I am allowing my Daughter and Granddaughter move back in.

You are very kind and generous to put your own plans on hold. I think you should have a family conference with your daughter and explain to her that you wish the situation to be temporary. Ask her what her plans are to become financially independent and what time line she is thinking of. You should make a few house rules such as what kind of participation you want from her as far as running the household is concerned. If she is contributing financially you should set the amount, if she is not, establish what you will provide for her. If you do not want to be a built-in babysitter establish from the beginning that you have your own life, friends, events and interests that you are going to keep. In order for this to be a harmonious relationship you must remember that your daughter is an adult and will bring her own ideas with her. Does she have a boyfriend? Will she want him to stay over? Tell her exactly how you feel about it. Communication is really important and setting a goal as to when your daughter will be on her own feet again. Wishing you the best of luck and a happy family.

I can only pray and wish you well dear. Just decide with your husband what you both want and can live with. Then tell her. If she agrees fine, if not, it won't work. I've been there already. You must be very firm about this. Blessings, M&M

Well basically you certainly need to tell her that the Baby is her responsibility and not yours, that while she is work you will look after the Baby but when she gets home it is her responsibility not yours. Also that the she has to do her fair share in helping round the House.

Linda you have to make sure that you start out right from the beginning. Don't always get up for your granddaughter. Sit back and let your daughter take responsibility. If you allow her to dump her motherhood responsibilites onto you then you are going to be stuck. People are already commenting on the fact that it seems like you are raising her. Don't allow it. Be firm from the beginning.

It really depends on how old your daughter and grand-daughter are. If you are charging them rent to stay there, you can't set too many rules. Make sure that they keep your house just as clean as you keep it and that they replace any of your food that they may eat.

I have been through this with sons and daughters. Whatever rules you decide on, make them clear from the beginning. Some of mine were....This is OUR home I don't care how old you are you will respect us and our rules. No one of the opposite gender in your bedroom at any time and definitely no hanky panky in my house. You will clean up after yourself and your child. You will help with all house work. If they are able I make them contribute to expenses. You will take care of your child, we are not built in babysitters. I usually give them a time limit to find a place of their own even if I have to help them out a little. Most of all just love them.