is it necessary to know the past of you lover?

China
February 19, 2007 9:20pm CST
do you think it is necessary or not? ARE you willing to tell your past love affair to you current partner?
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10 responses
@abhax123 (1697)
• India
20 Feb 07
ya man actually it is. coz if you came to know about that from someone else you feel that your partner dont have faith in you or trust you so its better to hear it from her/him then from someone else which would hurt you more and hey who dont have a past lover everyone has ... So its not that bad.
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• Philippines
20 Feb 07
Yes! like for me i found out he already has a child on his ex! i found out when we already married. that is the most painful event i discover.
• China
21 Feb 07
oh my god,you should have been far more careful, i wonder whether you two fell in love at the first sight, then went into a flash marriage? all i all. past is past,wish you have sailed through the storm
• India
20 Feb 07
yes i feel u must cuz.. only then she will get to trust u.. its always better to tell it to her by yourself than through anyone else.. so feel its better to tell by yourself abt your previous partner
@arkaf61 (10882)
• Canada
20 Feb 07
TO be honest I don't think that is necessary. We all have a past history before we meet the person who we are with and it's up to us if we want to share it or not. Having said that, I don't think there's anything wrong it talking about our past if we are asked, just that it is not a necessity. NO matter what we did before, it's what we do in the present with that person that becomes important.
• India
20 Feb 07
Ya, it is . Bcoz past is the mirror of future. If u know the past of affair of ur lover then he/she made their mind setup for the present to make future better.
• Philippines
20 Feb 07
Yes it is very necessary to know the past of my lover. This will build friendship,trust, and loyalty between us. Besides it is already the past. Whatever happened back when we are not still partners are just a memory, a chapter in a book, and a history that we should share with each other.
@rsa101 (16089)
• Quezon City, Philippines
20 Feb 07
It is kind of important to know especially if your on the getting to know each other stage. But once you've known him/her and started to love one another those past stories should not be an issue to your relationsip. past is past and if you love the person past is not important anymore. In conclusion, knowing the past could reveal something that may or may not be to your liking but its all up to you.
@helpme901 (157)
• India
20 Feb 07
I will strongly recommend not to share your past relation with your current partnet. on one hand it may sound being honest but on the other hand it may be harmful also. Just be true with your current partner and it will be enough. But if he/she insist you can make him aware with your past carefully. You have to decide what to tell and what to not yourself, depanding on the observation of your partnet. I hope you got my point
@zynijh (44)
• Philippines
20 Feb 07
things you don't know won't hurt you...just be open minded... understanding...and keep yourself calm for new things...and if that happens...open communication will make things work...
@cripfemme (7715)
• United States
20 Feb 07
Of course, we live in the age HIV and othe sexually transmitted infections. Not only must I know about your past verbally, but I will require a series of blood tests to boot! I'm a health educator, so it just my personal rule!!