I am horrible about selecting best responses...any advice????

award - Being selected as best response is like getting an award and compliment. :)
@brokentia (10396)
United States
February 19, 2007 10:31am CST
I seem to sit here and drag my butt on selecting best responses. I read every response...even if I do not comment to all of them...and even of there are over a 100 responses. But there are so many great responses, how do I choose just one???? I try to select different people so I am not always awarding the best response to the same people. But I do find that I often do select some of the same people because they always have great, well thought out, and funny responses. And sometimes when a friend incorporates things said from some of my other discussions or responses to other discussions, it just makes those responses more interesting and I know that person really is reading and interested in what I am writing. But...I still seem to have 5 pages of unresolved discussions and I know I should really clear them out! I just can't seem to pick one. I think myLot should offer a best response Per Page. This would make it so much easier! LOL :) What do you think? Any advice on how I can select best responses? I normally wait until the discussion is dormant so I give everyone an opportunity. But with 5 pages of unresolved discussions, I really think I need to figure out a system of selecting one. Note...I do rate all those positively that have well thought out and written responses, no matter the opinion because we are all different. :)
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@MySpot (2602)
• United States
19 Feb 07
It's okay to choose the same person, if it's their response that you liked best. I was worried that people would think I was only choosing friends or specific people too, but I use the same criteria as you... choosing the well thought out, funny, or sometimes most helpful response. You don't have to resolve every discussion, if you choose not to. If it was difficult to choose, you can leave a comment (below your choice) for your responders, letting them know that it wasn't easy and thanking them for their great replies ; )
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@sunshinecup (7881)
19 Feb 07
It is hard and it took me a while to finally get to them and award them. Now I go in on sundays and mark best response on all posts 1 week old, so they don't pile up on me. My system is just picking the one that stands out the most to me. The ones that they really put time and effort into answering. Sometimes it's so hard that it comes down to a coin toss almost. I have wonderful posters on my discussions and all of them give great answers. When it comes down to 2 or 3, I then think of who has had them the most best responses from me, then they are removed from the pick. Honestly there just isn't any easier way for me.
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@imadriscoll (2230)
• United States
20 Feb 07
I just selected best responses for 3 pages of unresolved discussions. I noticed that I tended to pick a lot of the same people too ... but when I was trying to pick between a few I looked to see if one of them caused others to respond and if they came back to the discussion. I think if someone comes back they have invested more time then someone who jots down a response and then never come back to check things out.
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@brokentia (10396)
• United States
21 Feb 07
I agree, if the person comes back, it does make for a more interesting response and easier to pick from. And your right about the person investing more time. I will have to keep that in mind...thanks!
• United States
19 Feb 07
So much fun! I have been working on this for so long there seems to be no end in sight. LOL. I look at each page of the discussion and will comment on the ones that are candidates for best response. I narrow it down from there. I am finding it easier if I choose the best response when I get to 3 pages of responses to a discussion. We do share a common interest in which the best response of each page would be good too, or even if we could choose 1st, 2nd and 3rd. Frustrating isn't it. : ) Good luck Tia. Huggers to you.
@Willowlady (10666)
• United States
19 Feb 07
The Best Response should be based on the guidelines. Once your discussion has basically halted in replies. You can go through and see who typed our a paragraph or at least 3-4 lines of though out, on topic response. Often it does come down to a couple and you can then alter who you pick due to familiar best response earner or the new one. Yes, rate all that that answer, again with 3 or 4 or more lines of thought out response, disagree or not, as long as they are not hateful you can rate them a plus. Hope that this helps you. Good luck it can be a big decision sometimes.
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@shywolf (4520)
• United States
19 Feb 07
I try really hard to pick someone different as often as possible. I know that I have friends that always give amazing responses, including you ^_~ But I really like to give out best responses to those who are newer on the site, when I can, if I see that someone with like 500 or less points by their name has given me a really good answer. I know how great it felt to me to get some of my first best responses, and I'd like to think that I might be giving someone one of their first! ^_^ But I know, it really would be easier if we could pick one per page, lol! That would be awesome *laugh*
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@sweetlady10 (3617)
• United States
19 Feb 07
To select the best response is really a big pain for me. I also have lots of unresolved discussions. I am going to solve some of them, because it is very stressful for me to solve all at a time. As I get planty of good responses for one discussion, it makes the job really hard. I will folow this discussion to see if anyone come up with good idea.
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@thefya (4)
• Latvia
19 Feb 07
:D close your eyes, take a pen and point it at the screen. and then take a look who's the lucky one : D
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@limitup (324)
• United States
20 Feb 07
All right, there's a lot of philosophical "just do your best, you'll be fine" and "I have no opinion, just saying hi (I love those)" cookie-cutter responses here, so this is what I propose from my extensive 50 or so reply experience. 1. Put a piece of paper over the screen so you don't see who is posting what (this won't actually work, see #2). Then decide based on content alone. If the best poster is always the best poster, they still should retain the title. There should be no extra credit at all for being new. 2. Humor. Keeps people reading (a bold concept for a forum, I know). 3. Flattery. Did I mention I just LOVE the Verve? Just kidding. Don't go by flattery (but I do love Bitter Sweet Symphony, Honestly!). 4. Grammer. 5. Unless you have access to Anthony Robbins, consult a Yoga professional. They will relax you and within only hours you can come up with a good choice. 3 hours to choose best response is time well spent. 5. Posters that use content-rich keywords. If your topic is "how to pick best response", points should go to posters who use keywords such as "best response", "mylot posting", "how to choose best response" (It does probably earn us more). 7. Just pick me each time. This supercedes rules 1-6. All right, I'm getting off mylot for now and going to do some real work. Take care all, I LOVE YOU!!! (see #3)
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@limitup (324)
• United States
20 Feb 07
Aaaaargh! I broke rule #4 (I have two number 5's!) So now here is rule #8: Award point to those who follow up on their responses (hey that's me now). Bonus rule #9: Use tages when they let you (see #5).
