is ChEatiNg really bad for a relationship...can it be healthy?

Philippines
February 15, 2007 11:38pm CST
don't get me wrong, i am not cheating on my boyfriend nor experienced cheating in the past or have plans of cheating in the future... according to an article i've read, cheating happens in relationship because one is not fully satisfied with his or her partner and that something/s missing in the relationship... i just want to know if cheating is really bad for a relationship...or at some point, can it have some redeeming values?
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@twinkle76 (103)
• Philippines
16 Feb 07
on my opinion, if you really love your bf/gf and u treasure ur relationship, dont bother to attempt cheating, it'l just ruin the trust u gained and it's very hard to earn that one again esp if the hurt is too deep.. else if you think your relationship is no good, break with ur bf/gf first so you wont give him/her false hopes :)
• Philippines
16 Feb 07
yeah, i believe so...thanks for dropping by!
• Philippines
16 Feb 07
the ends will never justify the means therefore cheating is really bad for a relationship. if you are in a relationship there should be a commitment and no matter what yoou love or hate about the person, you should accept it like a one package deal all rolled into one. it is never a reason that you are looking for something more because if thats the reason then why are you scavenging for something on a new person, the partner should have been considerate enough to tell the other whats more to the relationship.
• Philippines
16 Feb 07
that's a nice policy...i agree with your statement that a lack of something in a relationship is never a reason for cheating...thanks for your comment.?
@merkava (1225)
• Philippines
16 Feb 07
I never heard that cheating was supposed to be good for a healthy relationship?! It's beneficial though, to the cheater. People cheat for 2 reasons, incompatibility or they've found someone better.
@mayenskie (1308)
• Philippines
16 Feb 07
It is really hard to regain back the trust once it is broken. Once you cheated, even if you were given another chance to "rebuild" a relationship it would never be the same again, it would be good if the lesson learned from the cheating experience would be a strong bond in the relationship, but on most cases it eventually lead to break up since there's always gonna be this notion on the back of the cheated one's mind that his/her partner may still do so behind her back. As they say 'once a cheater, always a cheater'. A friend texted me once, he said ' A man worthy of your tears is the one who knows he can make you cry, but wont do so' I believe cheating is never planned, they say it just sort of happened, and i don't know why our hearts manage to still wander around and allow itself to be tempted even if somebody else is already holding its key.