Pre-natal depression

I am sorry to hear this situation. Is your husband open to you at least discussing moving to a better living situation, especially for the children? Maybe you could get a part time job after the baby is born if you have someone to watch the children. I know that it is probably not what you want to do (leaving thie kids) but I would try to speak more about it with your husband. Is there anywhere that you can apply for grants or places that may help come in and build you a bathroom? You will be in my prayers.

oh, i think you should use contraceptives to stop pregnancy for a while after you gave birth to your second child, you need to rest and to have more time for your kids and yourself. you said your living situation is less than ideal so it might be hard for you if you continue to add kids to the family. you can find job if your kids are already grown-up, for now,relax and have fun, do not think too much goodluck

GuateMom - Please stop and think of the baby you are carrying. You don't want to be upset, depressed, sad, anxious, etc.. while you are carrying your baby. Depression is very serious - if not taken care of can become very severe. It can also make you very fatigued. You are under a lot of pressure right now. You need to let your husband know that living under those circumstances is not an option. He is the your man/husband and he should not want to see his family living with no water, bathroom, etc.. You and children deserve more than that. What is he thinking. You also need to let him know that you are depress because of all living conditions, no sleep, and pregnant. You want to fix things but he needs to step-up to the plate and help you fix things. He should be searching high and low for other living arrangements for you and kids. Even if it is to live with family and pay them rent. Don't forget that there are resources you can turn to that will help you. (County, Social Services, milk/cereal programs (WIC), housing programs, etc .. you can't live in a place with no bathroom/running water. I don't want to be rude but your husband is not being responsible - how can he be content. Again, go to your doctor let him know that you are suffering from depression, seek help from your mother, mother-in-law or someone that your family can stay with that has things you need in the house, and sit your husband down open his eyes and let him know that none of this is exceptable. If he loves you and family - he will do better. Blessings to you

First off, have you talked to your doctor about your depression? If not, please do. This is NOT something that you want to just go on not talking to someone about. Depression is a serious issue and is VERY serious when you are pregnant or post pregnancy. Do you have family that you can turn to? Why is it that you have no bathroom or water but yet you have internet access and a computer? I would seriously step back and look at your life and the way you are living and you need to talk to someone. There are tons of free resourses out there - use them! Have you heard of WIC? They can provide you with food for both you and your children if you fall under their income guidlines. Check with your local office to see if they have that in your county.

Sorry you're feeling depressed and overwhelmed. I know how that can feel. I agree with the previous poster that you should discuss this with your doctor. But I don't know that you're really looking for solutions right now. My message to you is that it will get better. Try and just take it one day at a time and don't think too far ahead. You're not alone and I understand how you feel. Hang in there, this too shall pass.

I know what you feel, i was about to post something about prenatal depression luckily i saw your post first, at least you have a husband, I don't and im 8 mos pregnant... so im bearing all the pain all by myself- i also have financial issues, i tried looking for a temporary job- unfortunately, even if my belly only looks as if im only 5-6 mos pregnant, no one hired me, and i badly needed the money. I used to cry everyday, feeling so down and abandoned and all alone. But its bad for the baby, I know its hard for you to again- not think of your own feelings and think of the baby's health at this time, but we really have to set aside our own pain to take care of our children, its the ultimate sacrifice of being a mother. maybe you should also try to talk to your husband, tell him what you're feeling now, let him know that you're in pain, make him understand that its his duty to help you go through your pregnancy and you life together, maybe it wont be easy, but at least try. And most of all, pray. Pray for the baby's health as well as your own. there's no harm in trying. You could also try to join some support groups if ever you have any in your neighborhood. Or talk to others more often, post here more often, it would make you feel less alone. I hope I have been of assistance. If you need to talk just send me a message. =)

I only have the one unborn child in my belly and no others yet, but I know a thing or two about stress during pregnancy. My husband and I moved across the country in the middle of winter with all our belongings and no place to stay when we reached our destination, which is two and a half hours from my family instead of the 14 hour drive we used to make. I was six and a half months pregnant, trying to find a house to rent in the middle of the month in the snow and ice... terrible. Now I'm happy to say that, although no one in my new town would hire my pregnant behind either, we are all moved in and settled. However, I have NO friends, no one to talk to... really bad insomnia which is why I'm writing this at 3:40 in the morning, and crazy mood swings. Also we are adjusting to living on just his income, which means things are a bit tight. I can relate to living with no bathroom or water, as I lived in a village in Guatemala a few years ago... there was a composting toilet a ways from the house, but no water most of the time. We did have a solar shower, which helped. I can't imagine being pregnant in that environment, though, or having a little one to care for. I would suggest asking the husband to watch your son for a few hours periodically, so you can catch up on your sleep... you need to rest now as much as possible. Also, I would give him a deadline on the bathroom/water situation. HE may be content living that way, but I suspect YOU are the one who will be providing most of the infant care and water is essential. How are you going to wash diapers without water?? Also, are you planning on living and raising your family in Guatemala, or are you eventually planning on returning to Canada? Just curious... where in Guate are you living?

i am sorry you're not happy... look at positive things, you're happily married and have a wonderful child who soon will learn to walk and run so he will be tired and will sleep! sometimes real life is very far from our ideal life, i think we must always try to find good things! a big huge