Two kids,more or one?

India
February 18, 2007 12:11pm CST
Now that i have a 11month old baby...my in-laws are telling me to have another one quickly so that they can both grow up fast together.But i am in a dilemma as i have put my career on hold and its tough to handle one..two or more seems like craziness..what would you do?
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@sacmom (14316)
• United States
6 Mar 07
If you feel that you shouldn't have another, go with that. Don't let your in-laws try to influence you otherwise. Good luck!
• India
7 Mar 07
Thanks for empathising with me
@fatragu (349)
• United States
3 Mar 07
I have one that was born on 12/22/04 and one that was born on 4/13/06 and am due around 10/10/07 with the next one. My first one was 7 months old when I got pregnant with the second one. The second one was 8 months old when I got pregnant with the third kiddo. Keep in mind none of these were planned pregnancys. But after this one there will be no more because of finances. you need to do whatever you feel is right for you.
• India
6 Mar 07
You should be more careful...in future..3 unplanned pregnancies!But now that you r a mother..with 2 beautiful kids and one in tow..just think positively...just think that your kids will have so much company..when they are growing up ....!
• Philippines
19 Feb 07
we have two boys, one turning 6 this year and the one who just turned 2 last december. while it's true that it would be great to have both children grow up fast together, we are quite happy with the gap between our children. it's given us enough time to be with the older child, and now, while he's bigger, we enjoy baby number 2. but in all boils down to whether you'd want to have that 2nd one soon enough. =) good luck!
• India
6 Mar 07
4 yrs is a reasonable gap....and u sound happy with ur decision...it just sounds so correct!
• Pakistan
19 Feb 07
Its all in Allah's hand all that we can do is just try and plan.My opinion is that your inlaws are right i think u must start trying for the next one then all to Him who creates us.best of luck!!!!
• India
19 Feb 07
My God!Pls dont blame Allah for this...family planning is the way to go!
@unisis (1674)
• Indonesia
7 Mar 07
I think it is depend on you, what you want? if you want to have new baby,i think it is enough ,your baby is 11 month and if you starting to have baby maybe the gap of your kids is almost 2 years but If you want your career then you can have next baby after some years.
• United States
19 Feb 07
Yes I believe in the having two kids quickly but it effects mother's health. my in-laws tells me to have good gap between two children so my husband doesnot agree to have second quickly. However having one baby is also a good idea.
• United States
18 Feb 07
deffinatly dont let you in-laws force you to think having another baby is right for you. i would deffinaly put career first before trying to have another baby. i think its better off to have money and a secure grasp on what your dealing with now, before you add another thing to have to deal with. its all up to you and your SO
• India
18 Feb 07
It is totally depend on you, what you want? If you want your career then you can have next baby after some years. Or if you want another baby then go ahead. But as you say your baby is just 11 months old, you have to take care of both. and it will be difficult to handle two small baby at once. Take your own dicission
• Canada
18 Feb 07
Personally, I would not want to have kids any closer than 24 months apart. I probably wouldn't go much further than 36 months apart, but I think having kids too close can cause a lot of problems. Sibling rivalry can be a huge issue as it is, imagine if for some reason the younger one is better at certain things than the older one, (e.g. athletics or an important school subject) and only one grade behind, can you imagine what sort of pressure that puts on the oldest? That's just one reason I wouldn't want kids close together, personally, I feel it's big enough a reason too.
@sajodude (117)
• India
18 Feb 07
I think one is just ok for middle class people. Whatever are your goals and ambitions you should manage with only one kid. The days are changing and you must be on a safer side .
• India
18 Feb 07
There should be some gap of atleast two years between two childs. During that period, there will be improvement in the mothers health. Discuss with your husband and decide.