How to quite smoking?

Canada
February 19, 2007 7:59pm CST
My mother, she's now 56, began smoking in her 20. HEr father was a smoker. He didn't smoke that much, but still, she was smoking. Ans she eas smoking too. She doesn't want to stop smoking. Sometimes, we talk over the phone, and I hear her smoking, then I ask: Mom, are you smoking? Washhhhhhhh. She never answers. But, of course, she's smoking. She tries to stop a few time, but during summer time, it's get too hard on her, there's always people smoking outside somewhere... How can she stops smoking? Is it too late for her?
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@kathy77 (7486)
• Australia
20 Feb 07
Yes well there are a lot of people that do not want to stop smoking and the more you push this issue the more your mother will smoke, why do you ask your mother if she is smoking when of course you know the answer to that question, due to you can hear her smoking. Your mother if she really wanted then she would stop but I am sorry the more you talk about it to her the more she will smoke ask her if I am wrong because I am sure I am right.
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@Meg109 (95)
• United States
20 Feb 07
I'm so sorry to hear that, smoking is something terrible. Because nicotine is so addicting, its EXTREMELY hard for people to stop. If they have the right mindset, then it is all the better. One of my father's friends used to smoke 3 packs a day, but hes cut himself down to 3 or so a day and he will eventually stop. I recommend talking to your mother about it. Let her know that if she keeps smoking, it will eventually kill her. Let her know how it makes you feel, if she knows that it hurts you, she may stop. I tried the same with my grandmother, but she felt as if it was too late for her. Your mom's fairly young, so try if she tries her best, she should be fine. :)
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
21 Feb 07
i don't think there's too late for everything. my boyfriend used to smoke for 17 years. proudly, he quit when he met me. i never forced him to stop smoking. i did not even bother to tell him to quit. not even once. i was just amazed when one day, he said he wanted to quit. but i told him it's okey. but he did it anyway. he quit three weeks after he promised me to. it's amazing. i never thought that people can quit smoking. he says that if a person is determined and is willing to change, that person can really change for the better. and i say, it's true. if you lack the will to do a thing, you never can do it. but if you put your heart on it, you'll surely do it. as for your mom, she might not be willing to quit smoking. if that's the case, it's really hard for her to give it up. unless one day, she'd be willing to totally get away from it. for now, all you should do is atleast remind her from time to time but not force her to. a reminder is already sweet. so, just remind her and i am sure she does appreciate it.
• India
20 Feb 07
its all about mental toughness. you have to be absolutely determined to stop. one thing that helps is getting some alternative habit which is not harmful, if one thinks one NEEDS to have a habit. in the end, its all in the mind, though.
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
21 Feb 07
i agree to sayanakaharry. it's all about mind power. our minds decide on what and on what not to do's. our brain controls us. so, it's really hard to give up smoking because to some, it's already an addiction. but if one can get mind over matter and decide to stop, he/she can do it after sometime.
• Australia
20 Feb 07
First, it is never too late. Second, she cant stop if she doesnt want to stop herself. The motivation has to come from inside. Does she even realize what health problems caused by smoking? It has been going on for about 36 years now for her, if she doesnt stop now, then it will be too late to save her. Im talking of course lung cancer, and many other stuff that can kill her. Im not saying this to be mean, but im just stating the facts. She needs to realize this, she needs to know that she is not immune to it and she could die because of her smoking habit. By saying that she is not smoking in front of you, that means she knows that it is not good for her. I understand that stop smoking is a very hard thing to do, because many people around you will still smoke, and especially after eating, your mouth will taste sort of weird if you dont smoke etc, I have many friends who smoke so I know their feelings. But if there is a will, there is a way. Approach your mom as a friend, help her through this. She doesnt want to admit that she is smoking, because she have tried and failed to stop smoking and she doesnt want to look like a failure to you. Tell her you love her and will support her all the way. Maybe substitute the smoking for some candy or chocolate or whatever, or even use a patch for it. She can stop smoking only if she wants to, you cant force her. All you can do is to be with her, to support her in her effort, and keep encouraging her to keep on trying until succeeding. Good luck :)
@mona07 (24)
• India
20 Feb 07
I think u can try consult in some rehabilitation centre.They can guide you in a proper way,so that you can help your mother out of this habbit.Or else you can can show your concern for her,and talk with her about the injurious effects of the habbit.May be you can convince her.But I think consulting with some doctor of rehalitation centre can help you more.
