Do your kids tell you often that they care?

United States
February 15, 2007 8:33pm CST
I have teenagers and the days of snuggling and hugging and sitting together reading have pretty much gone astray. The other day, however, my son did something that touched me so much. He came in with is IPod and said "mom, listen to this song". I put the headphones and a song by TuPac plays called "Dear Momma". It tells about how he appreciates her and all she's done through her life to make his life good. All the hardships she's gone through. And just keeps saying "Dear Momma, you're appreciated". It brought me to tears. Have you had moments when your kids just "let it slip" how much they love you? Special moments, like just before bed when they're little, looking up into your eyes with such love and adoration and say "I love you mommy" or stop in the middle of playing and smile and yell out "love you mom". These are the best moments of motherhood if you ask me. When they tell you how much you've made a difference to them, sometimes without them even realizing they're doing it.
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@Debs_place (10551)
• United States
16 Feb 07
My son is in the Navy and calls almost daily to say HI and sometimes several times a day. He always ends with love you. The other night, he was leaving to go out and made me feel so small, I was standing and he bent down to kiss me on top of the head. I think the best time was about 2 years ago, he had enlisted in the Navy, he told me that I had spent all my time since he could remember taking care of him and placing him first, I had been a single Mom since he was 7, and now with him graduating from high school and going in the Navy, I could resume my life and put myself first for a change. He was furious, when 2 days before his graduation, I found out that I was losing my job. As he said, all of these years you work for them and made sure I graduated and they could not give yuo a vfew more days to be happy. Yup they can get to me... the real tear jerker - I was in graduate school...he was about 4 or 5, Iused ot get up at 5 or 6 AM on Saturday and SUnday so I could study before he got up. One day I barely got started and there he was, Mom, I am hungry, I told him I was studying and he should go watch tv or go back to bed. About a 1/2 hour later, he came back, with some French toast on a dirty plate, for my breakfast. He had taken it from the freezer, nuked some, ate it then used the same plate to make me breakfast. Boy, did I fee guilty.
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@jillbeth (2711)
• United States
16 Feb 07
That's so sweet that he made breakfast for you! Sounds like you raised a self-sufficient young man.
@Sissygrl (10999)
• Canada
16 Feb 07
I know the song well. my hubby is like a tupac FANATIC. it's crazy. and that is one of the songs i do really like. I am lookin forward to when my daughter is old enough to talk and say i love you back. i tell her a million times a day!
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• United States
16 Feb 07
Isn't the song amazingly touching? Never stop telling your little one you love her... even when she's grown and married!
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• Philippines
16 Feb 07
i always hug my parents and kissing them whenever i have time to visit them. and i always say i love you to them, as my parents taught us to say it while we were young andthey always tell it to us until now. my parents are showy about their feelings to us.they show and tell us how much they care. and i really aprreciate that all my life...
• United States
16 Feb 07
Good girl. Chances are we don't get to keep our parents forever so letting them know how special they are to us when they're here is a wonderful thing.
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• United States
16 Feb 07
You just brought tears to my eyes. What a sweet thing to do. I love how much my kids tell me they love me. They tell me all the time. I am going to be a basketcase when the time comes where I am the last thing on their minds. :) Your son sounds like a sweet young man. No matter how old they get, they still love their mom...it's just not "cool" to say it too much at a certain point in their lives. My kids are 5 and almost 3. They say they love me so many times a day. I love it so much. I love how they hug and kiss me out of the blue just for no reason. Thank you for this little story...it was really sweet.
