Can you call this cheating?

@manong05 (5030)
Philippines
February 19, 2007 8:36am CST
I know of a man who always go to beer houses and tables women, have them sit on his lap and caress them but don't actually go beyond that. He doesn't take them to bed. He knows his limits and says he doesn't want to cheat his wife. If you are the wife, is this not cheating in itself? Is it ok for him to do this? When is an action called cheating?
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• India
2 Mar 07
i have heard of many cases of wife-swapping that takes place on the consent of both the partners. in this case, though immoral, its atleast not cheating. but if i was his wife and if i would have come to know about this then the first thing that i would have done is to slap him left and right! i think cheating for me is not only when one is taking another woman to bed but i guess in human it all starts in the brain. even fantasising about someone else is cheating, only that most of the times a wife doesn't know about it.
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• Philippines
20 Feb 07
I would still fall under the conservative time. I will call that action cheating already. Even if he knows his limitation, I would not accept such act if my husband does it. I trust my husband, but I don't trust the environment like that. He might get carried away and something else might happen.
@Marie2473 (8523)
• Sweden
20 Feb 07
Hard question - I wouldn´t consider it cheating but I would consider it to be a betrayl. For me cheating is doing something with someone outside the relationship, however this would still make me upset and sad. I would hope that he woudl be satisfied enough at home to not want other girls giving him a lapdance =)
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@Anakata2007 (1789)
• Canada
20 Feb 07
If his wife knows abotu this and is okay with this, (which I highly doubt) than I guess the action is okay. My guess is he hides this from his wife, which makes it cheating. If I found out my husband did this, I would be just as upset as if I found out he literally cheated. Cheating is kissing, touching or making love to someone other than your spouse.
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@msqtech (15226)
• United States
2 Mar 07
I think it is cheating at least emotionally. I also think there is something wrong with the girls who tease him like that.
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• United States
5 Mar 07
If his wife doesn't know about it, it is a form of cheating. If she does, it isn't cheating. However, do you think this man would like his wife to do what he is doing? If he says no, then ask why he can?
• Canada
2 Mar 07
To me, that would definitely be cheating. The only way it would be acceptable is if it was something the husband and wife BOTH did, BOTH knew about and were BOTH ok with (as a previous poster said went on with her husband). If he would not want his wife doing it, then he knows it crosses a line of intimacy that would effect his relationship... therefore it is cheating.