to give or not to give?

Philippines
February 15, 2007 7:10pm CST
i always give money or gifts to my parents whenever i visit them, it is my sign of love and appreciation for what they have done for me. but i talked to my other friends and they told me that they do not do that for some reason, they say that they do not give because you are teaching them to become dependent on you,and once they get used to it,they won't work and they depend on you. for me that is not true,,, how about you? are you doing the same thing? do you give or not?
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7 responses
@yana0806 (565)
• Philippines
16 Feb 07
Just always remember, giving is better than receiving... May God Bless you for that is the best thing you can do for your parents!
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@patrice7 (1194)
• United States
17 Feb 07
wow!. i think that that is a good way of making your parents happy and feel cared for.. i dont think and i dont believe that we are teaching our parents - our very own mother and father - dependence when we give them money.. these people are responsible for bringing us here on earth and they are the ones who provided us noursihment and education and all the things in life that made us who we are and that made us able to reach our goals.. giving them gifts is a sign that we are very happy and thankful for the gifts that they have given us and all that. i would do the same thing and actually all my earnings here in mylot are being given to my parents because i would want to help them in our financial endevours and all.
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@Gwapako_28 (2142)
• Philippines
17 Feb 07
My parents are old and they are sickly!But every time i have enough money to share, i always give them so they can use it for emergency purposes at the same time, a way of saying "THANK YOU" for them as a good parents!My other sisters too and brothers are doing the same!My parents are very hard working when we are still kids and now that we their sibling which are 9,finished our studies,i guess, its a right time for us to return (through giving them money)the hardships that they encounter those days that they are struggling!
• India
16 Feb 07
Well..i dono why your friends thought like that..as you can see..your parents are old and you visit them just once in a while..Dont you think they've worked enough all their life?Dont you think they deserve some rest at this age??..in a way..being dependant is not good..but they must be worried abt that..y r u worrying about they being dependant on you?It must be a pleasure for you to serve your parents at this age, for what they've done for you..And you giving them, only brings joy to them...They've lived life for this many years and they ceratinly know how to take care of themselves at this age..am sure they're not dpendant on you to take care of them...But when you give them something..they're just glad that you think of them and respect them...If u stop, they're not gonna suffer a living..but they're gonna certainly feel sad about the change in you..Perhaps..you should have thought about this..after all, more than others..you must know your parents well..and understand them..You've received enough from them all these years..It's time now to repay..do it..without questioning..or listening to others' worthless stories!!
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@charms88 (7543)
• Philippines
16 Feb 07
I don't see any reasons why we should not give money to our parents. For as long as they are not demanding you to keep supplying them with money. And for as long as you feel comfortable with it, then go ahead.
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@raveemenon (1071)
• India
17 Feb 07
Your friends are either nonsensical or selfish to say the least with all respect to them. My father was not at all dependent on me he had a five figure pension and supported whoever among us required help. But still whenever i visited him i used to buy books for him since he was a writer and a voracious reader. I do not think that we need to teach our parents. we learned from them. I am still proud of many a practical advice given by him and i do not think that i made him dependent on me for his books. They have looked after us. They deserve something from us as a token of our love and affection. For a moment ,ask your friends what would be their reaction if their children ignore them and do not show any affection?
• United States
17 Feb 07
on special occasions i take my parents out to dinner rather than give gifts. they live in an r.v., they've pets and finding a place that allows -any- pets and isn't a dump or doesn't charge a fortune here is absolute murder. space is at a premium.