Do you find it hard to let go of someone you loved?

Philippines
February 16, 2007 10:23am CST
I've been into several relationships lately but i just can't go on.. Reason? haven't moved on yet.. And i feel guilty for those people whom i tried to love because of this.. It took me months before I learned to grab my life back.. And its hard.. So.. have you guys felt the same way?! How long did it took you to say that you've already overcome it..?
3 responses
• United States
16 Feb 07
I have been through this on a couple occasions. It is natural to go through a sort of grieving process after just getting out of a relationship. After such relationship is over, to me, it gives one a chance to really think about what he/she really is looking for in one. The first time I got out of a relationship it took me a year. After the second relationship I got out of it took me 2 years to overcome and move on. It took so long because in both instances they had cheated on me, so it gave me a very bad outlook on most men. That was all before I met my husband whom I am still happily married to. It may take shorter or longer for other people, since we all are different in our emotional states, but everyone can overcome and move on to find their happiness once again in a relationship.
• Philippines
16 Feb 07
good to know that you now had found your happiness.. well actually.. being happy is what's important..^^
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• United States
17 Feb 07
Couldn't agree with you more. It is so much better to be happy with things, than feeling like you are lower than dirt. Keep your chin up, your happiness will soon find you again.
• United States
16 Feb 07
I think one of the hardest things to do is let go of someone you really love. It's going to take time to overcome what you're experiencing if it even ever happens. Sometimes people go through life never getting over something or someone. One day it might just hit you that you don't care anymore or you may have to struggle with it for years. It depends on many different things. I just know that you're not alone in this department. I wish you luck:)
• Philippines
16 Feb 07
thanks! well.. yeah.. people vary on how they will accept things.. resulting for them to move on..^^
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• Philippines
16 Feb 07
It's always hard to let go the person you love specially if you separated on a sour note and the problem wasn't ever settled. I experienced that a few days ago with the las girl I courted. I have a gf now for 6 years and she also understands my dilemma... she simply said "i know what it's like, so many things to say but she didn't give me the opportunity to tell her how I feel" so in the end my feelings about her are all choked up inside. I can't let go of that even if I try to think of how mean she was to me. Just thinking about her being mean is a cheap way of forgetting her. In the end I still need to confront her. I gave up my pride for her a long time ago and it was worst when she insulted my integrity. Even my girlfriend respected my decision, she encouraged it.
• Philippines
16 Feb 07
we've never settled things really.. and that's one thing that really makes it hard.. i was left hanging.. thinking of what really happened.. why it end like that.. what went wrong.. am i not a good bf?! all of these stucked up into my mind for all those times.. cried a lot.. and it really consumed me.. i hate it.. but what else can i do.. but somehow.. i'm already freeing myself from that disease..