What makes people gay?

United States
February 12, 2007 4:06pm CST
Do you think it's something in the DNA or...? I, being gay myself, don't feel that it's something I had any control over. I feel I was born this way, but what do you think?
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@owlwings (38864)
• Cambridge, England
14 Feb 07
I believe that it has been fairly conclusively proven that there is no genetic link. I certainly don't think that people choose to be gay and that, though it is possible for someone to choose to hide or ignore their preferences, they are nevertheless the way that God made them and it is far better to accept ourselves and each other as we are than to invite unhappiness and mental anguish by trying to be what we are not. I perhaps ought to add that I am not gay.
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• United States
14 Feb 07
Thanks for your comment. I'd still rather believe that it's something in my DNA rather than "God's will". Excellent post.
@emarie (5455)
• United States
14 Feb 07
it may be born or a series of events that happend in that persons life. i think both theories are true. since we don't know that much about it. i stand by the theory of the hormine imbalance in the brain. which does help support the theory of being 'born gay' although the studies on that are inconclusive, i think that would be the smarter choice. i think it is a lifestyle not a choice. although i think some do chose to become bi. there is still alot we don't know about the human body and the human mind. for all we know it could be a form of evolution. animals have had homosexual tendicies for years now with nothing seriously happing to their numbers. the only thing effect the numbers of animals are man.
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• United States
14 Feb 07
I agree. I think that some people are born gay simply to keep the planet from being overpopulated. Bisexuality is weird to me. I don't understand how someone can like both sexes.
• United States
13 Feb 07
I do not believe people choose to be gay. I have a brother who is 4 years younger then me and gay. When he was 3 all he wanted to do was wear my clothes. He tried being a little boy, playing baseball and football, but he was never happy doing those things. I know he did not make the choice to be gay. For anyone who is gay, that is determined before they are born.
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• United States
13 Feb 07
Thanks for the comment! I feel the same way.
@vmoore709 (1102)
• United States
12 Feb 07
I think with some people, you are just born that way. Maybe it's the way cells are arranged when you're born. With other people, I think it's a learned behavior. I've seen too many of my own friends turn gay and then back to straight again. It doesn't bother me either way, I just want everyone to be happy with who they choose to be with.
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• United States
12 Feb 07
Thank for your comment. I think some people see homosexuality as a fad. Thus they change to suit the current "in" sexuality.
• United States
12 Feb 07
I definately think that people are born gay. I have grown up with gay men and women, and I saw the tendencies in them from childhood. I do not think that it is a "learned behavior" as some people like to refer to it. If people are born knowing full well that they are straight, why can't that be the same for gay people? Why can't people give it the benefit of the doubt?
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• United States
12 Feb 07
Thanks for your comment! I know what you mean about the whole "learned behavior" thing. Being gay isn't something you learn. I never felt that I was confused about my own sexuality. I'd even say that I knew I was gay before I knew what gay was.
@Aditza (76)
• Romania
14 Feb 07
I think that you are what you imagine.If you imagine that you are a women and you'll became to believe in that,you want and wish to be a women and that because this is in your mind.I like to believe that we are the only one that have our bodys controll and we can controll all the feelings like that.I think that the mind is all,from the brain starts this obssesion.This is my opinion,but I don't have the right to judge somebody.
• United States
14 Feb 07
That would mean that as a child I wanted to be gay. Which is pretty silly, considering how gays are treated in the area I live in. Especially back then.