Can a marriage work if you only knew them 2 weeks?

@TriciaW (2441)
United States
February 20, 2007 7:05am CST
My nephew called to announce he just got married. He is in the service so he is not around right now. He had known his now wife through their training and such but only started dating 2 weeks ago. He said he knows she is the one. To say the least I was shocked.
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@kritipen (4083)
• United States
20 Feb 07
Even though we know a person from many years we might not sill be able to adjust and there will certainly arise differences. Then primary reason being we keep changing and evolving in different ways. There have been plenty of marriages which did not work out and the couple have to separate eventhough they knew each other from a very long time and there are also ample cases where the couple knew each other for a very short period of time and the marriage worked out well.The trick for a marriage to work out well is giving adequate attention to the partner being understanding and a commitment to live for a lifetime and adjust to differences. Well, sometimes people like your nephew feel that a person is just the right one even though they know that person for a short period of time. I agree with that theory.
@jillbeth (2711)
• United States
20 Feb 07
You say they went through training together, so apparently they got to know each other before they became romantically involved. I think the best marriages are based on friendship, not physical attraction. It may have been sudden, but sounds like it may work!
• Philippines
20 Feb 07
On my own opinion, I don't think it would really last for long. I mean, 2 weeks of knowing each other is not that enough to fully say that she is already the one. Well, it may happen or may be applicable to couples only who are not yet married. But when it comes to marriage, it is such a serious commitment that you have to choose pretty well the person that you have to marry. Marriage entails not only commitment but also responsibility. Well, it's not that I judge your nephew. But I believe my opinion is something that he could think about.
@hani123 (58)
• Pakistan
20 Feb 07
that is really shocking he should have too get rermission for this and i seen so much that the love marraiges are not so long but we can pray only for them that god make them a lovely couple
• United States
20 Feb 07
I have always believed in love at first sight so I believe that it can work. I mean you can know someone for yrs and it still not work. I have been when my man for 7yrs and he asked me to marry him right after we met. We never did get married but we are still together after all these yrs. So I think that can work out even though they don't know each other very well. Sometimes you just know when somebody is the one.
@justreal (2367)
• Canada
20 Feb 07
You can't really know someone enough in two weeks to get married. Unless they are fixed and setup to forcely get married. Personally, I wouldn't be ready to marry someone before six month that we've been together.
• Romania
20 Feb 07
wow this is really a truly shocking announcement! :) well first of all, congratulations! concerning your question i don't really think i have the best answer for you. but in this huge world there may be people who easily realise they have found the right one to have by their side. i mean,maybe there are such times when you do not need any more time to get to this conclusion.me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 4 years now,but we still didn't get married.not because we didn't feel we should make this spet,it's just that we agreed that we should wait until i graduate.i wonder though....if i were a bit older and we met after my graduation,how long would it have taken us to make the big step? cheers!;)
@Eamerial (21)
• Portugal
20 Feb 07
that's quite relative.... but hey! is 10 years enough to make a marriage work? divorce rates are rising and I've known several marriages that fail after a year or two, even with them knowing each other for 4 6 or even 14 years! There is no safe rule nowadays. To make a marriage endure, you usualy either accept adultery, hide it well or you really have found someone who also has found you!
@lonely_f16 (2147)
• Philippines
20 Feb 07
I don't think it would be an easy work on their part. Marriage wouldn't last if you don't know the real attitudes of each other and adapt to it. If they just knew each other for two weeks, they need to work things out and not just rush because of emotions.
• India
20 Feb 07
Two weeks is a pretty short period of time to know a person, but then, it's a perfectly relative thing. You could go out on a zillion dates with a person and still not learn anything of substance about a person as he/she may be putting on their best behavior for your benefit. On the other hand, a person who can gauge a person's instinctive responses and read from body language might be able to learn a great deal about a person in a single meeting. Graphology is one of my hobbies and I have been able to analyze people pretty effectively without as much as seeing them, but I generally don't try to analyze people through their handwritings as I feel it's intrusive. Two weeks may be sufficient time, after all. Maybe your cousin is one of those people with a natural ability to evaluate people. Or he's just being foolish!