what do i do?

Canada
February 19, 2007 12:01pm CST
my daughter is a slow eater. she sits at the table and takes her time. then she says she's full halfway into her food and if i say ok 10 minutes later she asks me for a snack. so now i don't beleive her that she's full and i make her sit there to finish her food. but now she sits there for 2 hours. i don't have the patience or the time to sit there for 2 hours with her. do i walk away. do i stay, i'm not sure what to do. but every time i let her leave she'll ask for a snack 10 minutes later.
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• United States
19 Feb 07
HI Poppoppop111: I think that you should let her eat as much as she wants. If she is old enough to feed herself, I don't think that you should sit there with her. When she says she is full. Take her plate and wrap it in aluminum or plastic wrap. Place it in the refrigerator and when she asks you for a snack, warm up her food and give it to her. She probably wants the snack and will probably stop doing just eating a little bit and asking for a snack when she sees that you are not giving her the snack anymore (or at least until after she finishes her food). It is like she is getting desert without finishing her food something our parents didn't let us get away with. Also, you may try holding back any beverages until the end of the meal. She may get full on the beverage and that is why she asks for a snack later because the beverage doesn't keep her full for long. Best of luck!!!
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• Canada
19 Feb 07
thanks for the advice. i have tried offering her food back to her when she says she's hungry. but then she says no. so then i refuse to give snack until she decides to eat her meal. if she doens't eat her meal she won't eat any snacks til next meal time. so i want her to finish her first meal so she isn't hungry before the next meal. hope you got that. i kind of said it in a confusing way.
• United States
19 Feb 07
No, I got it. I think you are doing a good job. I think that maybe you should give her more of the food that she enjoys out of the meal so that she will want to eat more or all of her food that way. (if there is a particular food that she likes). She sounds like she is quite witty and really wants the snack [like most kids do :-)]
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@sizzle3000 (3040)
• United States
19 Feb 07
I think that making her sit there till her plate is empty is not good. My mom did this and it did not work I was a stubborn child. I do think that if you put foil over her plate and put it in the fridge. when she is hungry again heat up her dinner and give that to her. Do not give her treats or snacks until she has finished her dinner. My daughter would not finish her dinner either thinking she wanted to save room for desert. Once she figured that she was getting the rest of her dinner she stopped. Good luck.
• Canada
19 Feb 07
thanks, i had to sit at the table until i was finished also as a child so that's why i asked for advice. i wasn't sure what else to do. thanks again, i'll try putting the food in the fridge until she asks for it.
• United States
19 Feb 07
I have the same issues with my kids. My son will finish his food--not completely--and immediately ask for a snack. The doctor told me to NOT make my kids clean their plates. Thier little stomachs are very small compared to ours so they may not be able to hold as much food as we put on the plate. The snacks, the doc just told me to make them wait for like an hour or whatever before they can have one. Leave their plate of dinner on the table and if they cry or whine about being hungry, tell them they can eat more supper, but snacks/dessert doesn't come until BLANK o clock. :) I have been doing that with my kids and it works. They still don't finish their plates, but they do eat more than they were and a lot of times they won't even eat a lot of snack or dessert. Hope this helps.
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• Canada
19 Feb 07
thanks for the advice. it's not the fact that i make her eat everything and finish her plate. she only eats 4-5 bites and says she's done. now i know that doesn't fill up her belly.
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• United States
19 Feb 07
That could happen. I couldn't finish all of my breakfast this morning. It wasn't even a very big breakfast. But less than an hour later, I was hungry again. Let your daughter decide what she wants to do.
• Canada
19 Feb 07
honestly that doesn't make sense. if she decides to never eat her healthy meals at the table and just eat snacks where does that leave her. she's 3 she can't make decisions like that. do you have kids?
• United States
19 Feb 07
Yeah, I didn't really agree with this comment either. Good Question about having kids. I mean there is no reason for parents to train and groom their children if we just let them do what they want - when they want - the way they feel is right. They are learning no discipline and that is not how the world is. There are right and wrong ways of doing everything. If you let the children run you at a young age then they will really be a handful as they get older.
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