Can reading romance novels affect your view of relationships?

@wayz12 (2059)
United States
February 14, 2007 8:15am CST
I have always loved reading novels, being a voracious reader when I was young. When I feel down or depressed, nothing picks my spirit up more than reading an exciting romance novel. However, when I got married, my husband was so disapproving about this interest of mine, saying romance novels does not bring anything good. He thinks its gives you a skew perception of life. I've always known them as fantasy and know that they don't really happen in real life but for me its just pure fun. Any other opinion on this matter?
5 responses
@braided (698)
• Canada
4 Dec 08
Well i would never say you shouldnt read them cause if it gives you pleasure at any level its great. I mean for men to watch sports all the time and not spend time with their ladies wouldnt be good either ....right? But on the other hand just as films have an effect on your thinking or on society as a whole i think novels can too but again thats only if you not realisitic about it realizing that its a fictional piece. Your husband needs to chill .. smilin ..
@wayz12 (2059)
• United States
5 Dec 08
I consider it my get-away-pass when things get too much...LOL..so yes, he can just chill! Thanks for the comment!
@braided (698)
• Canada
5 Dec 08
Absolutely we all need our get away pass .... smilin .. have a great one ...peace
• United States
5 Dec 08
Too bad your husband does not support that hobby of yours. tell him that he might benifit from it because it would make you romantic and sweet. Like you I am a sucker of romantic novels and other type of books, but my husband is so happy and glad of these hobby of mine. He buy books for me a lot, and encourages our daughter to love books as well. But I would dissagre with your husband because these books, broaden your minds, your thinking, your vocabulary and most of all IT MAKE YOU FEEL SO GOOD ! After a days work being a wife and a mother, reading a good book always bring you to a different world for a while. That gives you new energy, a smile and new perspective. It gives you a minute to forget where you are, how tired you are. But I guess a lot of guys are not into reading, just like my husband, he would rather watch History Channel rather than reading it in a book. Goodluck 1
@wayz12 (2059)
• United States
6 Dec 08
Thanks for the encouraging words! I think he has come around to my thinking, just grumbling by himself when he see me huddled with my books. Call them my "vampire smut"..LOL.. I would joking tell him, at least I'm fixated with impossible characters so he doesn't have really any competition..LOL Thanks for sharing!
@ladym33 (11009)
• United States
5 Dec 08
I believe that in a way it can, because women get in to romantic moods when they read them. They feel all flushed and romantic and can bring that home to thier husbands. Of course it can also hurt the relationship too, because their husband or boyfriend or what ever is not likely to behave like the romantic male lead in the book, and it could set the poor guy up badly by comparison. As the woman in the relationship can get annoyed by him not behaving like the hero in the story.
@wayz12 (2059)
• United States
5 Dec 08
Point in hand, I think guys should check out what their wives are reading. Then maybe they will have a clue to be a better husband...and if the wives get all "hot and bothered" over what she is reading..guess who is getting the reward...LOL.. Thanks for sharing!
• India
5 Dec 08
Only till a certain age. In our growing years, we read lot of mushy romance and wish for similar things to happen in real life. But of course that rarely happens and in practical life, we cant afford to get influenced by novels.
@wayz12 (2059)
• United States
5 Dec 08
I think its a weak mind that cannot differentiate fiction from reality. The books are a pleasant diversion, nothing much. Thanks for sharing!
@jonesy123 (3950)
• United States
28 Nov 08
I came across this old discussion of yours and after reading it I had to laugh. Your husband is like mine but add on that he thinks it's just junk literature and only females can be suckers enough to read it, lol. Anyhow, I'm like you, it's a pick me up, easy to read, but we know it's not reality kind of deal. However, your husband is partially right, too, as some people tend to think that romance really has to be like that. But TV does the same job. There is movies that can give people the very same perception of a perfect happily thereafter etc. Just have to remain realistic;)
@wayz12 (2059)
• United States
28 Nov 08
Thanks for bringing this old discussion to life..LOL! I'm like you...I see my books as my means to escape reality for a few brief hours. With so many issues to deal with in our daily lives, I like to read something where my happy ending is guaranteed. I see it as a breather from daily routine, and a chance to refresh myself. I'm aware though that some people can go overboard..but if that is the case, there is already a problem with their grasp of reality and they just found something that pushed them over...LOL..