not sure i can get over this one !!!!

United States
February 21, 2007 9:00am CST
My son and his wife are in their early 20's. Last week she decided she wasnt happy anymore and wanted to go out with my daughter and her boyfriend. My son was fine with that, he stayed home with the children. My daughter in law came home at 5am, acting as if that was a normal time to come home!!! My son had woke up at 1am and called her, she said she was on her way, she said the same thing at 2am, 2:30 and 4am. This caused a major problem as my son has to go to work and was up all night waiting for her, she by the way doesnt have to work. To make a long story short she went out again the next night and didnt come home until 10am. While she and my son were talking she got a phone call from a friend of my daughters boyfriend just making sure she was alright. Yeah right!!! She proceeds to tell my son that she loves him but she is not in love with him, which is a crock!!! So that night she leaves, packs all of her things and leaves my son and the kids! After the weekend was over she comes to get the kids and goes to her mothers about 60 miles away. She called my son yesterday and wanted to come home. He says he misses the kids and wants his family back so he went and got her. She and I had a few words the second night she went out where I told her to grow up, no one is happy all the time but happiness is what you make it!!! I hope it works out for them I want them both to be happy. I just cant help thinking that she came home because her mom didnt want her and thekids there. I dont know if I can get back to the very close relationship that she and I had. She hurt us all by leaving but more importantly she hurt my son and grandchildren. How do I get over this? This has also caused a rift between my son and daughter even though she says that she tried to get my daughter in law to go home at 11:15 the first night. So I am in the middle of those 2. What do I do?
1 response
@jillbeth (2711)
• United States
21 Feb 07
Get out of the middle and let them work it out for themselves! I can understand your disappointment in your daughter-in-law, but maybe she just didn't appreciate what she had until she didn't have it any more! If you had a close relationship with her, let her know how much she hurt you but give her a second chance. She may have learned a lesson, maybe not, but if you turn away from her now you will miss your chance to offer her some guidance. I agree, being "unhappy" is not a good reason to wreck a marriage and a family. People who are unhappy in marriage will be unhappy outside of the marriage, too. If your son is willing to take her back, try to be supportive of him.
• United States
21 Feb 07
Thank you for the response. You have made some good points. Unfortunately I was thrown into the middle of this by both of them coming to me talking about their problems. I have told my son that I think he is doing the right thing by taking her back and trying to make it work. And I hve told him that no matter what I will be there for him.
• United States
21 Feb 07
Thank you for the response. You have made some good points. Unfortunately I was thrown into the middle of this by both of them coming to me talking about their problems. I have told my son that I think he is doing the right thing by taking her back and trying to make it work. And I hve told him that no matter what I will be there for him.