boyfriend/girlfriend: who rules?

Philippines
February 12, 2007 7:42pm CST
i have had two boyfriends in all my 24 years of living. my first boyfriend was dark, tall, thin, and not really what you might call handsome. plus he is a fratboy and feels as if he is a very important guy. my boyfriend now is tall still, fair, good looking, has a good body, well mannered and is two years younger. i was the underdog during my first relationship. guess you could say it is the opposite in my present relationship. feeling hurt before, you could say i always have my defenses up now. which leaves my boyfriend the emotional one. i cant say i rule or i am the man in 'us'. but the thing is i've learned. who gets followed and who follows depends on what you do. if you act like a pushover, chances are he/she will boss you around. respect. i say that's the key. but of course, it does feel fun to get what you want every once in a while right? ^_^ guys don't always have to rule. things like this should be give and take. it takes two to tango remember? who rules? both! happy hearts day all! ^_^
2 responses
@raijin (10373)
• Philippines
13 Feb 07
For a relationship to last, the couple should always give and take. Understand the short-comings of one another and adjust on each others attitude. To achieve this is one great accomplishment already, a step more high above to a better possibility of ending up together. All should have fair feelings to one another, and to have good conversations is a great help preserve the relationships. For the sake of fairness, no one should be above from another. And no one should submit their own to no one, lest already been blessed by Him.
• Philippines
13 Feb 07
The two should be the same. The woman should not rule the relationship and the man should not also rule the relationship. The success of a relationship is when the two will give and take. When you want this and your partner want another then both of you should decide which is to follow. Your decision should be one. Both of you should go the same path together. No one should step another's shoe.