• India
20 Feb 07
the most important step to take is to accept the fact that you have an addiction. the next step is quitting with help. understand the counter effects of smoking then start deep breathing. then start autosuggestion contemplate always that you can quit it and really wish to do so. you will quit it soon
• Italy
20 Feb 07
you must say stop and stop will be we are the only able to control ouselves!!!!!!!
• India
20 Feb 07
Once we started smoking in our life its really to hard to stop it, but we can reduce it by decreasing a numbers everyday. Actually i also started smoking from my college days, but i'm not a regular smoker, but whenever i feel used to have occassionally. But not able to stop completely.
• India
20 Feb 07
i am also trying to quit smoking , but not able to yet, any ways i hopes i can quit it .
@junior07 (972)
• India
20 Feb 07
NO i think it's never to late if u decide to quit any habit,but u should be determined of getting rid from that bad habit.
• India
20 Feb 07
The most important part about quitting any addiction, is to create an urge inside you to quit it. If your mom herself doesn't feel like quitting it, I mean if she doesn't have a strong desire or urge or challenge, in her mind to quit smoking, then nothing can help her quit it. That's true, very very true. Believe me. That's because when you take any addict to a rehabilitation centre, then their job is to give the addict, medicines, a strict diet, practise excercises, and keep in a strict vigilance. And if all these things are done without the proper mental participation of the addict, then after quitting the addiction anyhow, there still remains a chance, that the addict returns to the addiction once more. Therefore, before sending her to any rehabilitation center, talk to her, and convince her, that she needs to quit smoking at this age urgently, for her health.
• India
20 Feb 07
it's so hard.......but it depends on ourselves we should change our mind and think that smoke is unuseful and waste of money thanks...
@Barbulex (40)
• Romania
20 Feb 07
Some1 told me.. if i put one tigarete in milk.. and after 1 day if i smok it.. i will never need another tigarete! I`m a hard smoker.. i want to quit but i cant.. and maybe this i the solution! i will try it soon!
@inovator (603)
• Philippines
20 Feb 07
actually to stop smoking is hard thing,,,coz if you do this in a short time,,,you can have a syndrome,,,maybe i can suggest that,,,you have to minimize your smoking,,,for instance you smoke 5 sticks a day,,just lessen it of 1 stick,,do that a week,,,after you feel that you are comfartable,,then after a week less it again a one stick,,then afterwards you will observe that you finally quit on that vice....
@irisheyes (4370)
• United States
20 Feb 07
I've a friend like your mother and I'm beginning to think it is too late for her. She just will not stop. Health scares didn't work, nagging didn't work and nuturing doesn't work. At one point I gave her some paper napkins that were printed "Be kind to smokers, we haven't much time left". She opened the package and took one out and put it under her ashtray.
@Phatmat (104)
• Australia
20 Feb 07
tell her to take one of the niccabate losengers or whatever they are...all i know is just never to start, and you shouldn't have a problem.
• India
20 Feb 07
well i think the best way is that u must keep telling bher how much u love her and that u want her with u.. and that if she quits smoking she might be able to live long with u .. make hger realise that she is special and that she must quit..
• Pakistan
20 Feb 07
we can quite smoking through two way no one is stop smoking right now this moment and with a great power of which we say willpower and second one is to smoke to much and one moment will come you think yar this is to much and i have no any more demand for smoking
• Philippines
20 Feb 07
Just think of your love ones, your beautiful children and a longer life you can have.. when you quit smoking