How Many of you are truley Kid lovers??

@lump_z (116)
United States
February 12, 2007 5:48pm CST
I am the mother of three grown children, and two grandchildren. I love my kids dearly, but i am not a kid person. My nerves are shot from just being around other peoples kids, Now is it, that other people just aren't as strict and let their children run wild, or was i that strict?? I wonder, my children were always respectful and never say a loud word to an adult...but so many times i hear children these days screaming at they're parents and disrespecting their Elders. And i was wonderig if i am the only one that notices or have you, If there was a little bit more respect and dissaplin(sp)would we really have all the school shootings, and child murderers??
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@mccullar (124)
• United States
13 Feb 07
now that i a a parent i think that i love kids and i love my son, but i hate to see little kids running a muck..... i do think that now a days parents both have to work so they do not spend time with there kids and teach them how to act. but i do think at times some parents are to strict. i know i try to be in the middle of being strickt and being not so strickt. i know that it is hard to teach a child to be respectfull. and...hhmmm i love my train of thought...but i do think that some kids jst have a mind of there own. i know it. you can tell a kid something and they do the opasite.
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@lump_z (116)
• United States
13 Feb 07
Oh i have had my problems with my children.. especially in the teenage years. And my son ended up in prison for two years after he turned eighteen, but they still held respect for me, My son is another topic...lol...and not once did they yell at me, My daughter would get upset if she made me mad, and i didn't beat my children either. The only things my kids could say bad about me is i stayed in a bad relationship with my ex-husband and they suffered for it.. But you can't turn back time and i was young.
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@lump_z (116)
• United States
13 Feb 07
I think that had alot to do with it right there...My ex-husband of 13 years was abusive, verbally, mentally and phisically and my kids had to see it and go thru some themselves, But they seen the way he treated me and i think it made them connect with me better.
@apky12 (776)
• United States
12 Feb 07
You are definitely not the only one that notices this. I love kids but there is a catch. I love kids that are respectful and don't act like total brats. A lot of parents have chosen the route that they will be friends with their children. I feel like you are a parent for a reason. You need to guide your child and parent them, not be their friend. I think a lot of times when parents do this their children act like that and disrespect them. My sister in law does it with my nephew but when he's around me he knows he better not act up because I will put him in timeout for acting up.
@lump_z (116)
• United States
13 Feb 07
Exactly...my neice and nephews are total brats, my brother is raising them on his own and i commend him for it. But i don't beleive he corrects them when they need it only when they have gotten on HIS last nerve, but when they are with me they do behave...If more people corrected their kids would we have all the violence?
@mccullar (124)
• United States
13 Feb 07
yeah i think your right. my sister in law did not disapline for the right reasons. when my nephew was little not hes doing better but she desaplines fo stupid things!
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@lump_z (116)
• United States
13 Feb 07
Right.. they shouldcorrect the kids all the time, not just when they have had enough,Kids are smart, and my brothers now which buttons to push and for how long..which makes it rough on the rest of us when we go to visit.I end up correcting them cause i can't stand it...lol
@charms88 (7546)
• Philippines
14 Feb 07
When I was pregnant with my first child, my feelings are indescribable. Too many questions roamed around my mind like what kind of a mother will I be? I mean, I really had no idea how to deal with the little ones around us. In fact, I felt ackward. With 2 kids now, I felt like a little girl myself. I clowned and laughed like a maniac with them. I can be myself if I'm with them. But I am also a very strict disciplinarian. I teach them how to act like a lady, how to talk softly, how to greet other people graciously, all those stuff. With other kids that I saw yelling and screaming, I do hope its just a phase that will eventually outgrow in the future. But parents with kids like this should be more aware of how to improve their child's behaviour. I did know someone who always leave her 2 boys with their nannies and househelpers while this mother, who is already a millionaire, kept travelling to Europe to attend to her business. Sadly, both boys, only 6 and 8 can say the word f_ _k you with flourish. What's the use of having lots of money with children like that.
@kerbausama (1338)
• Malaysia
13 Feb 07
yeah..sometimes thats not what we need..but we need to face it.. .