Why is it that the people we love most we end up hurting them most, and why is

@tarachand (3895)
India
February 19, 2007 5:49am CST
it that the people who love us most also end up hurting us the most?
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@hopeful28 (1439)
• Singapore
19 Feb 07
I believe it is because when love is present, so is power -power to make people happy or sad. The fact is that when something happens to a stranger or someone we do not know so well, the bonding is not so strong so the impact on us is not as great. However if something happens to someone we love the strong feelings we have for the person will result in greater reactions from us and affect us more deeply. It is in the connection - how strong it is.
• India
19 Feb 07
this is what love is..... we hurt the ones we love the most because we feel we have that much right over them....and vice versa...we feel they will understand us. and we know he will bear everything and still come back to us....thats why we treat our next door neighbours with that delicacy coz we know they wont bear if we even utter them harsh words .... pain is a part and parcel of love
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• Philippines
19 Feb 07
BECAUSE--- When you let that someone love you, you give them the right to hurt you... AND When you love someone, he or she gave you the right to hurt them. Why?..... well, basically when there is no permission or rights given.... I don't think there is love at all.
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@Denmarkguy (1845)
• United States
3 Mar 07
Because for them we are willing to make the greatest "emotional investment" of our essential self. Think of it as "strings." The more you love someone, the thinner then string you are willing to hang from, for them. The thinner the string, the more chance it will break in some way, resulting in pain and suffering. Yet, if we are not willing to hang from the thinnest of strings, we miss out on the most beautiful connections in life.
@msqtech (15226)
• United States
22 Mar 07
I think you have a good point as thin strings are like valuable silk which hold together much
• India
1 Mar 07
thanku for the best response
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• India
19 Feb 07
hi there ... how are u ... i just like to help a little if i can do tell me if u find my answer satisfying enough .. i will tell u normally it is we are not hurting the ones we love it is just tat we love tat particular person sooo very much tat we cannot see tat person go away and we be left alone in darkness so we all of a sudden even without thinking about anything drive a conclusion tat it is us because of which tat particular person is hurt .. so tat we you do not loose tat person it is a step we take emotionally but not thinking hard enough .. i reccomend tat u sit back and think if it was really ever the person u loved was hurt by you or u were just thinking tat way .. nice question ... gud luck with ur future .. :)
@msqtech (15226)
• United States
22 Mar 07
it it because they care the most and we tend to take them for granted