To whom are you closer???your mom or your dad??

@gigisexy (220)
Philippines
February 21, 2007 7:11am CST
I remember when i was little that i used to be w/ my dad all the time probably bcoz i was his only daughter out of 4 boys..i travel w/ him in all the places he use to go coz it was part of his job to be destined in some places as assignment.Roughly saying i was all the time w/ him that made me very close to him..Untill one day i lost him and that was the beginning that i have to stay w/ mom..Mom was strick and i can't even confide my most secret so we have distance and even though i do love my mom i still can never compare the closeness i have w/ my Dad..How about you????
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• India
21 Feb 07
as a kid i was more attached to my father than to anybody else. i can never forget the pain and agony that i went through when my father left us and got separated. it changed my life...then i got more closer to my mom. i couldn't see tears in her eyes when my father went away. i still am close to her and always will be.
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@abednego7 (1060)
• Philippines
21 Feb 07
This story makes my eyes watery, my dad abandoned me since I was born. So I've got no choice but to be with my mom alone which ironically I'm not close enough as other may perceive of what closeness means. Still now I'm wondering what it would be like having a father at my side. Sometimes I just ignore that longing for him since I've got a feeling he doesn't want to know me either. Now I have my own children and I promise to be there by their side and guide them through out their life. I never want them to experience what I've been through.
@gigisexy (220)
• Philippines
21 Feb 07
In am sure the way you are.. you gonna be a good father to your kids ..you are great my friend..thanks for sharing !!!
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• India
21 Feb 07
I m close to both of my mom and my dad..but i m much closer to my mom i can share my feeling with her...she is best friend of mine
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@gigisexy (220)
• Philippines
21 Feb 07
Good for you ...i am happy knowing you are close to both of them ..i know what you mean ur mom is like your best friend..thanks for sharing .
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• United States
21 Feb 07
I was closer to my mother growing up. I was not close to my father at all. My father was never there for us emotionally when we were young. As we grew older he was hardly around at all and she had to pretty much raise us on her own. They ended up getting divorce and I rarely saw him after that.
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@gigisexy (220)
• Philippines
21 Feb 07
Sad but don't worry everything has it's purpose..you are blessed w/ a good mom..thanks for sharing..
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@atrocious (209)
• Nepal
21 Feb 07
I am closer to my mom. My mom was the person who I always talked with when I have problems or when I have something to tell. I have never been that close with my dad. I talk with my dad rarely. My dad does not care that much about me and I think that he doesn't even like talking to me. But my mom is a completely different person. She is pretty cool and I like talking with her. So I am closer to my mother.
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• United States
21 Feb 07
When I was younger, I was closer with my dad- I was the youngest of three and the only girl. But as I got older, I became really close with my mom too, and she was my maid of honor at my wedding- now I feel equally close to both of them and feel very lucky to have the parents I do- I just hope that one day I will be just as close with my children.
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• United States
21 Feb 07
I am closer to my mother. My father was never around since I was born. We never developed a close relationship.
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• United States
21 Feb 07
I was definitely closer to my dad. He was truly my best friend. Now that he is deceased, I'm trying to form a better bond with my mother, but I don't think I'm ever going to be as close to her as I was to him.
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@lullabell (436)
• United States
21 Feb 07
Definatly my mom. she was often both my mom and dad. I remember even making her fathers day cards. My dad drinks alot and we didn't see him much. Still today we don't see him much and we are all grown and out on our own. too bad for him and other alcholics. they tend to trade families in for a drink.
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@invasion (20)
• Greece
21 Feb 07
I think i am much closer to my mom.. i talk to her more and stuff... i think the reason is that sometimes i can find my dad to be a bit irritating..
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21 Feb 07
mmm.....ma mum definately!!! i bond with her more....she understands me more...!! but she is a bit strict sometimes....and when she being strict....i go and butter-up my dad....and get my way from him lol!! so in a way....i love both of them!! my dad pamperz me....and my mom well....just bes a mum...!! ^_^
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• India
21 Feb 07
I am closer to my MOM. bcoz my father is in army, most of the time i and my younger brother spend our time with our mom. only during the week ends we get time to have dinner and talk to my father. so its my MOM close to me............
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@gigarange (1165)
• United States
21 Feb 07
I was closer to my dad. I have 2 brothers and I am the only girl so, I was the daddy's girl. LOL. I am also close to my mother and I became closer to her when my dad passed away.
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@shywolf (4522)
• United States
21 Feb 07
This is a tough question for me, because I value my father so highly and think that I could not have asked for a better father in the entire world. But I don't feel close to him in the sense that we don't hang out and do things togther, other than talk computer stuff, really, because he's the one in the family who is the most into technology. My mother and I are into some of the same things, so we go to theatre events together, and to musical events. But I also don't share deep things about my life and emotions with her. She's just not the type that I would feel able to do that with, she's too often spouting negative thoughts and doesn't have positive things to say in reply to anything where you're feeling down, so she's just not one to to go with problems and concerns. I love her dearly, though, and I do feel 'closer' to her simply because I spend more time with her. But my father is just the most amazing guy in the world. I just don't have that same bond with him, I guess.
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• United States
21 Feb 07
I love my mom, but I'm a daddy's girl. I got close to my dad when he stopped working out of town all the time. Yes my mom is cool too now, but growing up with her I couldn't breathe. She was always on my case about something. My dad always tried to push me in the right direction too. I'm closer to him because he will actually listen to me more than my mom.
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• Sweden
21 Feb 07
It's hard to say because I'm close to them in different ways. Mom is whom I find it easiest to talk to, while dad is the one who probably understands me better. I think father knows more about me but mother is the person I talk to the most. I'm pretty close to both of them.
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@weemam (13377)
21 Feb 07
I don't know about the closer bit but I used to tell Mum more of my secrets than Dad , they are 89 and 88 years old now and both have Alzheimer's and I am with them all the time I can honestly say I am just so close to both now as every day is so precious xx
• India
21 Feb 07
Dad and Mom are two sides of one coin, one can't differentiate them. We should love both. Anyway nice post. Keep going.
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• India
21 Feb 07
well i share everything wid my mom and dad,,,no secrets,,,,,,,nothing as till date they are the one deciding about what i need n wht i dont...both are my best frens on whom i can rely and discuss nything and everything...If i wud have to be single my whole life..i wont mind doin it.
@muharad (15)
• Malaysia
21 Feb 07
Mom...you know why? Since I was born, most of my mom's time spent on me until i got married. Then, my mom's place is taken over by my sweet and sincere wife. Anyhow, I won't forget what my mom have done to me. That's why I always give her visit or talk to her over the phone.