who do you prefer when asking for an advice?

Philippines
February 15, 2007 10:38am CST
is it from your friends? or is it from your parents? for me i usually ask an advice from my friends.. because im shy asking my parents for some advice.. hehehe
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@babyhar (1339)
• Canada
16 Feb 07
When I am wanting advice about something that is going on within my life or a situation in general. The first person I turn to for advice is my other half. Since the very beginning before we had even decided to be in a relationship together.. He was one of the very first people who I would turn to in time of need. The reason I turn to him is because I know if I am needing someone to tell me the truth.. I can turn to him & he will be honest with me when it comes to how he may see things when it comes to certain situations. He not only will give me advice, but he will also support me at the same time. I haven't come across a lot of people over the years.. Who will try to give me the best advice that they possibly can.. Meanwhile being supportive all at the same time. I love how we are so honest with each other & turn to each other when needing advice, as well as support. I have never had that with someone before.. Another person whom I turn to when I need some honest advice, but also support is one of my girlfriends online. I can turn to her & she will try to see things from every angle. And will tell me upfront if I am over-reacting when it comes to certain situations that may be going on within my life at that point in time. I like how when I turn to her she will be honest with me, but also stand by me. The person I turn to the most though when I am needing advice or support is my other half. No one has been there quite like he has over the last few years. He has never turned his back on me & will always be there to comfort me.. As well as give me advice that I can take in to consideration later. I am unable to talk to my parents, as well as my sibling about personal matters. As well as to give me advice. As they truly never do not understand & a large majority of my life.. My mother has never truly been supportive with the advice she is willing to give.. Her advice has always been to suck it up & carry it on in every situation I have been faced with.. To me that is not good advice because you cannot always do that in life.. At least with my other half I am able to be honest & upfront with my feelings.. I also know at the same time that if I was to cry in-front of my other half that he wouldn't tell me to smarten up or suck it up.. Instead he would hold me & tell me everything is going to be okay.. I grew up with a family who thought crying was a weakness so I much rather turn to someone for advice other than my family.. And I know that my other half will be there for me if I need him.. I believe I need people like this apart of my life, who will give me advice to help me get through some rough patches along the way. And won't judge me when I ask them for advice on certain things that I may be going through at that point in time.. Or even if I begin to cry while asking for advice because the situation is so painful to talk about! . . In conclusion.. I am very cautious when it comes to turning to people for advice.. As I trust very few in this day & age as you cannot trust just anyone I find.. I like turning to people who I know will not only give me the best advice possible.. But people who at the same time will be supportive of me along the way no matter what type of advice I may need at that point in time! . . Thanks for allowing me to share! xx
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• Philippines
19 Feb 07
wow.. hehe.. its worth reading.. thankz.. ^^
• Singapore
15 Feb 07
my bf will be the first one ever...he's like my diary and confidant. i will tell him everything and he will always give me advice. if not, then it will be with my best friend. i can trust both of them a lot...
• Philippines
16 Feb 07
uhmm.. what if your problem is involving your bf and bestfriend?.. who can you lean on to?.. or can ask advice?
@Rexy_leigh (1189)
• Philippines
16 Feb 07
It's really a case to case bases. If my problem would be concerning me and my boyfriend, then I'd sure will go ask help from my mom. We have this connection that she can feel whatever heartaches I have. But if ever am having problems with some other things, Id most probably seek advice from my boyfriend coz I need to see how well can we both handle and get through difficult times. That would also be a test for us if we can be a good couple, and good parents our kids can be proud of.
• India
15 Feb 07
Hey mate, I would be depending upon your question (advice) if personal you can't tell your problems except your friends. then you should ask a guide with your friends only. if it's related to your family or your life U should take advise from parents. i think that is the better for every one. mine also doing the same.
@maddysmommy (16236)
• United States
15 Feb 07
Hi, it really depends on what advice I need. If its personal then i ask my husband, my sister or my best friend. If its family related then i talk to family members, my parents or i sought advice online. If its work related, then i talk to my work colleagues or my supervisor.
@hazydazy (783)
• United States
15 Feb 07
I ask my husband and my best friend. I rarely involve my parents. They have raised me and do not need to be bothered with my problems.