Expressing Yourself

United States
February 16, 2007 6:52pm CST
Can anybody give me some suggestions on how i can open up to my husband? He keeps telling me i need to open up but in a way i dont really know whats he is talking about. Even when i do think im opening up to him he still says im not so can somebody explain to me how to open up?
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@MiLaw8 (75)
• Philippines
17 Feb 07
That is also what my boyfriend told me that I have to open up with him so that we will be able to have a fruitful, satisfying and lasting relationship ahead of us. He felt that I have so many secrets and that I am not really opening up with him. Based on my experience, I did not change a thing about me. I just let him discover the real and true me. In that way he will be able to see me in different perspective and that he will truly understand me and that he will know that there are actions of mine that directly telling him... "Hey, am opening up... am telling you somethin' that is just between us...then I smile....." 8)
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• India
17 Feb 07
No one can give any kind of suggestion to you how to open up to yours husband as you surely believe that you are opened up with him aleady, only thing thats annoying you is that you cant reason with , what he meant by opening up. Let me throw some light on what realy yours husband meant by asking you to open up, I believe that there in some corner he feels that he has yet to discover you in totalty and there is a shade of yours persoanlity or life which he thinks he has yet to reach it. He feels that there are some suppressed emotions or feelings which stil are hesitent to come out. He want to feel them and want to be comfertable with them. May be you dont have anything new to tell him but some how he is under the impression that you not giving him 100% of yourself. It seem more his problem than yours so tackle him by asking him what he wants or what he realy looking for. And may be in the end you will be surprised to know yours own husband opening up to you and to able to see him in all togather prespective.
• United States
17 Feb 07
my husband is a jerk
• India
17 Feb 07
Well lady you seem to have already made a firm observation about yours husband, so I guess then you need to worry about this open up business as you must have an idea what this al labout . Any way best of luck with yours mariage.
@MsTickle (25014)
• Australia
18 Feb 07
Wow Aryangentleman you are a true psychic, right? Or else you are a really good friend of this lady's husband to know so much about him. "He feels that there are some suppressed emotions or feelings which are hesitant to come out" How on earth do you know this? The way I see this situation is the two of you are just on a different life path and definitely on different wavelengths. Figure out what attracted you both to each other in the first place and go from there. You're obviously wiser now than you were then. All the best.
@Dolcerina (3380)
• Hungary
17 Feb 07
Does he think you have secrets? Or maybe you do not speak enough :D , and he thinks you do not tell him your thoughts. I see there are some misunderstanding bettween you. Maybe he needs only the wife chattering...!!! Do smile and chatter to him. I am sure that after a while he will said: OK it is enough for now :) Discuss about each little thing that happened to you. Maybe you are only closed and silent a little. Aren't you? good luck to you
@trinale (1486)
• United States
17 Feb 07
He wants you to relate with him the same way you would relate to one of your girlfriends. Hopefully he understands that there are some distinct differences between men and women that are inherent to us. One of them being that women use both sides of their brains simultaneously while we men only use one side at a time. Start a dicussion with him on this topic and go from there.
@kapoet (271)
• Indonesia
17 Feb 07
Maybe you can be you. Yup, just be yourself. And try to ask him. What the things which he want to know from you. The communication is very important. If you shy to talk maybe you can give him an email or SMS.
• Philippines
17 Feb 07
i'm single but i think what your husband is saying is say everything that is bothering you. he thinks that there is something thats wrong with you. or you have a heavy feeling insie your heart that you need tell him. just tell him whats in your mind about life, whats in your mind and heart. sometimes you think you've already said everything but the fact is that you've just said a little to say. some people might think that they've said it but its like that to other people. its okay to say whats in your head as long its okay and will make you feel better.
@talisman (1308)
• United States
17 Feb 07
Why don't you ask him what he means, then? You need to be able to communicate with your husband. That might be part of it. Don't ask strangers what your husband is talking about, ask HIM!