is giving really a pleasure??!

@Fishish (697)
India
February 17, 2007 1:40am CST
have u ever given something u have valued a lot to someone? how do u feel after u part with your valuables this way? have u ever regretted doing this charity or has it made u feel happy like people say it does??
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@shmeedia (1045)
• Canada
17 Feb 07
yes, once i gave my futon to my dearest friend. although i used it as a couch, she had nothing to sleep on, so i thought she should have it rather than me keeping it. for me it was mostly to watch tv on, but she was sleeping on 2 chairs pushed together! so i gave her my futon, and moved it to her house in snowy weather. at that time she seemed grateful, but about 1 week later, she called to ask me if it was okay if she sold my futon! i told her no, that was not cool! after the effort i made to help her....and actually she lied. she asked me if i would let her sell it because she had already promised it to a customer!!!!! i was SO angry and at the end, she disappeared without ever telling me where she went. i had my boyfriend go over to get at least the mattress back so that i could have my couch back from such a lying and ungrateful "friend". it's been over a year without news from this 'friend'. she doesn't even respond to my emails and she was addicted to the internet lol. i know a futon isn't such a prized posession, but the value of this material object ended up symbolizing our so-called friendship ;)
@Fishish (697)
• India
17 Feb 07
hey thats really sad. it hurts to see people not give enough value to ones sentiments. it is not the material thing futon which she misused but the kindness you showed to her, that she did not value.really upsetting to read a msg like that...but u know what God serves such people right and we dont even have to make an effort to avenge ourselves.He will give her what she deserves...
@shmeedia (1045)
• Canada
17 Feb 07
sorry it upset you. it upset me too of course. if she was an acquaintance, maybe it wouldn't be so bad. but she was my BEST friend. we saw each other almost every day (we lived a block away from each other). the futon was definitely a symbol more than an object. a futon can be bought again, but a friendship was lost.
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@Fishish (697)
• India
17 Feb 07
but such riends are not worth your thoughts! they should not be missed. dont have ill feelings for her, do forgive but dont forget...
• United States
19 Feb 07
I can't say material things are so much a biggie. But I give all my daughters clothes to a woman on freecycle.com. she works with the battered womans shelter. I give toys to the homeless thru the boxes put around during Christmas. along with other minor things. But the one thing that makes me feel GREAT!!! I have put a side my comfort and personal safety issues to allow homeless people to stay with me. Theses were people I had known from no where. I met a woman at my job. My daughter was 3 we had just left a homeless shelter. She had aked about shelters to go to. She was hungry,filthy,stink you name it. I fed her on my money and took her home. a week later I came home she was gone. Under my table stood a can of hundreds of dollars. She had known it was there. And never touched it. She sent me a letter telling me how I saved her life that night. That had I not taken her in she would have killed her self. another few years later,I found a drunken man on my friends door step. Crying and sad. I told him to come on in. Gave him a few clothes and he stayed for about 2 months. Got a job,slowed down on drinking and now is married. doing better more great stories to many to right.
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@Fishish (697)
• India
19 Feb 07
thats great. hope there are moe people like u around:)
@Katlady2 (9920)
• United States
18 Feb 07
Yes, I have. It feels good if the person receiving is appreciative of what you've done. But if someone you've given to is ungrateful and constantly asking for more, those are the ones that dampen your efforts.
@Fishish (697)
• India
18 Feb 07
yo how apt! if u give something it should be to someone who will value it and your deed..
@babyjane (1395)
• Philippines
17 Feb 07
Sharing to others what you have is really a great pleasure not a pressure. lol. It's nice to know you have shared what God gave you that in times of difficulties, they shared theirs too. But giving or sharing others what you have is one of the best thing you've done that make your life worth living but don't expect something in return.
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@Fishish (697)
• India
17 Feb 07
how true. 'giving' is pure only when u dont expect anything in return...
@teison2 (5924)
• Norway
17 Feb 07
Yes i have given away something I valued a lot. I once gave an exchangestudent i'd gone to school with for a year a gold cross that meant a lot to me. It made me feel really good at the time, and even now after we have not been in touch for years I do not regret it. She meant a lot to me and I wanted her to know that. Giving her something she knew I treasured I think was a good way of showing her what she meant to me.
@Fishish (697)
• India
17 Feb 07
great. u must be feeling connected that way...and ur friend, i am sure, still has it with her and values it as much as u do... :)
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