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• United States
16 Feb 07
Wow what a great moment! Those are the ones us moms cherish! My daughters are now both married but just today my oldest, called me(she and her family recently moved into their first home so it had been about a week since we talked.) She called me today and in the midst of talking she said, I hope you visit soon, I miss you mom! This made me sooo happy because technically she is my step daughter but I consider her mine, because her real mother wasnt really there for her. So for her to say that then say I love you! I wanna see you all soon! Need less to say, we are heading over there monday am! *smiles*
• United States
16 Feb 07
Awww. I don't even want to think about when my oldest goes to college next year! LOL We are so very close. Sometimes we just don't realize how lucky we are to have our kids until they remind us. :-D
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@clownfish (3278)
• United States
16 Feb 07
Hi! Oh, that is so awesome! You are obviously doing something right! :-)
16 Feb 07
Well my son does talk fully yet. He can only talk basicly. although he knows when someones unhappy and wants to cheer them up. which shows he cares =) Often when i look upset he comes poking and pinching at my knees trying to get my attention. when i give it to him because most times when i don't have him i'm doing some programming etc. He goes "dadda, daddy, my daddy. mine!" It's really cute when he does it. Kudos ~Joey
• United States
16 Feb 07
That was so sweet-I know the song you're talking about-i love it-Yes I've experienced moments like you described above I have a 3 year old and out of nowhere he'll say "I love you mom" and i'll say "i love you too" then he'll say "you love me mom?" and i'll say "yes" and he'll say " I love you too" he's in a phase where he confirms everything-he's so cute.
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@reinydawn (11651)
• United States
16 Feb 07
My youngest joined the Navy a couple years ago and the first place he was sent was a ship in Japan. When he got there, most of the guys expected him to be like the rest of the newcomers and think they didn't have to do anything. Well, he gained a lot of credit with them because he was always doing extra work. When the next new batch came on, he resented them because they all DID think they deserved everything handed to them. He called me and thanked me for giving him good work ethics and making sure he always followed through with what he started and did his best at his job. It was hard, but I managed not to cry!!!
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@jillbeth (2711)
• United States
16 Feb 07
Sounds like you raised a great young man, too!
@reinydawn (11651)
• United States
16 Feb 07
Thanks :) I did my best, and it looks like I might have done SOMETHING right after all!! Hey, he's not an angel though, so I guess I have to take credit for when he was confined to the ship for 45 days because of some "trouble" he got into.... I don't know that I'll ever get the whole story on that one. Gotta take the good with the bad, eh?
• United States
16 Feb 07
Aww, how sweet! I myself am a teenager, and I am very close to both of my parents. It is sad that, in school, I hear other say things like "oh gawd, I hate my mom!" How could someone say that!?
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• United States
27 Mar 07
After nearly losing me to cancer, my kids will out and out tell some of those unappreciative kids what idiots they are to say such a thing. Even if they're mad at me, they remember they love me and I do the same for them. I suppose some people don't realize what they're saying?
@coolcatzz (1589)
• Canada
16 Feb 07
I can totally relate although I'm lucky in one way. My son was cuddly and a Mommy's boy till he was about 8 and then my daughter was born and she took his place. Boys are different though because some think it's wrong for a male to show emotion. They care they just can't express it as freely as a girl can. My daughter is always hugging and kissing me and making me cards and telling me how much she loves me. She is 9 by the way. I'm sure that will start to fade some as she gets into the teen years but I'm hoping not too much. I know Christmas afternoon when my ex husband came to pick up the kids and take them to his place for a few days my son called me over (he is 18) and gave me this big hug and whispered in my ear thanks for a great Christmas Mom. I couldn't believe how long he held me. That meant so much to me. I thought about it for days while they were gone and I still think back to it today. When you get it a lot you take it for granted. When you never get it, when it does come along you are in shock. Treasure it Mom because that's his way of telling you he loves you without having to get too mushy.
@superbren (861)
16 Feb 07
i love to cuddle my kids , even the teenagers. we all say i love you several times a week. if we row we make up with a hug often. my eldest has told me i am a super mum and it makes me feel good. my middle girl is quieter but i know she adores me. as for my son he hugs me ever time he walks in the room. i hope we aere always as close even when they have moved out.
