Are you a survivor?

United States
February 13, 2007 10:30am CST
Merriam-Webster dictionary lists the definition of survivor as follows; to remain alive or in existence: live on to continue to function or prosper to continue to exist or live after to continue to function or prosper despite Life is full of hard knocks, disasters and traumatic events that trusts us into circumstances where we must choice to survive. My question is why are some able to become survivors while others remain forever victims of one thing or another, never quite able to break free of the past or event?
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@misskatonic (3727)
• United States
13 Feb 07
We're each and everyone of us different, for whatever reasons. For some of us, hardships break us. For some, they make us stronger - like fire on steel. We are all such vastly different creatures, all reacting differently to our situations. It's our diversity and our ability to be influenced by both genetics and our own life experiences. I really wish I had a better explanation for it, because boiling it down to 'we're all different' seems like such a cop out... but it's the way I see it.
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• United States
13 Feb 07
Your analogy is a good one. I do believe that how we handle adversity stems from experiences and genetics I would also throw in will. I say this because I was a victim of early childhood abuse. At that point my life experience was very limited yet there was a drive within me that kept me alive, I simply refused to give up or give in. Thank you for your response, got me to think! :)
@mbarryton (1872)
• United States
13 Feb 07
I would have to say me and my kids are we survived 11 years of verbal abuse from their father and that was no east road but i kept the faith that one day we could get out and we did. now im married to a wonderful man (for 8 months)that i knew for over a year that treats the kids as his own :)
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• United States
13 Feb 07
I am so glad you were able to break free, abuse of any kind is awful and getting out of an abusive situation is no easy task. I applaud your strength and I am happy to hear that you and your children are safe and loved. Thank you for responding!
@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
14 Feb 07
On a good day, I am a survivor. I live what seems like a fairly normal life, despite how horrific my situation was up until about 8 years ago. I can get through entire days without crying or screaming or even hitting everyone who walks to close to me. On a good day, I am survivor. On a bad day... maybe not so much. There are days when I just cannot be around people. Usually because my nightmares of the night before were just too much for me. Even so, I have my day, I shudder and vomit and shower for hours to try to get clean, and then the next day I'm okay. So maybe that still makes me a survivor, that I only take a day or two once every couple of years to dwell in the past. I can't tell you what makes the difference between the survivor and the victim. It could be some inborn trait, or it could just be a grain of hope you catch sight of somewhere along the way. Having one person you learn to trust, human or divine? Plain old stubborness?
• United States
14 Feb 07
All very good points and I agree. Oh and if my opinions counts I would say you are one heck of a survivor! Thank you for responding.
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