How long did you wait after you married to have children, and was it your choice

@all4ucnc (861)
United States
February 16, 2007 9:29pm CST
I had my first child 9 years after we got married, but we started trying after we were married for 3, so we wanted to wait, but then discovered I wasn't able, with some hormone therepy I finally had a little boy, nearly 2yrs later we decided to try again, started the hormones. And visited the doctors weekly to test levels and check ovulation. But was told sorry time and time again, I became very sick, thought I had the flu...Nope it's a girl, all those blood test from the doctor, still baffel my doctor. So doctors don't know everything,
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29 responses
• United States
17 Feb 07
I have been married for a few months now, since the end of the summer, of 2006, and still, no kids, so I guess, it will be a little longer. We are glad if they happen (by accident, or fate, as I see it), but we are not yet "planning" it. I guess, it is because we are still trying to work on being husband and wife, before we become mother and father. But, personally, we would both be grateful to have at least one child someday in the near future. I think children would complete our marriage, and unite us more.
@all4ucnc (861)
• United States
19 Feb 07
We thought 3 years of "us time" would have been perfect before bringing in a little, turns out my body had different plans for us. But it did eventually happen. And my husband and I are the best of friends, and had a lot of time for just us, so we don't feel we missed out on any fun, or quality time together, and are able to focus on planning lots of fun quality time with our family.
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@xelissa (777)
• New Zealand
17 Feb 07
We were married at the age of 20, and at the time I was already pregnant (of 3 motns), we didn't intend to, and it was a great suprise for us too. We met at 16 and have had a fantastic relationship and there were LOTS of people and I mean LOTS who thought we're too young to be married, it was a mistake, etc, our marriage is great, our relationship is stronger than ever and it is unbreakable and we love our daughter to bits. I had to give up my part-time job to be able to do studies and look after my baby. Sure it was difficult and everything but we made it through the hard times where many relatioships could've been torn apart.
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@all4ucnc (861)
• United States
19 Feb 07
Oh yeah, I was 18 when I married, My parents kept my room just as I had left, for 5 years before they decided maybe we were serious, and maybe even stood a chance of making it. It's been nearly 14 years now, and we've been through some serious storms, but we've been able to walk through them hand in hand.
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• Philippines
17 Feb 07
i am married for 19 years going to 20 this june. because of a miscarriage after 7 years of marriage, we keep on trying but i have not get preggy until now, so we decided to adopt a baby boy, last year. now he is four months old,and we are so happy having him, now we can call ourselves a family, a mommy a daddy and a baby. we are complete and i cannot ask for more...
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@babykay (2133)
• Ireland
18 Feb 07
I am so happy for you Krislouiebaby! Your happy tale has made my night. I was told I would need some help to have a baby and conceived all on my own (with my husband), despite having PCOS. We got married when our son was a few months old, cart before the horse I suppose! But we are really happy.
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@shaz6611 (951)
• Australia
18 Feb 07
That little boy sure is lucky to find home where he will be loved and treasured as all children should be. Isn't it nice to call yourselves a 'family'. That really is a story with a happy ending :)
@sylviekitty (2083)
• United States
17 Feb 07
I was just about to turn 24 when I got married, and I did not have my first child until I was 27 1/2 yrs old. I had my second when I was 29. Although my kids came a little closer together than I would have liked, I did have them both before I was 30, which is what I wanted.
@tp3144 (25)
• United States
18 Feb 07
Oh my goodness- I was the same age as you, getting married and having my kids. Plus, it was my goal to be done having kids by the time I was 30! How funny!!
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@asish1672 (339)
• United Arab Emirates
17 Feb 07
We had children after three and a half years of our marriage. Yes it was totally planned. After two and a half months we started trying but I failed to conceive my wife for two months. We tried lot of methods and atlast she conceived.
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@sophylline (1042)
• Philippines
17 Feb 07
We were able to conceive after 2 years from the time we got married. We've been trying and waiting.I did undergo some tests but they didn't find anything wrong. At last, we now have a beautiful baby girl.
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• Indonesia
17 Feb 07
when im married with my husband in 2005 .. i was pregnats 4 months and now my child age is 2 years .. im happy to being mom
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@shilpaum (1753)
• India
17 Feb 07
Its 2yrs. for our marriage, now we've decided to have baby,lets hope!
@royal52gens (5380)
• United States
17 Feb 07
Wait? Wait? Who waited? LOL We did everything out of order. We dated, got pregnant, got married, then had the baby and finally went on a honeymoon. That was 15 years ago. It has been adventure throughout.
• United States
17 Feb 07
That's what I was thinking as I was reading through the posts. Everything was backwards here too. I already had a daughter, we dated, got pregnant, got married, reception soon to follow and hopefully honeymoon too.
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• United States
20 Feb 07
We were married exactly 6 months before our first child was born. We were married on Nov. 21st and our daughter was born May 21st, which is my birthday too!
@sharon613 (2324)
• United States
19 Feb 07
I became pregnant three months after I had gotten married. I had my next one twenty four months later; then my next one 2 1/2 years later then my 9/11 surprise 13 years later.
@khysnews (743)
• Indonesia
18 Feb 07
that's about 10 month :)
• Philippines
18 Feb 07
We were married for more than two years before I got pregnant. It was a choice to be childless for the 1st year but then eagerness came in before the end of the 1st year. It wasn't easy at all for us as well as I had to go through a number of fertility monitoring, injectables to make my egg more susceptible to my husband's sperm. When we got pregnant, it's sweeter than ever. We thought it's going to be hard again for us to get pregnant the 2nd time around so we weren't controling at all. We were suprised that after 11 months, I was pregnant again. We now have two beautiful daugthers. The second pregnancy saved us from the expenses of fertility treatments again.
@shaz6611 (951)
• Australia
18 Feb 07
Yes, you are right...doctors don't always get it right! I had my first daughter almost 2 years to the day from when we were married and my son came along 4 years later. It took a while the second time around as we were planning a 2 year age gap, but sometimes the best laid plans dont always work. 4 years actually turned out to be a fantastic age gap with my daughter being a great help with her brother when he was a baby.
@jerpogz13 (283)
• Antarctica
18 Feb 07
i am married for 6 years now.and we have 2 kids already! at the age of 19 i got pregnant and we plan to got married.i give up my studies because of what happened.he continue his studies and he got his part time job.i guess that were happy inpite of what happen and what matters most is we continue loving each other so much.
@apky12 (775)
• United States
18 Feb 07
We didn't wait long. I was pregnant 4 months after we got married. We had been together though 11 years when we got married so we were ready once it happened.
@Chele2k2 (242)
17 Feb 07
We had our first child together, 13 months to the day after our wedding day. I know it was quite soon after but it was something we dicussed and decided together. I am happy for you that you were eventually able to go on and have a baby boy and many congratulations with your baby girl, I wish you all the very best, enjoy your children.
@jimotman (634)
• Indonesia
17 Feb 07
I have my daughter after I was married for 1 year, so when my marriage got into the second year, my wife got pregnant. yes we didn't want to have a baby right after we got married, so what happened to us is really a blessing, because I hear so many people say that when you're postponing having a child, in the future when you really want it, usually it'll be quite hard to have a child.
• China
17 Feb 07
I did not get married ,do not know these things
• China
17 Feb 07
I did not get married ,do not know these things