If a family member wasn't family, would they be your friend??

@James72 (26829)
Australia
February 14, 2007 10:18pm CST
They say that blood is thicker than water..... You can choose your friends but you can't choose family etc etc but think about this..... Think about the personality traits and mannerisms of your family members and ask yourself - "If we were not related and met socially somewhere, would I actually like this person??" I have thought about this many times and to be honest, there are a number of family members that I would have nothing to do with whatsoever if they weren't related! I wonder if they ever think the same of me?? Anyone relate to this? (pun intended)
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• United States
15 Feb 07
to be honest, i dont think i would be friends with many or any of them. but really i dont think it would be an option seeing as i am the next to the youngest person in the family. i mean there would never be a situation that would make it happen i dont think. i get along with my family fine and love them all, but that is a good thing to ponder on a rainy day whether or not i would like them as i do, but of course i know them so well and grew up around them so i really dont have the first impression of them.
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
15 Feb 07
It's not easy to think outside our family ties as we will always be more socially accepting and tolerant with family purely because they are family. And as for first impressions, arguably you would have first hand knowledge of who they really are yes? Thanks for responding.
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@Zo0mZo0m (1357)
• United States
15 Feb 07
My greatest admirer and friend is my sister. Other than that I would not select the majority of my family memebers as friends cause we have absolutely nothing in common. We are like two peas coming from entirely different pods. Many of my family members are criminal minded, liars, just folks I would not give the time of day to. I do not socialize with them. We are on parallel lines going the opposite direction. They're on the path of destruction I'm on the opposite path living righteously. We're like night and day. They're of the darkness, I am of the light. I'll put it this way they want nothing to do with me and vice versa. I like it this way.
@James72 (26829)
• Australia
15 Feb 07
Fair enough! I too am close to my sister and also my Mother. I have nothing whatsoever to do with the rest. I gave up on that a long time ago! I am not judgmental, I am just concentrating on my own life while they concentrate on theirs. They are who they are and I am who I am! Thanks for responding.
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@Zo0mZo0m (1357)
• United States
15 Feb 07
Anytime. It was my pleasure.
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@Tetchie (2933)
• Australia
15 Feb 07
Good question. I am the black sheep. I spent years undoing the guilt of not doing what was expected, being dutiful, do the right thing mentality. I endured boring football and cricket matches and family gatherings I had no interest in. I have very little, if anything, in common with any family members and I don't think we would ever cross paths socially to begin with. Interesting to ponder this question. So I definitely relate!
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
15 Feb 07
I too am most definitely the black sheep! Not so much in terms of interests but more so in my view on the world and my way of dealing with it. Thanks for responding.
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@Thomas73 (1467)
• Switzerland
15 Feb 07
I am also definitely the black sheep of my family. The one who's endeavoured to travel extensively, document himself, and open his mind. I don't think I ever could be friends with any of my surviving blood relatives.
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
15 Feb 07
Sometimes thinking outside the square is seen as family treason! I know I have suffered immensely because of it..... Thanks for responding.
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