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@limitup (324)
• United States
20 Feb 07
TAGS, not "tages". Triple posting should be encouraged as well. No it shouldn't (see #2). My very last rule: #10. Award those who PROOF-READ their responses before submiting since mylot doesn't have an edit button (but in this case just read rule #7).
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@brokentia (10396)
• United States
21 Feb 07
You would probably love the IE Speller....it is a add-on for IE and will spell check for you. I absolutely love it! And you right...all the things above do seem to help picking a best response!!! :) Glad you like Bitter Sweet Symphony! :) And I think it is totally funny that you had two number 5's!!! But hey, we all mess up from time to time. hehe
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@rsmith512 (1561)
• United States
21 Feb 07
Okay! Great discussion. :) I read the discussion and was about to reply when I realized that you had already picked a best response. Was the discussion already dormant? It has only been one day. So, back to you already picking the best response...I was upset that you had already picked one. But, I went to the one that you marked as the best response, and I don't think that I could have agreed with you more. I read the other responses, and you did pick the best response. Congratulations Limitup!! :D Well, limitup did give very good advice! I agree with her! I LOVE YOU!!! :) I think that it is just a really hard decision, and maybe you can get a piece of paper and write down the "best responses" per page...then you could just limit it down to one in the end. Maybe I can help!! ;) Love ya! I like Bitter Sweet Symphony also!! Don't drag your butt on the responses any more. You can do it! And, just consider that person that you gave the best response to a Bonus. And, not a bad, hurtful thing for all the other people that had a great response. Because remember that you can only pick one!! :) Great discussion. I have the same problem, and sometimes if it is that hard, I do not pick one! I don't advise you to do that though!! :D
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@limitup (324)
• United States
21 Feb 07
Thanks for the kind words rsmith! I admit I used a little computer voo-doo and advanced psycological ploys in my response to get the vote. Also I did a rain dance-type maneuver with highly-trained herbalists and medicine men. I also hacked into the mylot databases as well to spy on my competition and I brided the mylot programmers (a rule #11 that I forgot to add to my response). This all seems a little unfair and I am sorry. But for best response I had to pull out all the stops.
@patootie (3593)
20 Feb 07
So far I've been lucky as one response will always stand out head and shoulders above the rest .. I give a postive rating for all the replies I enjoy reading too .. minus for one word replies or replies that have nothing to do with the dicussion topic ..
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@DocterDew (902)
• United States
20 Feb 07
I would say that you should just go with one of them on the first two pages. Rule out the ones that have almost no thought put into them. Anything after 2 pages is hard to tell if they are just reading other peoples posts and using that information in theres. I usually go with the post of decent size that helps me or most clearly answers what I am asking. If I ask a question the one the either first answers it, helps me the most, or if it's a personal question the most complete response.
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@crazynurse (7489)
• United States
20 Feb 07
I know exactly the pain you are going through! I too have a horrible time chosing best response. I try to wait until the quesiton has ceased to get any responces. Or, if it has only one, I will wait a week or so more to see if it gets any more responses. Then I start reading and try to see which response is the best thought out and answers the question the best. Often it is between two or three responses. I re-read them and make myself decide some little factor that makes one better than the other.
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@Idlewild (6094)
• United States
20 Feb 07
Most of my discussions have fewer than 10 responses, so I don't have that problem. ;-) One of my discussions has one repsonse and I'm hesitant to give that 'best' response! I do have a couple of discussions withover 100 responses,and there are probably 3 or 4 answers that I'd like to choose as 'best.' So I definitely don't have a system to recommend to you...
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@MrNiceGuy (4147)
• United States
19 Feb 07
If you can read and you can comprehend writing and you have an opinion, you can pick a Best Response...
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@healer (1783)
• India
19 Feb 07
I don't post many topics here and the few i have done, the responses are low comparing with others. For me also its hard for me select a best response from the list hehe everybody with a varity of answers which are useful in one way or the others. I can't say much here as i am new here and to these things also
@Transformed (1262)
• United States
19 Feb 07
For best response, I say choose the one that seems to be a most appropriate length and information for your given query.
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@lauriefnp (5112)
• United States
3 Mar 07
I am also horrible about this. I am going to start doing it when I have about 20 responses so that it is easier to sift through. If I get a great response after I choose, I will PM the person if they are my friend so that they know I would have picked them and that I appreciate the response. I also rate almost everybody with a (+) unless they answer with 1 or 2 words or copy/paste. If someone makes an effort, they deserve a (+) rating.
• United States
3 Mar 07
you just have to decide! Sometimes if I don't have alot of responses, and it is 4 weeks old,....it's time to choose. And with little response or maybe one, it's that much easier. I can't say about having over 100 responses to a question because I've never had that. If it's the same people so be it. It just means they have better well thought out responses. I tend to be like you and try not to give my friends all the best responses, and sometimes it turns out that way. Sometimes a friend is the only one who will respond!!!
• United States
3 Mar 07
I am having the same problem. So, I am not letting the list get too long. Maybe a dozen or two dozen, and then I pick. It is so hard at times.