how do you convince your other half that you're way over your past relationship?

Philippines
February 14, 2007 11:50am CST
my hubby is extremely jealous and whenever past relationship is discussed he cant stop asking me if i still love the guy. and the rest of the discussions would come to a fight.
4 responses
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
14 Feb 07
Just a question? why are you talking about past relationships? shouldn't you be talking about your present one? I think going back to the past and talking about your ex's is not good for either of you. They should be left in the past and you both should be focussing on your present relationship. I don't like it when my hubby brings up something in regards to one of my ex's and I tell him straight up that its in the past and there is no need to bring it up again! End of story!
• Philippines
14 Feb 07
i wish he'd listen! whenever i say that he'd say im guilty of the fact that im not really over with it coz i react so much.
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
14 Feb 07
I know what you mean. Hmm have you tried not reacting and see what he does or says?
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• Philippines
15 Feb 07
tried the silent reaction. but he'd comment furthermore that im guilty of the fact. sometimes this kind of argument pisses me off. i even tried talking to him when we are not arguing that we should already leave the past behind but, when we argue even if the fight is not about the past he would always bring the matter out.
@mikncas (73)
• United States
15 Feb 07
Tell him if you still loved the ex you never would have married him he is the one you chose to spend the rest of your life with and you are tired of arguing over this constantly. My hubby constantly was questioning me about his buddies like there was something going on with them after about 6 months of it I got tired of it and said "YES, I am sleeping with your buddies and anyone else that will put out!!!" You should have seen his face. Priceless... His mouth dropped to the floor and after about 30 seconds he said "Really?" I told him that was obviously what he wanted to hear or he wouldn't keep asking. After about 10 minutes of him thinking about that then he asked if I was serious I told him NO but I am done arguing about it and if that is what he wanted to hear I would be happy to agree. He tried one more time after that I only said "You know I am!" needless to say he has accepted the truth and no longer goes there... good luck
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• United States
14 Feb 07
You just have to stay constant and be patient with him. Also, his feelings may get so heated because he himself feels guilty for remembering a past lover and wishes to shove this onto you.
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@BlackBay (584)
• Canada
14 Feb 07
I leave the past in the past and live in the here and now. I don't give any revelance to past relationship that my husband has had, they are of no importance to me and he feels the same about any relationship in my past.
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