having a bad day

Canada
February 20, 2007 1:04pm CST
i'm finding myself losing patience lately with my 3 year old. i'm so tired of not having a break and i think it's wearing me down. everything she does seems to annoy me. i do i deal with this and get over it before i blow up on her.
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@DRoddy77 (1780)
• United States
20 Feb 07
LOL, Maybe this will make you feel better. I have a 3 year old AND two 2 year olds! Now talk about never getting a break!
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• Canada
20 Feb 07
how do you stay sane? i used to have so much patience but lately i hate to say this but i can't stand her right now. seems like everything makes me mad. i just sent her for a nap so i could get a break, she usually doesn't nap anymore but i didn't want to yell at her so i though a nap would be better.
@LadyLeene (584)
• United States
20 Feb 07
Even Mommies need breaks sometimes. If you can find someone to watch her for a little while, maybe you should take a day or two to yourself. There's no reason to feel guilty if you need a day off now and then to stay sane; it is not like you are sending her packing or anything. Maybe she can stay with a friend or a grandparent...?
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@starbug (14)
• United States
20 Feb 07
it's like the terrible two's. it is her age.if you have family who may help. watch her even for just an hour or so, so you can relax in the tub. go out. just take alittle time to take a breather.she knows you are annoyed and it will make the circumstance alot worst. because children senses when you are irritated and such. and this is not her faault you feel this way.you are taking your frustrations and anger out on her.maybe seek professional help for yourself.
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@sizzle3000 (3040)
• United States
20 Feb 07
If you are married tell your husband you need a break. My mom was very helpfull when I needed some time to myself. Family members are a great support system if you have them. I also had a frind that lived on the same block as me would sit with my daughter for a few hours. I am very luck or blesses which ever way you want to look at it that had a support system. If one person was not available to help me out another person was. My cousin and I helped each other since our kids were only two years apart in age. Good luck
@Michele21 (3095)
• United States
20 Feb 07
Do you go to church? Maybe you could try to find one in your area, I know some of the ones here have playgroups...it isn't complete freedom but it would be nice to get out and talk to other moms sometimes. Or try and make friends there with other moms that have kids and ya'll can trade off watching eachothers kids every now and then.
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@rusty2rusty (6767)
• Defiance, Ohio
20 Feb 07
You do sound like you need a break. Try finding someone to watch her.. Even if it is for an hour to calm your nerves. If you can't do that. Try and set up a play date with other kids in the neighborhood to give you a break. You have access to a computer, so try to see if you can find a mommys group. Where you can go with other moms who has kids around your childs age. You will be able to meet more people that way. I suggest counting to ten before you blow up or yell at your daughter. Remember she is only three. Do you want to teach her that blowing up and yelling at every little thing just because you are mad is okay? I suspect not. I know it is hard to do. As I have three kids. Three years old is a tough age. Even for the three year old. I also suggest finding a pre-school to get her into. If it is to late for this year. Sign her up for next year. You will apprecaite the few hours you get each day. Remember she didn't ask to be born. So try and not take out your frustrations on her.
• Canada
20 Feb 07
Can ou leave her with a neighbour, a sibling, one of your parents, etc. while you go get a cup of coffee, now and then?
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@Rahleah (187)
• United States
20 Feb 07
You know what I found really helps? I you have friends with children at different developmental ages than yours, it is great to swap kids for a few hours now and then. I know, it's not as great as being child-less for a few hours, but what it really does is highlight the differences in developmental stages, and it can really soften our own attitudes toward the stage our kids are in and make us more tolerant and appreciative. It helps us remember how quickly the tough stages will pass, and helps us remember to cherish each stage for what it has to offer. When you take your friend's fussy infant for a while, and then you get your 3 year old back, she will seem sooooo grown up to you. And when you take a friend's 5 year old for a while (especially one that has started kindergarten or first grade) you will relish getting your little "baby" back, because a 5 year old can seem so old nowadays. I know it's not much, but it's a little trick that does help. Hang in there. When all else fails, tell her, "Mommy needs a time out! Mommy is about to lose her temper, and that's not nice at all." She may find it funny. Put yourself in the corner and tell her to "watch you" and not let you out until the timer goes off and you can be a nice, friendly girl again. It's not a bad idea to show her that even mommies have a hard time keeping control of their feelings sometimes, but we all have to try to act like someone that other people want to be around.
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@malsun (1528)
• United States
20 Feb 07
i am sorry you are feeling this way. Why dont you leave her with someone you trust - your spouse, parents, inlaws, best friend. and go take a long appointment at a spa or just take off with a friend to a movie. you too need to unwind and get some time for yourself. a 3 year old can be a handful... hope you feel better soon.
20 Feb 07
It can be so hard sometimes and with the stress of her father and no doubt a million other things it can all get on top of you. I think you need to get yourself round to your mothers house and do alot of swearing and stuff when your daughter is not in room and just let off all your steam. you need to get that rage out of you before your daughter gets the brunt of it. thats what works for me.
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@steney (1418)
• Philippines
20 Feb 07
I know how it feels. I've been through the horrible three stage and I'm lucky to survive! :D I won't tell you what to do to change your situation, but what I do like to tell you is that you will never pass this stage again so enjoy your three year old no matter how she gets into your nerves. Try to laugh it out and realize how adorable your child is. It's hard being a kid. Try putting yourself in her shoes sometimes :)
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@mansha (6301)
• India
20 Feb 07
Call it a day and ask someoneelse to watch her for a while, I am so tired all the time with my eight month old, she has started clinging to me and does not want to go anyone else's lap. Not even her father's -Doctor says she is getting seprtation and stranger's anxiety now. Developing her social instincts now. If you are irritable just call a bay sitter for an hour get out of the house take a walk or do anything. No use taking your anger and frustration out on your child. even few momnts in hot bath tub will also help you. for me its a trip to beauty parlour for a facial- I say I am worth it and go off leaving her with her father. It really helps to pamper yourself always. try it may be you will feel nice. call anyone -by anyone I mean anyone and just take some time out for yourself.
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