does distance matter in a relationship

Nigeria
February 17, 2007 5:26pm CST
does it really matter,if you are apart,like schooling in a different school in different state or trust is the priority.lets hear your views.
6 responses
@victor234 (507)
• Brazil
18 Feb 07
yes I thin so. 2 years ago I was study in another city far of mine that my girlfriend live. She couldnt stay far of me for 1 month. all months I came back to see her. we Almost broke our date because of it. Its too difficult for both stay far one of other. I studied there for 1 year only and I came back to my city and now we are dating for 3 years.
@LittleMel (14055)
• Canada
18 Feb 07
Depends on the person. Are you two mature enough to be loyal to each other, even if your lover is not with you physically. Some people could go as far as having on night stand and call it "just one of those nights", some people just stick to phone calls. I am one of few people who believe that if you are not married or engaged, then you are free. My husband and I met on Yahoo Chat, at the time I was dating someone else online already. Then he sent me a necklace (it is a sign of engagement in my culture) so I dropped my other online date and we got married 6 months after. I think you should make it clear with your lover the dos and do nots, although you might think it's clear already.
@alantae (245)
• United States
17 Feb 07
It certainly does have an impact on relationships, but I don't buy it when people use it as an excuse to end a relationship. I personally know how it can strain a relationship, but my feeling is that if God wants the relationship to work out than the distance will not be the end of it. I know people who have ended relationships because of the distance but I also know people who have overcome it. It definitely requires a new level of commitment from both parties, and lots of work and patience, but I also know that it can be overcome.
@mememama (3077)
• United States
17 Feb 07
My husband and I had a long distance relationship for nearly 2 years before we got married. He went into the military 6 months after we left and was stationed far away. When I wasn't able to call him, we'd write letters. We were sure to communicate with each other somehow, we knew our relationship was worth it. I trusted him, I knew he was in love with me so I knew we wouldn't have any problems. For those two years, we saw each other in person twice. He actually had to propose over the phone, there was no way he'd be able to see me and he wanted to do it. So if you really want the relationship to work, it can happen. I think that it helped that we knew each other at least for a short while before it became long distance too.
• United States
17 Feb 07
Distance does matter, because phone calls are no where as near as face to face. And it is hard to be sincere and really mean what you say when you talk on a phone. But if you are at diffrent schools things can be worked out.
@cassidy22 (2975)
• United States
17 Feb 07
It certainly can. Distance can realy impact a relationship. it can create unfounded jealousy, or lack of trust. It can create emotional distance - because you can't spend as much time together. Some couples can handle the distance, but I think any relationship that has trust or jealousy issues is NEVER going to make it through distance. I also think the age of the couple and the level of committment matter.