TALKING to MYSLEF more OFTEN...

United States
February 20, 2007 1:25am CST
I came to the realization that I am talking to myself more often, due to the fact that I have been spending a lot more time alone these days, since the job I do keeps me indoors, more often. And, talking to clients isn't much of a social life. Another dawning factor, that made me realize that I was talking way too much to myself was that I had been mumbling somethings to myself, when my mother turned to my mother-in-law, and explained, "She talks to herself, this is because she spends a lot of time on her own, what else is she going to do?" I have to say, that was an awkward moment...but, well, it's the truth.
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@aidonia (4210)
• Greece
20 Feb 07
I like your topic because I saw here I'm not the only one.I 'm talking to myself very often too,and I don't want change it .Many time I do it for normal daily things but sometimes when I was agree I find it help me ,also many times I resolve to some o my problems.Hearing laud your thought help you see the things more clean.Anyway I don't know for others but this work good for me.
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• United States
20 Feb 07
I was thinking about it the other day, how my mother was saying that, and I thought, she is so correct. It never used to bother me before, but, it was a little bit of a surprise to actually realize that I was doing it more often, but, I am glad that I am not the only one.
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@aidonia (4210)
• Greece
20 Feb 07
No we are many.Don't worry.
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• United States
20 Feb 07
Geesh, I talk to myself all the time. Just figured it was normal. I'm inside with a 1 year old constantly, so its either I entertain myself or I try and make conversation with my son. Don't get me wrong, I talk to him, but baby talk only gets you so far. Maybe next time someone says something or looks at you funny you can just grin and say "Don't worry, I'm not answering myself." :)
• United States
20 Feb 07
That is funny, however, I do tend to answer myself also, lol. I figured I was normal, until my mom pointed it out, maybe she didn't want my mother-in-law to think I was wierd, but, it's a bit late for that, lol.
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• United States
20 Feb 07
Totally normal girl! I do it too. I think everyone does. I also talk to my cats. I tell them things like "We've gotta get the house cleaned up before Daddy comes home". :)
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@sigma77 (5385)
• United States
20 Feb 07
I find nothing wrong with talking to one's self. You might be surprised at the intelligent or even funny answers you give to yourself. Sometimes you need to ask yourself questions and the answers pop out of your mouth rather than from your mind. Or, you find yourself speaking the answers outload as you think them. If you are used to being in an evironment of talking to others all day, than you might be going through an adjustment period. No harm done. You say things to yourself without realizing you are talking. I have done that many times. To me, it is another form of communication and does not mean I am crazy or lonely or any of the other attached nonsense. You might learn some new things about yourself and discover understandings to your feelings by listening to yourself talk. It is the ones who constantly spew out jibberish that have lost themselves. I think they fear they won't exist if they can't always hear themselves talking.
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• United States
21 Feb 07
That is true. I have realized, that there are things that I usually do not say, or a personality that I usually do not have, because I tend to always watch what I say. But, now, I have begun to feel more relaxed and at ease with my personality, so there is a new side to the old me. Also, I do believe, that people that do not talk to themselves, really are missing out, there is a limit to how much we should talk to ourselves, but in general, some talking here and there, really shows creativity.
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@lilaclady (28240)
• Australia
20 Feb 07
I think talking to yourself is really just thinking allowed, at least if you talk to yourself you will always be in agreeance, no arguments there...I wouldn't worry I think it is ok...
• United States
20 Feb 07
Thanks, and that is true, no one arguing back at me, just me agreeing with myself, lol. Which is a good thing, I have to say, it is tiring having to defend my territory these days...
