does violence at home affect a childs growth??!!

February 21, 2007 8:53am CST
i just read a survey..where kids whose parents fight or drink and argue....have scars that last a whole lifetime! these kids were more likely to get into gangs or drugs than kids with happy homes!! do you spent quality time with your kids??
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@yanjiaren (9050)
21 Feb 07
i am only a part time mum..as we have joint custody of our son with my ex..but he has a lot of love and four older half brothers four cousins..his dad..my mum and dad and me..so he is not left alone to fester in bad surroundings or mix in bad company as such..we try our best to instill good feelings and morals in him while still letting him have fun and express himself..it is important kids are given their self respect and worth.,.then they can love themselves enough not to go down the self destructive path..so may God help us all..
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@Justme2007 (1848)
• United States
21 Feb 07
Yes it sometimes affects the child where they act out and sometimes they learn that they don't want to live the same way as their parents. Sometimes you have children who come from happy homes and they act out and join gangs.
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@betty21 (45)
23 Feb 07
yeh i does totally!!! it practically ruins the kid...and leaves deep mental damage!! the child never learns to trust again in most of the cases!!! i had a frend in school who went through such a situation....he need conselling almost every week!! it was terrible to even look at him!! i wish parents would realize wat they are doin to their kids and stop themself!!!
• Philippines
22 Feb 07
Quality time with my daugthers are very important. I make sure that if i have no work i have to take care of my own children. My husband and i makes sure that we will spend quality time with each our daugthers. We make sure that we dont quarrel infront of our daugthers. Maybe children will not be affected physically on having violence in the family but instead it woulf greatly affect them pshologically.
@sweetlady10 (3617)
• United States
21 Feb 07
It really does affect child. Children are very sensitive, any thing that suround them can affect them for life time. Specially it's their parents that surely it will affect more. Children always follow elder people's act, so fighting or drink and argrue can make a very strong influence in children's mind.
21 Feb 07
yes it totally does!! and isnt it sad..when people bring such lovely kids into the world only to shove them in the dark later o in their lives??!! they dont realize how terrible they have made the poor kids childhood....the effects of which will remain with him/her through out his life!!!
@raijin (10373)
• Philippines
21 Feb 07
I does tend for a child to suffer emotional/mental imbalance, they do copy what they see on adults. So I guess parents shouldn't let their kids witness or even hear whatever misunderstandings the parents have, theirs a great tendency that kids would bring it up when they grow up. Prents should take more responsibility on their children, they should always guide them in whatever aspects of their youthful life.
@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
21 Feb 07
This is why people who claim they are staying with an abusive spouse "for the kids" drive me so insane. It's far better for kids to deal with divorce than to grow up in an abusive situation, even if they're not personally being abused. I'm lucky to have a wonderful spouse, but if I were in a situation like this, I would want to get out for the sake of my child, as well as for myself. No child should have to grow up with parents fighting all the time or with violence in the home. It might not be easy to get out of the situation, but it's definitely worth it in the long run.
@sripriya (450)
• United States
21 Feb 07
Well!Violence at home certainly does affect kids!Kids are like clay waiting to be moulded!Whatever they see and do when they are young remains evergreen in their minds for years to come!and yes!i do spend quality time with my kids!Spending time with kids goes a long way in making them into a confident individual!