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• Canada
16 Feb 07
Hi there hockeygal4ever, Ah that touched me, yeah Tu Pac is one of my favourite artists! I have listened to him, since i was like 8! My brother's has all his clothing, his music, his video's, poster's, Pic's! Jeeze you name it, he has it! Dear Momma is a good song, i remember one night, my mom had a little get together in her garage, and no one listens to Rap. They are all middle age folke and they listen to Country, well my friends and I told them that it was out turn for the sterio, and we ended up putting on that song from Tu Pac. Dear Momma! lol, well then my mother started to listen to that song. It was great. Take Care
@KrisNY (7609)
• United States
16 Feb 07
That's great-- I'm glad your son made you feel loved... I'm lucky enough to have a 10 year old who still loves to be my cuddle bug! She even still holds my hand- it's cute. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't get I love you mommy.. or mom everyday. Kids are great aren't they-- I dread the day when she outgrows showing me her love daily.. Teen years-- Hopefully she will... just not hold my hand! : )
@sonnet (165)
• South Korea
16 Feb 07
I don't have kids myself yet but one of my biggest regrets is how much of a hard-time I gave my Mum in my teen years. She's still with us but I've lived overseas for the last 6 years and it's been the biggest thing on my mind, that when I finally get back home (next few months) to tell her how much I appreciate her for everything she's ever been for me in my life.
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@candygurl24 (1884)
• Canada
16 Feb 07
I love that song Dear Mama...I'm a huge 2Pac fan....and I can see how it would bring you to tears. Kudos on your appreciation of his lyrics. My children are 4 and almost 7, so they are still at the age that they show their love on a constant basis. They always love to cuddle up and play with my hair or "twiddle" my fingers..lol. Twiddle came from my 4 year old..she intertwines her fingers with mine and keeps changing it around and she tickles my hand at the same time..lol. I take advantage of our cuddle time as much as I can because I know the day will come that I'll have to threaten to take the cell phones, or whatever they have at the time, away for even a hug.
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@XxAngelxX (2835)
• Canada
16 Feb 07
Those are indeed the best moments of motherhood. My children tell me all the time how much they love me, but they will also come up in the middle of playing and give me a hug or a kiss. I love that they are not shy to show affection to me and hope this will continue well into their adulthoods. I grew up in a family where no affection was really shown and I always missed that, I don't want my children growing up that way.
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@Mommamea (1215)
• United States
16 Feb 07
Children don't always come right out and tell you how they feel in words. I am finding though as my kids are getting older they really do things that show me how much they do Love me. I find it even more meaningful as they are getting older, when they do say I love you or give me a hug I know it isn't just being a kid showing love but truly from the heart. My son now 11 still comes in and kisses me and my husband good night. My girls all have different ways of showing their love as well. My oldest calls me several times a week even though she lives in another state and has a family. My daughter who will be leaving in a couple of months because she is getting married still includes me in her daily activities. She calls to let me know where she is and when she will be home so we don't worry about her. My youngest daughter who is at a hard age right now is always asking if there is anything she can do for me. She tells me she loves me each morning before she goes off to school. It makes me proud to be a parent of such loving children.
@cdparazo (5769)
• Philippines
16 Feb 07
My kids not only tell me how much they care but they also get to show me in their own way that they love me very much. It is what makes being a parent so rewarding.. When i had a burn on my left thigh, my daughter made sure that nobody gets to touch or bump it and she even told me not to touch it or it wont heal...little things...like sticking by my side when im working late and making sure that i have company...or drawing some things that she would to me...or hugging on one instance that she saw me cry...they are just little things but they surely make me feel so blessed and ready to face another day.
@JC1969 (1227)
• United States
16 Feb 07
I have 3 kids aged 19, 16, 7. My son is now away at university and he emails me and messages me daily just to say "Hi Mom, I miss you." He has made sure to keep our relationship as close as ever despite the distance that keeps him from being here in our home. My 16 year old, we have nail night where we sit in my bed and do manicures and watch tv and connect. We do this weekly. She talks to me about everything and anything. Every morning before she leaves for school she says "See you later mom, love ya" and every night she gives her dad and I a hug before she retires to her room for the night. She spends alot of time with us and I am happy she hasn;t shut us out of her life like so many teens tend to do. My 7 year old, well she is all about drama and emotion LOL. She is our theatrical actress. There is not a day that goes by where she isn't telling us how special we are, hugging us and letting us know she appreciates us. I so hope she stays that way when she hits the teens.
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