Do you still ask your partner after marriage: Do you love me?

@abednego7 (1060)
Philippines
February 20, 2007 7:49am CST
I just happen to remember one of my office mate told me that after being married for a couple of years. Time to time his husband would ask her this question. Is this scenario also happening in your married life? What makes someone to ask his/her partner this question again and again when they are already married for years?
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@jillbeth (2711)
• United States
20 Feb 07
I don't ever have to ask this question, my husband tells me all the time that he loves me! If a mate has to ask, maybe he just wants reassurance that the love is still there.
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@abednego7 (1060)
• Philippines
20 Feb 07
I feel the same way too. Thanks for your comments by the way.
@Anakata2007 (1787)
• Canada
20 Feb 07
I ask it every few weeks, only because I want to hear it. I know my spouse loves me, but I still like to hear the words. It's like why would yu kiss someone more than once if youve already kissed them? You just want to hear the words because it makes you feel warm inside. Lots of men don't get that.
@abednego7 (1060)
• Philippines
20 Feb 07
Maybe I'm one of those men lolz. You help me to comprehend it clearly. I just want to know what if you don't ask it and just wait that your partner do the saying. Would it be more appealing to hear something you want but don't asking for it. Would it be more nicer to hear "I love you" when its voluntarily said and unexpected. Just thinking... By the way thanks for you comments. Have a nice day!
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@amazehr (429)
• Philippines
20 Feb 07
yeah i always ask him that coz he's not showing me that love i used to see and feel before
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@abednego7 (1060)
• Philippines
20 Feb 07
Maybe you should think a way to win his love back. A true love never fade even when we get older. If he loved you before in a special way as you may remember, he can still do it again. Just think why he changed from there you can find a way back to his heart.
20 Feb 07
I think you do need to know this as just because a couple is together doesn't mean they still love each other. It is nice to tell each other how you feel and remind each other why you are still together. Its important in a relationship.
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@abednego7 (1060)
• Philippines
20 Feb 07
Thanks for your comment. I agree with you that telling each other how they still being love is good. It adds more security that the love is not fading away trough times. I just though that it would be nicer if we receive that wonderful words in a voluntary way without need for asking. I always say it to my wife even in a unexpected moments. And I know the looks in her eyes and smiles tells me how she appreciate it.
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• Philippines
21 Feb 07
It is healthy to remind yourself how in love you are to your partner and vis-a-vis. It would make your relstionship more stronger. I am 5 years married, I always ask my husband if he still loves me that much, and if he say he does love me that much i am over whelmed. Hopefully when time will comes that me and my husband we get old we will still say we love each other.
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@abednego7 (1060)
• Philippines
21 Feb 07
That's what we call "true love", never fades trough times. As what Rey Valera's song says: "Kahit Maputi na ang buhok Ko".
@Monkeymia (206)
• Australia
21 Feb 07
My husband and i tell each other every day that we love each other but my husband is not a very affectionate person so I occassionally ask him, not because Im not sure if he does or not but because i love to hear him say I Love You.
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@abednego7 (1060)
• Philippines
21 Feb 07
That what I learn from this discussion, women just love to hear that magic words. Thanks for you comment by the way.
• Mexico
20 Feb 07
Better, I tell her each day....and the ones that I happen to forget, she will ask me before falling asleep: What is wrong? Don't you love me anymore?"
@abednego7 (1060)
• Philippines
21 Feb 07
She just want to hear it everyday and make you feel she loves you in that way.
• Ireland
20 Feb 07
I never ask my husband if he still loves me, and he doesn't ask me either. I think after staying together for 38 years it is more that obvious that we love each other. We show our love by being there and supportin each other in our everyday life. Like the saying goes, "Actions speak louder than words".
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@abednego7 (1060)
• Philippines
21 Feb 07
That saying is likely more reliable, just like this one: " People may doubt on whatever you say, but always believe in what you do". Thanks for your comments by the way.
• Philippines
20 Feb 07
my partner and i aren't married yet but time and time i still do ask my guy if he loves me really or not. if he's changing or if what he feels for me is slowly dying. i know for guys it really bothers them and they really mind when girls ask of this questions, but to tell you, a girl asks those questions just to show their affection and is just trying to be sweet and loving at the same time even though they have already lasted years and years in the relationship. for me, my hubby finds it very sweet and he is never tired of answering the question, he always tell me that he loves me and is loving me more day by day.
@abednego7 (1060)
• Philippines
20 Feb 07
Well this is new to me. I never thought that women would say that as a way to show their affection or just trying to be sweet and loving. Thanks for sharing your comments over this topic. Its been helpful and informative.
@gigisexy (220)
• Philippines
21 Feb 07
Yeah!!!i remember those years when we were still 2gether i used to asked him from time to time esp. when we have our moment's and kinda sound good ,you feel very secured as a matter of fact i mutter this word evry time i am talking to him..like (love ako ni dada?)and off coarse when he replied oo naman super!!!that makes me feel good my day is complete.