I thought I was wrong once...... But I was mistaken......

@James72 (26829)
Australia
February 12, 2007 10:44pm CST
Ever come across people sometimes that will never, ever admit that they are wrong! It drives me insane. I have had instances where I have even been able to provide irrefutable proof of something and yet they still have questioned it! Why do you think some people are so stubborn like this? Is it a fear of looking stupid? Pride? I just don't understand why it is so hard for some people to admit they are wrong?? It's not the end of the world.....
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@cabergren (1182)
• United States
13 Feb 07
My mothers husband is just like that. He thinks that he knows everything about everything when he really doesn't know a whole lot. And to get him to say he is wrong is just not worth the fighting. Hey when you don't something just say I don't know.
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
13 Feb 07
I agree. If you don't know, just say so! We can't all be expected to know everything about everything.... It's just that there are many people who will still have an opinion on something even if they know nothing about it! Thanks for responding.
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@mixey62 (305)
• United States
13 Feb 07
I used to date a guy that wouldn't admit he was wrong- only problem was he wasn't smart and he would insist that his wrong opinions (and retarded methodology behind them) were always right. I hated it, because I'm not one that likes to fight, but he had such a skewed sense of reality. We broke up a long time ago, but I have a feeling he is still being an idiot wherever he lives now. Some people don't change. I feel bad for whoever has to deal with him on a daily basis.
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
13 Feb 07
He probably is the same, yes. At least now he's not YOUR idiot!! lol. Thanks for responding.
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• United States
19 Feb 07
James - Good post...Really hits a nerve, especially since I had a 'very green' supervisor who was incapable of getting past his arrogance (not his fault, gith?). At any rate, the Bible says, "Pride comes before destruction; arrogance before a fall." which I totally believe to be true, coming to pass in the Lord's timing. This particular supervisor was so arrogant that the first word out of his mouth was always "No..." before he would confirm what someone just said. Excuse me? Rather than making himself look smarter than his 'inferiors,' all he did was make himself appear more foolish...which reminded me of the many subtle ironies in life. ;^) Keep the Faith, Kevin (and Ruth)
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
19 Feb 07
Thanks! Some people I guess become so accustomed to behaving in a certain manner that they subconsciously respond before consciously thinking first! Thanks for responding.
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@greengal (4288)
• United States
15 Feb 07
My husband has a cousin who is like that. It is simply impossible to win an argument with him, even if you absolutely right, he still won't give in! My husband itself is a hard one to convince and he doesn't bother arguing with his cousin..lol! It frustrates me when people are so ignorant and think they are right all the time. It sure is a wrong attitude and can do more harm than good socially.
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
15 Feb 07
For me too it is mainly family members like this. Sure makes it hard to not have to put up with it. You can pick and choose your friends but not your family! Thanks for responding.
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@Tetchie (2933)
• Australia
13 Feb 07
There's a song you may (or may not) have heard which goes "Oh Lord it's hard to be humble, when you're perfect in every way". I'm from Australia - it was a hit and sang by a comedian from memory. It certainly can be frustrating cause really opinionated people are closed to any other point of view which makes conversation very one-sided. I guess they find it difficult to be vulnerable and being wrong is a sign of weakness. I've been guilty of this personality trait and, although I like to be right, I know my intelligence is limited to what I have learned and there is so much more to be learned. Their loss really!
@James72 (26829)
• Australia
14 Feb 07
I too am Australian (working and living overseas at the moment)so remember the song well! I think we all have been guilty of this trait at one time or another. Thanks for responding.
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@Thomas73 (1467)
• Switzerland
13 Feb 07
I know a few opinionated people who will never admit that they are wrong and will always look to blame somebody else if they suspect they are. Those self-righteous prats really wind me up and there are times I need to leave the room for fear of becoming physical and try ing to knock some sense into their thick heads. I personally have no problem to admit I'm wrong if supplied with valid evidence that I am. Obviously, my ego gets dented, but it tends to recover pretty quickly. ;)
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
13 Feb 07
I too know many people like this and unfortunately am related to most of them! I also have to admit that I too can be stubborn also and have certainly been guilty of acknowledging someone else's point of view whilst secretly not agreeing with them..... Sometimes it's easier to just keep the peace! How do we learn anyways if we can't accept differences of opinion? It would be pretty boring otherwise. Thanks for responding.
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@pumpkinjam (5774)
• United Kingdom
14 Feb 07
I have had this problem many times. Mostly with men so I always assumed it was just male pride! There are some people who would tell you that grass isn't green if it didn't fit in with their ideals. I often argue with my partner because he can't accept that he has ever done anything wrong no matter how many people tell him that he is the one in the wrong or how we explain to him why it's wrong. I am sure that with some people it is a matter of pride and not wanting to look stupid but there are some people who just argue with anything, apparently just for the sake of it, and I have absolutely no idea why they would do that.
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
15 Feb 07
Actually I would have to agree that I too mostly notice that men are this way. I have thought long and hard and can't think of any women I have known that are the same! Must be a testosterone thing! Thanks for responding.
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• United Kingdom
15 Feb 07
I have had the problem with one or two women but I still think it is more of a male thing. I think if it happens with women it is out of guilt that they are doing something wrong and don't want to believe they are.
@bluewings (3857)
24 Feb 07
More than the arrogance I think it's the fear of being humored for being wrong that prevents them from admitting their obvious fault ,even when,they know it deep inside that they are arguing for a lost cause.I know someone very close who fits in perfectly in those shoes.He is a good person,but when it comes to accepting a fault ,even God might fail to get it done! It happens so often with them that at a point they start lieing blatantly and make a fool of themselves justifying what's an obvious mistake.If I knew a good way to change it,then I could use it,lol.One that I read was to agree to everything they say for a period of time.They would get bored and give up the habit.Never tried it though.
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
26 Feb 07
Another human trait! The deeper people dig themselves the harder they will try to dig themselves back out. It would be so much easier to just back down but it is just not in some people's nature to do that! Thanks for responding.