marriage

China
February 12, 2007 6:35pm CST
Why do more and more people dislike to get married but prefer to keep single?
9 responses
@cicci8331 (178)
• Pakistan
13 Feb 07
maybe most people enjoy single lifestyle,it is less pressure,experts explain that modern woman pay more attention to the quality of marriage,they tend to consider various aspects before committing to marriage,for example,the balance between career and family,because of this,the number of single will probably stay constant or may even be increasing.
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@trinihd (996)
• United States
13 Feb 07
Fear! Maybe people are afraid of losing the magic in their relationship when they have to deal with all the practical issues that are involved in a partnership like marriage. I know the thought of marriage is very scary to me sometimes! The practical aspects of two lives merging can be overwhelming. Even though some people may already live together, it's not the same as in a marriage I think, because there may be children involved or on the way, and because I think that each person in a couple somehow expects more from their partner when they are married than when they are just sharing space and living together. More and more people are seeing marriages that fail more than marriages that last and so they don't realise that marriage can be beautiful and blissful because they have not seen any examples of that in their real life. I mean certainly no marriage or relationship is perfect or without its share of problems, but the truth is married couples can find lasting joy and happiness if they choose to love each other. Love is the action word they need act on, if they are keep the joy in their marriage. I think most people don't realise that love is a choice, and not so much a feeling. If they realised this, they would choose to love the person they marry instead of expecting the sometimes fleeting "attraction" to last. I do believe more people would have marriages that lasted if they chose to love. What happens most times is they end up forgetting to love after a while and then later they realise their marriage has suffered though they do not know why.
• China
13 Feb 07
thank you for all your comments.
@SGOEL27 (927)
• India
13 Feb 07
because in this relationship both person are have their ego and time to time their ego clash each other so i think that's the main problem of this relationship
@stateroad (731)
• United States
13 Feb 07
I am single but do not prefer it. If I found the right man that made me happy I would get married. It is not fun being single. I would much rather have a supportive and loving partner to go through life with.
• United States
13 Feb 07
well from experience I have been married and I am still married but I am separated from my husband. Before we got married I was pregnant and everything was great then we got married and he left for basic training shortly after our daughters birth after he came back from medical discharge which he had been gone for a month in a half he came back with his head stuck up his butt so from then on our marraige has been crappy and we are getting unmarried by a annulment. so I think alot of people stay single because the person they are inlove in chages after getting married. That causes them to split.
@earth2jacq (1503)
• Philippines
13 Feb 07
In this stressful times, some people choose to lessen the stress in their lives by not getting married. When you are not married you 1. have less hassle in keeping a relationship 2. will just have yourself to worry about financially 3. have no stressful arguments with spouses 4. are completely responsible for yourself only 5. have no noisy children
@marty3888 (2359)
• United States
13 Feb 07
I don't know. maybe it's the divorce rate being so high, it scares them. My girlfriend says she'll stay with me forever but dosn't want to get married. I've nevere been married and would like a wedding. It just seems like more and more people are afraid of commitment. Right now I know one of the reasons we're not getting married right now is we can't afford it. The invitations, the food, etc. So maybe the actual cost of the wedding has something to do with it and the fact that it's "just a piece of paper."
• United States
13 Feb 07
A lot of people are scared of a marriage failing. Many people grew up with parents who were divorced and don't wan to make the same mistakes their parents did. Me on the other hand I found the right women and decided not make the same mistake my parents did. If you find the right person, marriage is a wonderful thing.
13 Feb 07
Im single at the moment, but dating a great guy that lives local to me... We hope to be married next year. Marriage should be special, just got to take the time to find the right guy Lynn-Marie