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• United States
20 Feb 07
well, i talk to myself, but more often i talk to inanimate objects. like the computer or tv etc. i guess the "questionable" part is that i will sometimes answer back for whatever object im talking to. so i guess i crossed some line back there a ways! lol
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@ladyluna (7004)
• United States
20 Feb 07
Good morning WesternValleyGirl, If you're not hearing voices responding to your mumblings, then I'm confident that you're ok. Gotta' watch out for those voices though (wink, wink). And I thought talking to one's self was just a way to pick and choose your best audience! OK, joking aside, I agree with Lilaclady. I'd bet that you're just 'keeping on top' of your projects and chores. If you created a "To Do" list, that you managed throughout the day, I'll bet your audible, inner-personal communications would diminish. I honestly don't see this as much as a problem, as an indicator that: either you're letting yourself know that you need to be more organized, or you need more social interaction. If you find that your mumblings are an indicator of a lack of socialization, and in light of your recent action to cut off contact with your vexatious buddy, I wonder if you're not feeling that much more isolated. How 'bout this: what if you started your day off by planning to call a friend or relative (just to chat) at a specified time. Then, when that time arrives, put your work on the back burner, and give yourself the time and permission to really 'be in the moment' for that call? When you hang up, you can turn your mind back on to work matters. Make yourself a mental list (or update your written list) of what you still need to do, then dig back in. This will train your mind to differentiate between internal and external dialogue. It'll give you an outlet to manage the inner trackings of your day, and also somewhat satisfy your social needs. Taking it one step farther (if you live near a center of commerce): You might find it useful to take a walk, go to a bookstore, or go pick up a mocha latté at the same time each day. If you keep your awareness up, you might find a neighbor gal who is also walking or picking up java a the same time. This may create the opportunity to make a new acquaintance. I have also worked from home before. The sense of isolation can be somewhat daunting. Especially, since I live in the sticks. Social interaction is a basic human need (for most of us anyway). Finding ways to satisfy that need, especially after moving to a new area, is really pretty important. You strike me as rather creative. I'll bet if you put your mind to it, you're sure to find a new social outlet. Take Care-
• United States
20 Feb 07
Good morning, friend. You were right about the buddy issue. She even called me the other day, to ask where I have been and why I haven't called. It didn't go too badly, but I am thinking that since I still haven't called, she must know that I am trying to extricate myself from this relationship, but as you know, it is a bit lonesome. Good news though, this is the first time that I have actually seen the citizens of my neighborhood, since I moved to my area. I told my hubby the other day, that it must be seasonal, since we live in a very hot area, they must be coming out now in droves, since it is like spring right now, and pretty soon it will be 125 degrees. So, I believe I just might get to meet some of the neighbors soon. I hope, that I will be able to get my school issue back on track, so I can finally graduate, that is a problem, because I used to go to a very good university in California, and now, I live in an entirely different state, and even if the schools here are ok, I believe that transferring as a senior, is not going to help, so I might have to do another junior year. But, I just could not give up on my relationship with my fiance, so I got married and moved. I felt, that I would be better serving myself, if I did that, because sometimes, the right person only comes around once. So, school has become a slight problem, which I hope to solve soon. Thanks for the support.
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@ladyluna (7004)
• United States
21 Feb 07
I fully agree with you about that "one" right person. I moved away from the "one" some 20+ years ago. Fortunately, about 10 years ago we got a second chance. And, I'll add ... we're happily married to this day. Sorry, I digress ...that's a tale of happy synchronicity for telling on another day. Back to the issue at hand ... I'm thrilled to hear that your neighbors have emerged. Sounds like a whole new chapter of your life might present itself to you. Bummer about senior year transfer. I did a Sophomore year transfer, and that was certainly contentious. But, a senior year transfer might actually go more smoothly because a new school might have empathy for you, thereby transfering more of your credits. Keeping fingers and toes crossed for a good outcome on this issue for you! Since the weather is nice there now, maybe it's time to invite the neighbors to a ho-down. "Swing your partner round 'n round ...". Oh wait, perhaps something a bit more laid back would be in order. But, hey a 'meet the new neighbors' party sounds like a real hoot. Please do let us know how it goes. Gotta' run for now. Have a super day, all!
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@KrisNY (7591)
• United States
20 Feb 07
Don't feel bad-- I am surronded by people throughout the day but I still talk to myself. Mostly at work.. when I am trying to work through a problem-- I talk to myself.. I really think it helps me figure it out. My co-workers think I'm crazy!! I think they are crazy because they don't talk to themselves and it takes them alot longer to get the job done. I don't tend to talk to myself at home. And I don't carry on a conversation with myself.. that would be too funny.. If you start to ask yourself questions and then answer yourself- there might be a problem.. : )
@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
20 Feb 07
You are too funny thats what Ive been doing but I have cats I talk to so it doesnt seem to bad.LOL Dont worry about it I think its perfectly normal and who cares anyway. But your right about the mumbling Im doing that alot lately and my husband just looks at me and says your mumbling and shakes his head. what a nerve dont you think? Cheers have a good day
• United States
20 Feb 07
Oh, how funny is this? Not only do I talk to myself, I argue with myself and have entire conversations with myself. I sit at home all day with three very large dogs. I talk to them when I can keep them awake long enough to listen to me, but they rarely talk back. Who knows, maybe if I keep them awake long enough, they'll talk back to me eventually. Ya think?
