What do you do if your sister loves the worng guy?

Romania
February 18, 2007 1:48pm CST
My sister is in love with this guy witch I know.He is my age and my sister is three years younger then him.I would have nothing against this but I know this guy and he is not good for her.He is a wannabe player,but my sister doesn't listen to me.This guy doesn't love her hes in this relationship for other reasons.What should I do?How do I make my sister to listen to me?
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@SpitFire179 (2536)
• Canada
18 Feb 07
If you push her too hard she's going to get mad and stop talking to you.... you just let her know that your there for her when she needs. because if you know that it's not going to end well, and you've already told her, then she has to deal with the concequences before she sees your right. just be there for when she does fall, be her soulder, she'll love you even more for being her support than being the reason her relationship broke up right?
@anddqa (20)
• Indonesia
19 Feb 07
yes, i agree... it doesnt depend on ur opinion about him but, hers opinion also...
• Singapore
19 Feb 07
Well said, spitfire! Another point to note for opinca: if you already harbor resentful attitudes about this guy, your whole body language is going to tell him you don't like him, if ever your paths cross, even for a few seconds. You need to behave in a civil way, behave in the minimum appropriately. It will be rather complicated if you are going to be talked about by your sister and him; even if this happens, if he's not a player, he wouldn't be so upset over your seeming snub and if he continues to be civil to you, you just ought to be the same. This your sister will see and still remember that if she does get into any trouble, before it happens, she is able to come to you for help.
1 person likes this
19 Feb 07
You can't *tell* your sister what to do -- she won't listen, and she'll only want to rebel if you do anything too drastic. You should just voice your concerns with her, tell her *why* you're worried etc, and if she doesn't want to listen to you, you'll have to let her make her own mistakes.
• Nigeria
19 Feb 07
the best you can offer to your sister is an advice it never hurts anyone to tell the truth so just advice her on the right step to take in herrelationship so that she can move forward..
@APMorison (424)
• United States
19 Feb 07
Sorry to tell you buddy but love, especially young people in love when they are still starry-eyed and idealistic and haven't had their hearts mashed to a pulp too often yet - love for them makes them not only Blind but Deaf, Dumb and Stupid to boot. Nothing you say is going to make your sister see the light. Just be ready to catch her when she falls.
@UcoksBaBa (802)
• Indonesia
19 Feb 07
Discussed to him gently and well and did continued, continued monitored, continued to advise and give him the picture about the man that he loved then gave proof to your younger sister to know about the truth to your brother that his choice was wrong.
@mssnow (9496)
• United States
19 Feb 07
Well, I don't know how old you are or your sister is but most people don't listen to others when they like someone. They usually have to find out for themselves. Just tell your sister to be careful and you will be there to supposed her if the guy messes with her. Thats about all you can do.
• Puerto Rico
19 Feb 07
i know what you are going through, i have someone who is in the process of getting a divorce and his parents whats her to stay married ,because he need her money he dont love her no more. he has some one else he is a wana be player and she dont see that i tell her so and now she dont talk to me. i belive we talk and then we let them know if hell brakes loose you will be there for her. thats all you can do. i wish her and you luck.
@mywords18 (647)
• United States
19 Feb 07
well this means there is no trust n no understanding between u and her :(( which make her dont believe ur notions about the guy, leave guy aside first trya develope a better relationship with her make her feel like u her brother not only to bug her play pranks or just bully her but u are there for her always whn ever she needs u as a strong shoulder to cry on and a the biggest back up in life,earn trust then ask,,,,:))no offence this is wat i thought,,,,:)
• United States
19 Feb 07
All you can do is allow your sister to learn a tough lesson in love, the hard way. She won't listen to you until she sees it for herself. There is nothing YOU can do. It's your SISTER'S life. All you can do is be there for her when he lets her down, like you know he will.
• United States
19 Feb 07
You beat him up, take charge and don't let anyone touch your sister.
@merkava (1226)
• Philippines
19 Feb 07
I'll just give her hints. I won't enforce my opinions on her. I think it's better if she found that out from her friends rather than a family member. Friends tend to listen more to their other friends. My elder sister also has a boyfriend that I don't like I don't tell that to her but I try to humiliate the guy in his own game. He says he works in the I.T. industry so since my forte is also I.T. I bombard him with questions that I know he has no idea of answering. He already looked like a fool to my other relatives and my dad. That's a first step for me.
• India
19 Feb 07
I will give suggestion and try to him say that whose she like ,he is not good carector guy. I will try to wrong guy's clear image present front of my sister. And I will say that you don't love those person which you like , You should love those person who is love you.
• India
19 Feb 07
just make ur sister understand why ur not willing to accept their relationship.make her go to a different place.all the best
• Philippines
19 Feb 07
when that happens to my sister i will show her that she have fallen for the wrong guy i will open her eyes and show her the truth, show her your point after all at the end theres no one else to turn to than your family, if you two have a better relationship and she know that you care about her maybe she will listen to you
• Australia
19 Feb 07
i think you need to let your sister make her own mistakes but at the same time try to be there for her. You need o be a friend at these times because speaking from a sisters perpective if you try to tell her not to date him she will want to more. if you think he's dangerous then take action straight away but if not just give it time, your sister will see what you do and will in time break up with him if he is really not the one...give them space...hope that helps
• United States
19 Feb 07
If your sister won't listen to you, talk to her best friend. Sometimes woman to woman, things make better sense. Sometimes advice from a big brother seems like meddling and overstepping your boundries. Think how you would feel if she tried to give you dating advice. Much past that, you have to sit back and watch. This is your sisters life and she has to make mistakes that will hurt her. Be there for her in the end to help pick the pieces up and help her learn why this guy isn't the right type for her.
@Bangalorean (1283)
• India
19 Feb 07
All that you can do, is advice her and tell her the truth. One can take a horse to the water but cant force it to drink it
@XxAngelxX (2835)
• Canada
19 Feb 07
I don't believe there is anything you can say that will make her listen to you. Some people simply have to make their own mistakes and then learn from them the hard way. It's not easy watching someone do something you know is not going to work, but the best thing you can do is simply be there for her when she needs you.
• India
19 Feb 07
i strongly oppose it
@jigishap (595)
• India
19 Feb 07
When she is in love she could not understand your though.. she may be thinking that you are doing just to stop her.. First be her good friend.. and don't force her she will never listen to you if you force her..