feb 07
My mother was 21 and my father was 30 when I was born. My mother was instutionalized right after I was born. She suffered a nervous breakdown that affected her life forever. My dad and his parents raised me. I had my mother from age 12 until I moved out of home. My mother never did want me and she was very hard on me. I couldn't do a thing to please her. After I was on my own I tried calling her, she'd right away say she was busy and hang up on me. I'd send her birthday/christmas cards and she sent everyone back to me unopened. I have given up on her. She's my mother I have a lot of love still in me for her, I have forgiven her knowing it's not her fault. But bottom line I have a life and I'm living it without being sad about us not being close. My dad passed away when I was 25, that nearly killed me. My mom is nearly 80 and I know I won't get to see her again, but I'm a good mom/grandma and this has helped me be a better person rather than a bitter person.
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