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@ladyluna (7004)
• United States
26 Feb 07
Artismel2000, Oh thank you so much. My belly still aches from laughing so hard! Having a 'motley crew' of my own, I can relate to the canine conversations. 'Course, mine tend to follow my every word. I've got one (a rotty/hound mix) who appears to be really trying to understand what I'm saying. He tips is head from side to side when I talk to him. It's really pretty funny! Then again, one of the other dogs is deaf, and she's the best listener!
@ladyluna (7004)
• United States
26 Feb 07
Westernvalleygirl, Now there's the solution to your dilemma ... more in-depth canine conversations! You have a dog, don't you?
• United States
20 Feb 07
I think everyone talks to themselves. Everyone does it quietly in their minds, but sometimes it does come out. I talk to myself all the time whenever I'm thinking of what I need to do. When I'm alone I'll end up mumbling something too.
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• United States
20 Feb 07
I noticed the same thing. I talk to myself and actually tell myself to shut up sometimes. I think it's fine though. Sometimes I catch myself babbling about nothing but no one has said anything about it.
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@Willowlady (10666)
• United States
20 Feb 07
We are our own best company and we never lose the war of words with ourselves. It can become a pervasive habit and with two charming ladies to converse with it brings me to ask what were you thinking. They would have been the better choice to be talking with. There is nothing wrong with talking amongst ourself however in public it is something to be aware of. Good luck with this one.
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• United States
20 Feb 07
I live alone and also find myself doing this !next time your mom or anyone else makes a comment about it do as I do and say at least i do have many intelegent conversations!
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@dmillman (2273)
• United States
20 Feb 07
This is the last time tonight that I can respond to this post to bunp you up top on this discussion. I just don't think it's right that it happened. I want to get everyone to respond to your post instead of his. Just to let you know, I posted to that discussion, to let him know what he did. I did it in a nice, friendly, matter-of-factly way. Hope it helps!
• United States
20 Feb 07
Thanks, I just saw his...and I can't believe that mine was two hours LATER, than his...that just does not seem possible, because I checked all the discussions to make sure that I was not copying anyones. And the thing is, I know that spammers can do things at different times. But, two hours seems really odd. If, I am wrong, I apologize to the guy, if he feels that I copied him...I did not intend to, I just write what is on my mind. And, if somehow, he did copy me, thanks for your support.
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@dmillman (2273)
• United States
21 Feb 07
Actually, it was an honest mistake. I posted to his discussion, and her replied via private message. He did a search before he posted, but since you've got a typo, yours didn't show up (myslef, or something like that). Any ways he appologized and referenced your discussion in his discussion. Now I feel like an idiot since it was an honest mistake, and I should have private messaged him instead of posting to the discussion. Well, we all learn the hard way, and I'm beginning to think that's the only way that I learn - hehehe.
@Denmarkguy (1845)
• United States
20 Feb 07
Yanno, I haven't found that I talk any more or less to myself when I am mostly alone, vs. when I am socially active. I think (at least for me) how much I am talking to myself is mostly dependent on how much is going on in my HEAD, not in my surrounding life. On the few rare occasions when I have been "caught" at it, I have mostly gotten some rather sad looks, like people are pitying me... UNLESS, of course, the person who overheard is a fellow "self-talker."
• United States
21 Feb 07
Why is that, that if we are the only self-talkers, the others that hear us, think that we are pitiful? Really, that is so unjust. However, I do not really think that it matters anymore, lol, since I have always been a self-talker...guess it is too late to change.
@wing1378 (23)
• Philippines
21 Feb 07
I do it all the time. I think of a topic and I talk about it to my self. It's a good way to practice your mind to think. The problem is if you do it in the presence of other people. They might think you're losing it.
• Philippines
21 Feb 07
well at least yourself won't argue with you, and you will always agree with each other ahahah.. for me that is normal, only people around us must say that we are insane, well , just do not care...
@steney (1418)
• Philippines
21 Feb 07
I talk to myself all the time, in my mind. Or sometimes blurt out a few words, but not talking, as in having a spoken conversation with myself. I don't think it's odd. It's a lot like praying and talking to God. You someone is listening :)
@baweja (197)
• India
21 Feb 07
I am also doing the same but not consciously. Everytime is talk to myself i realise a little later what am i doing but the fact is that it is making me feel sick about myself and is of no use like it is to the others. I sit alone all the time at home, dont have any good friend now to talk to because all of them betrayed me and i think i am just under depression for this only . I feel like socialising to come out of this but with whom???