my friend has parted ways with her real sister...isn,t it sad..

relationships - relations make a life worth living...
@Fishish (698)
India
February 18, 2007 12:33am CST
they were very thick before marriage but then things changed, one was happily married and earning and the other was not as happy and a stay-at-home mum. that caused jealousy and ego clashes. now they have parted ways. is it not really sad? i dont understand how blood relations can differ so much....
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@kathy77 (7488)
• Australia
18 Feb 07
Yes it is sad when sisters drift apart jealousy can cause all sorts of problems, it is a shame though that they have come to this blood relations can differ a lot I have a friend of mine and she is not close to her sister due to jealousy but when they need her to do something for them then she will hear from them but only to use her and then ask her when is she leaving so I think that this is worse.
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@Fishish (698)
• India
18 Feb 07
either yoru friend is way too forgiving or lonely or scared. i dont think it is fair on her part to everytime take nonsense from her relatives. should not she put her foot down?
@kalav56 (11503)
• India
18 Feb 07
Exactly--it is high time she put heer foot down
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@teison2 (5924)
• Norway
18 Feb 07
I agree, it's really sad. But I'd say there is still hope for them. They used to be close so i believe they can be again. It is so difficult when jealousy gets between to good friends. So many things often gets bottled up. If only people were able to talk through these things. I hope they will work it out. Sisters can be a wonderful thing to have!
@Fishish (698)
• India
18 Feb 07
yo hope that some day they can resolve their differences. i really hope they would. but that will probably take time as they will have to forgive adn foret which takes time.
@kalav56 (11503)
• India
18 Feb 07
Relationship is a two way street and no one has the right to take anyone else was granted. Their thickness before marriage would have been the cause of one investing too much on the other---otherwise this split would not have taken place. eqality in any relationship--mutual respect and realisation and recognition of the need for each other will make relationship healthy and no jealousy or ego can mar this. Obviously one of these elements[under the category of reciprocity] was missing and I am sure if you analyse it deeply with objectivity you will come to the same conclusion.
@Fishish (698)
• India
18 Feb 07
profound words. yes her sister must not have equally responded to her affections and hence she called it quits. and relations are mutual, or else they are not relations at all..
@sunnypub (2131)
• United States
18 Feb 07
I would say that the relationship was not as good as they made it out to be before they split otherwise things like jealousy and ego clashes wouldn't tear them apart. I have been thorugh was worse things with my family but we are still friends. When I say way worse, I mean actual court dates nad sentencing kind of stuff, but I was raised that family stands by family and even though the court thing was terrible and really hard for us all to get through, we did manage to get through it. True relationships don't end over little, petty things.
@Fishish (698)
• India
18 Feb 07
but i think people change with time and when your husband and children become important u kinda neglect your old relations (some people do, not all)...good that u pulled along and managed to keep relations...
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@crazy_me (591)
• Philippines
18 Feb 07
That is indeed sad. Rivalry and jealousy could really destroy a good relationship among siblings. When I was growing up, me and my older sister always fought. She did not like me much because I was the favorite grand child and niece. Now we are ok, but still not that close to each other. I hope we could be really close because she is my only sister. I hope your friend and your sister can still patch things up. I hope they could just look past the differences in their current lives and just remember the days when they were still single and enjoyed each other's company so much.