How old were your kids when you stopped tucking them in?

@soccermom (3200)
United States
February 16, 2007 8:33pm CST
My hubby says that it's about time I stopped tucking our 11 year old daughter in every night. I say no way, I'll tuck her in every night until she's married if she'll let me! LOL She looks forward to it, and I like doing it, so what's the big deal? Kids grow up fast enough as it is. WHat are your thoughts? Any certain age you let your kids start putting themselves to bed?
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• United States
17 Feb 07
My children are 12,11,6 and 4 and i tuck them all in every night just about. and Im 32 years old and until I moved out at 18 from my moms and dads my daddy tucked me in every night. I always looked forward to that time of night it showed me I was loved and protected. So I say as long as she lets you tuck her in and keep giving plenty of hugs and kisses.
@soccermom (3200)
• United States
17 Feb 07
I'm also 32 and my parents and I both mutually agreed it was time for me to go at 16. I never remember getting tucked in and I think maybe that's why it is so important to me.
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@XxAngelxX (2832)
• Canada
17 Feb 07
My oldest was seven when I stopped tucking her in. She didn't want me to anymore. But my two youngest are 7 and 8 and I still tuck them in and will until they don't want me to anymore, even if it means I get to do it until they're married,lol. They do grow up so fast and anything I can do to keep them young I will do.
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• Morocco
17 Feb 07
is very good to taking with your kids every night this willy help her and you can now evrithing about her or him
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@all4ucnc (861)
• United States
17 Feb 07
I say tuck them in, smother them with hugs and kisses, for as long as they will let you. I read once that if a parent can give their child 15 minutes of feeling loved, through hugs, cuddling, quality time what ever, every day. Then they have a better chance of turning out to be well adjusted adults. Only 15 minutes a day. And you end up with good kids. Surely we can do that, But as they get to preteen, and teens, and start to delevope a life of their own, it gets harder to find that time. So tuck them, hug them before they go to school, what ever it takes to give them that time. It'll surely pay off in the end.
• United States
17 Feb 07
I will tuck my son in a slong as he is in our home lol..before i had sky..about 5 yrs ago..there was a bad acident and a bad gas leak from a truck and we couldnt stay in our home..so i went and stayed with my mom..mind you i was 28..well i went to the spare room,and a few mins later she knocks..comes in and lifted the blanket up and kissed me oon the forehead and said I LOVE YOU..G'IGHT..and it was weird but i suddenly got this peace about me..and i slept the best i had in years,,and its all because of that..weird huh? and i want the same sense of security an dlove for my son to feel..no matter how old he is,,he will always be my baby..:)
@asish1672 (339)
• United Arab Emirates
17 Feb 07
I think it is not required to force the kids to sleep seperately. At so me age, maybe when they attain puberty they will automatically want to sleep seperately. As a kid I have seen that at around 11 or 12 I started hating my parents following me to school and somewhere at the back of my mind I felt that I have grown old enough to manage my own. So when that stage is reached the kids will automatically want to be independent. As for my daughter, at 5 she denies to sleep seperately and will not sleep if her mom doesnt sleep beside her.
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@soccermom (3200)
• United States
17 Feb 07
We've never slept in the same bed as our kids. It's always been clear to them that our bed is ours, we kind of treat our bedroom as our own private, "kid free" zone.
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• Philippines
17 Feb 07
i have no certain age for children to stop tucking them into bed, like you i will do that until they want it. i will never stop doing that until they want me to stop it. why your husband say that? did you stop tucking him to bed? LOL..just kidding :) good day hapyp parenting to us...
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@soccermom (3200)
• United States
17 Feb 07
My hubby thinks I "baby" her. She's not spoiled by any means, He just thinks she's old enough to go to bed by herself. By the way...I tried tucking him in last night an dhe told me HE was too tired! LOL WE must be settling into married life! LOL
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• United States
17 Feb 07
That is your time to spend with your daughter and I think if you want to tuck her in every nite then that is fine. I am a mom and I tuck my 2 yr old in every nite. You also don't know how much time you will have to tuck her in once she becomes a teenager with raging hormones.
@cjthedog64 (1553)
• United States
17 Feb 07
My SS is 15.5 and I stopped tucking him in when DS was born, 14 months ago. It was just too hard to uproot the baby, so we'd just say a little good night. Now he says good night to DH and I before he gets changed and in bed. SD is 12 and still likes to be tucked in. Her mom has never done it, so she really enjoys it. DS - I tuck him in every night and check on him before I go to bed myself.
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@devilboy (1418)
• India
17 Feb 07
I don't have kids of my own, but I remember that my parents stopped tucking in my little sister when she was 10 years old...
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• United States
17 Feb 07
I think this one is a good question. My kids are just 4 and 6 months, but I think I will continue do it if both of us enjoying the time. You know, it is good that you two have the one on one time. I bet a lot of kids wish their parents do that because they will sure feel the love and bond.
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• United States
17 Feb 07
I don't think kids should ever have a certain age limit where their parents need to stop treating them like their child. Don't ever stop tucking your daughter in. I remember when I was younger I looked forward to my mother coming into my room, giving me a kiss good night and tucking me in. It's those little things that will always be in your daughters memory to remind her of how much you love her.
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• United States
17 Feb 07
Ahhh. I have never thought of it. My kids are 5 and 2. Im my mind I would be tucking them in forever. I never thought about there being a time it would stop. I wish my kids would stay young forever. ( Not really)
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• United States
17 Feb 07
My children are 9,7,4 1/2, 2 1/2 and I tuck them all in. I'll stop tucking them in when they ask me to. Childhood is so short and I want to enjoy every moment of it with them. I must admit that I'll be sad when they don't want to be tucked in anymore.
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19 Feb 07
I think age 11 is probably about the right time to make them go to bed on their own, but if it was me I would go and check 30 mins later or so to make sure that they were actually asleep or messing around! My Dad tucked me in till I was 15, I was really embaressed about it but he didn't want to stop, so its probably best to do it until your daughter says she is ok on her own.
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@ukchriss (2103)
18 Feb 07
I think I stopped tucking them in when they asked me too, which was about the teen age. But i still always checked on them before i went to bed and made sure they were still tucked in and all cosy when asleep.
@pumpkinjam (5782)
• United Kingdom
17 Feb 07
I moved out of my parents house when I was 24 and until then, my dad would still come in and tuck me in. If your daughter still wants that then don't discourage her. Your husband probably won't realise this but if you are the one to just stop tucking your daughter in at night before she is ready then she might feel like you are oushing her away.
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@babystar1 (4236)
• United States
17 Feb 07
I tucked my children in until they were 10 years old. After that they told me that I dont have to tuck them in anymore.I dont think you have to be a certain age to stop tucking in your kids, keep tucking them in as long as you can. Before you no it they will be all grown up and have children of there own.
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@ronita34 (3923)
• Canada
17 Feb 07
I agree with you i have two daughters that are only 2 and 5 but like you i think that i will be tucking them in for many years to come ... LOL!! I love saying goodnight to my daughters and snuggling them into their covers at night!! Telling them that i love them and to not let the bed bugs bite ... LOL!! I am 25 years old and i still love to receive affection from my Mother!! I think that you will know when it is time for them to let them put themselves to bed and until then do not change a thing!!! God Bless you and Your Family!!!